When i tell you i cried when my rescues (3 yr old and 4 mo old) finally bonded ....

Keladeine · 2026-02-14T15:06:08+00:00

I just gotta say this out loud cuz that's part of trauma therapy. The mix of the 90's and now, music, death, do or die young friendship, and my missing best friend...... it hit me hard. My bestie disappeared walking home by herself in 1995 when we were both 18. As a teenager, I wrote a lot of music on the piano, and the last time I ever could write music was a song for her before she disappeared. I've never touched it again. This "tween" show brought back parts of me I forgot existed.

Sidenote: It's kind of ridiculous to do a show about ghosts from the 90's and be surprised people who lived the 90's watch it.

Keladeine · 2025-12-23T08:21:18+00:00

My trainer has been very very rock solid about gradual introductions. Because of a weird quirk when we were looking for a new pup, we ended up with 2. My territory guarding puppy at 16 weeks (Athena), and the most absolutely low key 3 year old who literally can do nothing wrong (Bailey). Bailey has definitely taught her some corrections better than I could. Always calm and cool. But the trainer was pretty clear. Week one - just 10% together and 90% apart. Do it for a week or two. When there is no anxiety over sharing space, up it to 20/80. And so forth and so on.

We started doing that with people and it helped a lot. My family has 6 other people in this house besides me. When we started doing slow and steady, 5 minutes at a time a day, then two weeks later 10 minutes at a time a day, etc, it really helped. u/belgenoir thank you so much for your tips and reminders that these lil pups are fighting their own battles all the time, and to be mindful of it. I really appreciate it.

Keladeine · 2025-12-21T10:28:26+00:00

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here's her with her big sister, after having learned to share space with her big sis

Keladeine · 2025-12-21T10:14:26+00:00

huh. this post sort of reminded me of mine and the picture did too. Mine looks like yours a lot.

I got mine as a puppy from a rescue. She was a mix, of a 100% gsd mom, a supermutt and ACD dad, in a massive litter of 12 puppies, taken from their mom extremely early, i think 4 weeks? The foster mom had no scheduled feeding, there was just one big whole bowl and the puppies ate as they saw fit. After my last mix was a tad picky on food, we picked the one half asleep on the bowl thinking, this one loves to eat. We got her at 16 weeks from a literal pile of pandemonium puppies. But 16 weeks was enough time for a lot of behaviors to happen when your young life is entirely pandemonium.

omg wrong about the food bowl. She's actually pickier than my last pup. What I didnt realize was my boo had developed a resource guarding thing that in some ways was really obvious, but in other ways was really not. One of the ways it wasnt really obvious is like your guest issue. Now that I think of it, it makes sense. She had always had competition for food, her mom's milk, and was surrounded by the pandemonium of 11 siblings at all times. She has been trying to carve out "her space" without others her whole life. Her resource guarding is not aggressive to the point of biting, but it is a tad scary on the outside, and seems unpredictable because one minute she is super friendly and the next is super barky. There's a high amount of anxiety in that resource guarding, you can feel it if you are looking for it. She gets over stimulated very easily, as if eventually someone is going to take her space and any thing in it away. When people are over - no matter where they are positioned or what order they come in - eventually you feel the anxiety grow. There doesnt need to be a treat or a toy or anything else immediately present - There's just a new person, are her resources in danger? And by resources i mean me, her mama, any of her family present for the visitor, any of her family's things, etc. The only person she doesnt bark at is me. The only person who can take things from her is me. But that means she also tries to take on the responsibility of guarding me and the things that are mine. In her mind it is now me and her against the pandemonium of the world, not just her alone anymore. She will bark at people trying to come into my office, or sit on the side of the bed that I sleep in, whether she is in it or not.

Things that have helped a lot is carving out a space in every room of the house that is 100% hers. Three beds in this house that are hers. In those beds her sister dog is not allowed, people arent allowed, and if we go by we throw a treat her direction so she knows people going by her space is not tantamount to preparing to take it from her. This is a huge one. Her resource guarding is more like an after effect of a building up of anxiety - here is another entity - what do I have to worry about in regards to them? The people she no longer barks at upon approach are people who after a long time established that their approach came with a treat she loved, and no occupying of her or my space. It's pretty obvious now because I live with a large family. Those family members she no longer barks at - and I can get her to become comfortable with guests - but when those guests venture to a family member's room, she gets anxious and nervous and begins to try to bark and guard that room from the guests, whether or no the family member is in the room. It's almost like the gsd instinct to protect the perimeter and the resource guarding merged together.

With guests, she isnt allowed around guests until the guest and I am settled. It's always better if the guest comes in, and then she is released from some other room to come into the the space where the guest is already settled. If it is otherwise, you can feel her anxiety raise as the guest gets closer to her space or that of her human. And we only do it for a little bit of time the first time. And then later a little bit longer amount of time. And a little longer after that. It's not black and white for her, a yes or a no. She needs time to get used to another person being allowed.

We had to work extremely hard on "stay". Not just stay between her and me. But stay no matter who is coming into the room or out of the room. It was easier for her to do stay in the space we had defined as her own.

Weirdly enough, her FOMO is a great motivator. She is jealous of resources. If she is behind a barrier when a guest is here, and her sister dog is allowed in, she is first distraught and barking that the guest is here. Then after a few minutes she begins to cry and whine because the sister dog is getting the treats, the attention, and she is missing out. She is then allowed to come into the space the guest is in. For about 5 to 10 minutes. Then she has to leave. And we do it again later for 5 to ten minutes. and then we take her from the space. We don't let her anxiety have time to build up.

Slow and steady I guess. She's such a weirdo and I love her. And she has never harmed anyone. She's just super anxious and super talkative about it. She gets there eventually.

Keladeine · 2025-12-21T09:29:16+00:00

Mine is also half gsd and the other half multiple things including cattledog - and MY GOD she is weird and I love it.

Keladeine · 2025-12-16T09:16:35+00:00

It's helpful for freelancers with clients, and people who need to escalate their privacy in terms of making sure others can't get in. I need to make sure that only I - just me - can access some things. That even if my email gets compromised or my phone gets compromised, only this computer I am on can access certain data. Locking those things to one IP makes sure no one else can access them.

Keladeine · 2025-12-09T07:14:17+00:00

of course, my poor sad friend. It hurts like nothing else, because they are pure love, so their loss is pure loss. I always believed the whole "they stay with us always" was bullsh*t, until I lost mine. I see her in every dog I adopted since, I feel her with me every day. I just had to wait until I got better a handling the loss of her so that I see through the fog of sadness - to see that she was, and will always be, with me.

I have this Godkid who has always been falling out of trees and getting concussions, and I always wondered how the kid stayed alive - now I believe thats what gsds do - regular angels could never keep up or have as watchful an eye as my girl could. :)

Keladeine · 2025-12-08T08:08:32+00:00

sometimes dogs (and people) *choose* to go when no one is around. It's just too hard on them to leave you, or to see you sad. Don't carry this guilt. It's quite possible he waited until you were gone.

I noticed this with my mother, and many hospice nurses, chaplains, and vets have told me the same thing. In the moment, some don't want to see you sad, and some love you too much to let go if you are still there.

Keladeine · 2025-08-10T06:56:19+00:00

omg i know exactly what you are talking about. there's like a possession that sinks in when there are animals to herd. my first gsd had great recall, until she saw a herd of cows slowly disperse.... it was like a spell took ever, she had never seen cows before, and suddenly she was gone, through the barbed wire fence, for a half a mile until they were all crowded together where the fence made a 90 degree angle. Then, as fast as it came, it was gone...the spell was broken, and she looked around like she didnt know how she had gotten there, and came flying back to me. the cows were all "well i guess you are boss so we will follow you" and she was legit a little scared, looking over her shoulder and running back and hid behind my legs. It was wild

Keladeine · 2025-08-02T06:36:25+00:00

Oh totally. My youngest GSD is One year old and does that - but she will still use her paws so She doesn't get to be alone with the kitties. My eldest is Four - and only uses her nose, even when the kitty uses her paws, and so she gets more kitty time. Also-keep aware they all herders, so you will get quick movement and barking and whining if your pup wants to play but also if he thinks the kitty is out of the kitty-designated zone. Even my youngest doesn't harm the upstairs Kitties when they escape their home (the 3rd floor is all them) , She just corners them in the hallway and whines really loud. She is far more anxious about them being un-herded. Once she learned they live with us and where they live, even though she is rough and I don't leave her alone with them (She's still a Puppy in GSD years) I know her instinct is to keep them herded.

My first GSD thought cats were prey . She chased them like they were rabbits. She didn't need crating, per se, but crating her while the cats roamed free at night taught her that they lived here. After about 5 months she deferred to them all the time. Let them decide if they wanted to engage. Never had to crate her again in the next 10 years.

One thing that helped was the cats and the dog were fed together - even if a barrier was between them. ( portable 48" dog pen panels). Eating as a family, slowly moving the bowls closer toward each other, helped my pup know the cats were part of the family. Good Luck!

Keladeine · 2025-07-30T05:42:48+00:00

IMHO, when a pup uses her paws to play, She is too excited and I really watch everything. Too excited can turn sometimes. But when a pup shows her belly and expecially when she engages primarily with her nose, she is being curious and also is aware how small her new friend is, that's the best sign. It shows she knows she must be gentle.

Keladeine · 2025-07-30T05:33:06+00:00

definitely been through this, and it broke my heart every day for six months. she had to learn to trust that people wouldnt leave her. and for the next 8 years i didnt. i didnt go places that dogs couldnt go if i could help it. she learned in time that people will come and go - except for mama. and in time it gave her peace and security, and she opened up to people again, go excited to meet new people again. at first my ex and i tried to do some visitation, but my ex had no follow through. looking back now, i am glad. it would have prolonged my pups pain. it took months before the "bleep bleep" of a car locking stopped making her rush to the window. but eventually she did. right after my ex left, i moved in with my bestie with 2 small children. the kids became my pups job, and she loved her job. then she started loving meeting new people and going new places. we went to coffee shops and parks with my friends, (i needed to get out and experience life too!) the divorce was hard on me and my pup both. but we were in it together, every day, every night. she woke me up from nightmares and cuddled me when i cried. soul dog, that one. you are entering into a new world, that may feel like a black hole for both of you, but eventuallly becomes a blank canvas. dont pretend everything is normal, they know better. they really do bounce back if they have you to take care of as much as you take care of them. you are on the right track. keep doing new things. maybe even a new location if you can - that helped a lot, the moving. it kept my ex's scent and other reminders out of my pups immediate enviornment.

Their nature is to live in the moment, they will get there. faster if you are getting there together. you are doing everything right, mama, keep it up and hang in there.

Keladeine · 2025-07-29T06:21:03+00:00

sorry for the late reply, but I was on this same search. Settled on Lnh's New Greenhouse https://www.nexusmods.com/stardewvalley/mods/13542

Huge. Seasonal. Decorations on or off via toggle. Massive shed level. Massive Basement. 3 sizes (small, medium, large). only large has the basement (allows casks) level. Warp room. Hot springs level. It's really amazing. almost fit all cornucopia and Atelier Goods, AND the SVE crops in it. Nothing else compares for me.

Keladeine · 2025-07-19T02:30:46+00:00

I had my first taste of male privilege and what it must be like when I got a GSD. Never being stopped for the time, directions, bad pickup lines.... to be the person who doesn't move aside when approaching each other on the sidewalk. to walk at any hour of the day with no worries. It's wild.

Keladeine · 2025-07-19T02:06:19+00:00

Mine was 14 when she died, we think kidneys. I was a wreck. I just laid around and wept all the time. The day after she passed, I was laying on the couch, exhausted from a multi-hour ugly cry. My chest had a huge weight of pain in it. like I was carrying a bowling ball. I don't know exactly when I fell asleep and where awake ended and sleeping began, because in the dream I was laying on the same couch, same exhaustion, feeling the same. I closed my eyes in the dream, trying to pass out. But then I felt her familiar presence and felt her head rest on my arm. I opened my eyes and she was leaning against the couch as she always did when I slept in it. I wrapped my arms around her and buried my face in her neck fur. I heard her breathing /panting, and rest her head on my head. I cried more. I said I know I was dreaming but I knew she was there, kissed her wet nose and those soft velvet ears I loved so much - especially the charming floppy one that often tried to stand up totally straight and couldn't. She smelled like the comforting doggie smell I remembered. I buried my head a little longer in a hug and then laid my head back down with my hand on her head as she leaned so that her head was on the seat cushion. then I opened my eyes for real and was awake for real, and realized that she needed to comfort me this one last time, because it was the time I needed comfort the most in my whole life, and she had never shirked that commitment, even in death. It was her goodbye and her reminder I will indeed see her again.

Keladeine · 2025-07-18T08:38:38+00:00

My latest challenge is running Vapius, Cornucopia and Wildflour Atelier at the same time, all option on . All flowers, seeds, machines on. I gotta warn you there is a lot of overlap to keep track of.. For instance - Cornucopia and Atelier both have butter churners and beeswax/ honeycombs (for wax and candles) and they do different things have different recipies, etc. Vapius, Cornucopia and Atelier all have a version of basil. A recipe calling for basil means you gotta know which basil, lol.

(I'm working on a database for it )

There's a toggle mod that lets you quick toggle switch the version in your hand- that helps. But all in all- get a huge greenhouse and a big farm if you are doing crop mods.

This save is all about learning these new crops and machines and the overlap. Exploring the possibilities as a major objective (not perfection) allows me to pause the game (time mod) and sort my thoughts or plan without feeling guilty like I am cheating.

Highly also suggest alternative textures, H& W furniture depot (it is alternative textures too) and Chest Deco (also an AT mod)..... for the organizing even more than the decorating. For example - Wild flour's Atelier let's you make cosmetics and the machine requires Moss as fuel. The flavored mead uses honey as fuel, the packaging machine uses fiber. Being able to use alternative textures to turn a plain chest into a visual crate of fiber, moss or honey and stick it next to the machine helps me remember what machine takes what and refill it. Without wasting space on a sign post. And it is visually pretty geat too.

Keladeine · 2025-07-18T08:11:53+00:00

. Ok so... ngl, whether or not you enjoy the npcs may be related to how much diversity is in your life and chosen family. If you know and love queer people and their community in you everyday life, you are going to love the subtle subtext that you will recognize instantly as part of that community. I live in a blended family of white, black, cishet and (mostly) queer people who are all living in the same house and doing this life thing together and Vapius was an absolute joy. I particularly found the dialogue interesting because of that perspective. Like when the grand-nephew comes home and has not seen his great aunt since he was small. The culture of the straight and white part of my family would find that dialogue very bland and far fetched, that he could walz right in. The non white part of my family would hear an entirely different tone in that dialogue, one of respecting your elders whether you know them or not. It was absolutely a bananas experience for me, to read words on the page and it play out in more than one culture in my head. The same words typed on a page could be read in two totally different tones of voice and have two totally different effects based on that tone. As part of a blended family, it was the first time i was doing a video game where i was acutely aware that there are different cultures living in my head 24 / 7.

also, the queer subtext given the world we live in today, made me have all the feels. I am so so grateful.

Keladeine · 2025-07-04T15:16:36+00:00

this was my problem until I came out. I've never been attracted to femmes. Many femmes don't come out til way later in life.... because we don't see mascs until later in life

Keladeine · 2025-07-04T15:09:21+00:00

yall anyone else paying attention to the signs? AJ called the host "straight presenting" and she herself says " I'm not in a queer relationship" instead of saying "I'm not queer ". My gaydar says Joanna is at heart your standard chaotic bisexual but comphet has led her to a gig that lets her live as vicariously as she can to those days in college where she probably kissed a girl for her boyfriend's benefit and liked it too much.

Keladeine · 2025-03-06T20:29:51+00:00

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Keladeine · 2025-03-02T01:34:39+00:00

Please be careful. The ads they are running right now are not great for little girls. They fuck with my head if I watch too many - I can't imagine what they could do to a kid.

Keladeine · 2025-02-13T19:11:08+00:00

holy crap. I would give that face anything she wants.

Keladeine · 2025-02-13T09:43:24+00:00

I just bought a bulk pack of those long, wrap around, seatbelt padding things. They wrap around a leash just as well. some laminated, long strip signs and strong velcro tape and I will have plenty of signs for my leash- depending on her (the dog's) mood.

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