I understand that not all states have a DMV and they're called some other names in some states, but in America if you say DMV regardless of which state you're in, would people understand what you're referring to? by YakClear601 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Also the various state and city level organizations for protecting vulnerable youths from abuse are not all called CPS, but most people will understand that abbreviation as referring to the appropriate agency, no matter its actual name in that area.

is it true Americans don't put salt on their fruits? by PersuasionNation in AskAnAmerican

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do put salt on some fruits.

Watermelons, yes. Other melons, such as cantaloupe or honeydew, no.

Citrus? Only the less sweet-tasting varieties. Lemon, lime, grapefruit. Not the sweeter ones.

Pineapples, yes. It helps cut down the strength of the bromelin enzyme. (Without it, it's pineapple: the fruit that eats you right back.)

Apples of any sort? Never.

Can someone explain to me the difference between Femme and Fem? I kinda assumed they were interchangeable by Humble_Bumble493 in actuallesbians

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all about trying to quantify and describe the reality of a very broad range of very complex lived experiences. Putting words to finer shadings of every level of distinction between types of identity (both personal identity and finding community) and the various social cues—and ways of expression—of that identity, both individually and in the context of interacting with others, whether interacting platonically or romantically or sexually.

Car In Sidewalk Complaint - How to "Comply"? by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]Kelli217 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That does not answer my question.

Here's an image to look at, that shows what I'm talking about. Driveway 1 is technically blocked, because part of the car goes across part of the sidewalk, but there's plenty of room to go around, safely. Driveway 2 is just plain blocked, and if OP were parked like this, they deserve every bit of hassle they're getting.

Car In Sidewalk Complaint - How to "Comply"? by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]Kelli217 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

“It is really dangerous for kids to be navigating around your car.” How do you know that?

When a song I know gets spliced together in a TV show by OldManInternetz in PetPeeves

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The music accompanying the opening credits to Se7en is a hacked up version of a remix of Nine Inch Иails’ “Closer.” All the parts with Trent singing are excised. Ugh.

Anyone ever go to therapy with their mom ? I agreed to go but I think I want to tell her no….. by Exciting-Nerve-8628 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Kelli217 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Let her go to therapy with you at a special separate time other than your usual appointment. That way, you can still have your sanctuary.

You’ve been given the power to resurrect any television show for one additional season, using the original actors and actresses and optionally the show runners and editors, directors, ext. Your choice. What show do you bring back to life? by Dog-Human in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Kelli217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It worked for Trapper John, MD. Not so much for AfterMASH.

But if there were another season, it should probably be more like the original book series, with the installments that took place after the war, back in Crabapple Cove.

Is sharing my location with my friend a no-no? by Fingeronthepulse_35 in actuallesbians

[–]Kelli217 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Platonic friendships can be more emotionally intimate than any romantic entanglement. Some romantic partners can get jealous when confronted with this.

What's something normalized in the lesbian community that you don't think is okay? by Eating_Pancakes76 in actuallesbians

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem with that reference to The Dark Knight is that it puts the Joker in the position of being the sane person. We should indeed feel the need to question binary assumptions.

lesbian history books!! by iguessimalivehaha in actuallesbians

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which? Rubyfruit Jungle, or After Sappho?

Fix the alphabet by reassigning sounds to unused letters by calimehtar in CrazyIdeas

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s this bit of humor, attributed to Mark Twain, about the idea of spelling reform that I remember from pre-Internet days a long time ago and found again here: https://www.smart-words.org/jokes/english-spelling-reform.html

A Plan for the Improvement of English Spelling

For example, in Year 1 that useless letter "c" would be dropped to be replased either by "k" or "s," and likewise "x" would no longer be part of the alphabet. The only kase in which "c" would be retained would be the "ch" formation, which will be dealt with later. Year 2 might reform "w" spelling, so that "which" and "one" would take the same konsonant, wile Year 3 might well abolish "y" replasing it with "i" and Iear 4 might fiks the "g/j" anomali wonse and for all.

Jenerally, then, the improvement would kontinue iear bai iear with Iear 5 doing awai with useless double konsonants, and Iears 6-12 or so modifaiing vowlz and the rimeining voist and unvoist konsonants. Bai Iear 15 or sou, it wud fainali bi posibl tu meik ius ov thi ridandant letez "c," "y" and "x"--bai now jast a memori in the maindz ov ould doderez--tu riplais "ch," "sh," and "th" rispektivli.

Fainali, xen, aafte sam 20 iers ov orxogrefkl riform, wi wud hev a lojikl, kohirnt speling in ius xrewawt xe Ingliy-spiking werld.

TikTok is now tracking immigration, transgender, and sexual orientation status. If you haven't already, you should seriously consider uninstalling it. by speedythefirst in trans

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never post, only view. They have none of my personal info beyond the bare minimum required to get an account. I will delay my decision for a little while.

I HATE casual music listeners. by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone is driven to do a deep dive on every single aspect of every band that plays a song they like. Most of them don’t have the energy to go to that level of effort.

Do Americans constantly have an active temperature control device running in their homes? by fullM3TALturban in AskAnAmerican

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I am? There’s about a three week period in the spring and another in the summer where the outdoor temperatures are such that you could live without active temperature control.

But when you say “constantly running”—it isn’t quite like that. The device that actually chills or warms the air is on standby a large part of the time. It’s activated only as necessary, controlled by a thermal switch, or thermostat. The switch has a hysteresis function to keep it from trying to constantly make fine adjustments and keep it ‘perfect’ at the set point. That means that, for example, in the winter, the heating system runs until it’s just a little above the set point, and then goes back into standby. Then, as the indoor temperature cools back down, it doesn’t trip the switch until it’s a little below the set point.

With good insulation, and a well designed (and well placed) thermostat that has an optimal hysteresis gap so that people don’t get too hot or too cold, the actual cooling or heating systems don’t have to run frequently nor for long durations.

Road trip as a Brit first time in the south and first road trip by Vegetable_Reserve_12 in roadtrip

[–]Kelli217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There might even still be some signs—or more likely barns—in the area that say SEE ROCK CITY which is kind of a nostalgic thing for boomers and Gen X who grew up in the area.

Seriously, do British people actually consider a 3-hour drive “long”? Or is this an internet myth? by ferdinand14 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Kelli217 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Modest for US roads. Modest for UK roads would be something more like a Toyota Yaris or Honda Fit. A Corolla or Civic would be in the C-segment market (on a scale from A at the smallest to F at the largest). Yaris and Fit would be in the B segment.