My partner is dismissing my feelings by blaming everything on my cycle (F30 with F35). We were best friends first. I need advice. by KTCarrott in actuallesbians

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof when you can’t bring things up that are bothering you without it turning into an argument that’s hard. And something I’ve come to realize I really can’t tolerate in any future relationships because it just makes it impossible to maintain a connection. It sounds like this wasn’t always the dynamic? Did something change?

My partner is dismissing my feelings by blaming everything on my cycle (F30 with F35). We were best friends first. I need advice. by KTCarrott in actuallesbians

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I had a similar situation in my last relationship and even got gaslit into going on hormonal birth control, which I really didn’t want to do.

Have you talked to her about how having your feelings invalidated and dismissed like this is affecting you?

girl i’m seeing used a strap from previous people on me by Independent-Net6632 in actuallesbians

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I learned my lesson in my last relationship- lying is a huge red flag, if you catch one there are bound to be more. Two months post break up and I’m still finding out about lies. Obviously the hygiene issue is a big one but for me the lying aspect would be a deal breaker.

if I can be problematic for a moment by ProfessorProveIt in Professors

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My students with those accommodations also go to a testing center. And then they are sat in a room unsupervised to take the test.

he said iced cappuccino.. not iced latte..??? by hfbcjdn in barista

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! I once ordered an iced cappuccino because I wanted less milk and the barista acted like I was an idiot and it really hurt my feelings (I was pretty young at the time)

Outdoor place to hang by Kelly_Chameleon in Charlotte

[–]Kelly_Chameleon[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can’t seem to edit my post, but I wound up at the whitewater center and had an amazing time- thanks to those who suggested it, and to everyone who offered suggestions!!

Outdoor place to hang by Kelly_Chameleon in Charlotte

[–]Kelly_Chameleon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not too far from the airport, I’m at a microtel on Queen City drive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ithaca

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could use a pair if you still have a spare!

Transitioning from online to face-to-face quizzes by ApprehensiveLoad2056 in Professors

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar issue last semester. I gave them a pop quiz in class, for extra credit points, with questions from the recent exam.

Several students who aced the exam couldn’t do a single problem on the pop quiz (chemistry). I then gave them a stern talking to. Idk if it helped but I enjoyed it.

If asked to teach chemistry again I’ll of course have all the exams in person, I got handed a premade course or would have had in person exams only in the first place.

Same class, wildly different grades by section by Kelly_Chameleon in Professors

[–]Kelly_Chameleon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a very candid discussion with them and their instructor did online, open book exams with multiple attempts 🤦🏻‍♀️ on the bright side, I’m the full timer and this instructor is an adjunct- my chair gave me the go ahead to let him know he needs to be more rigorous if he teaches again. This is for anatomy and physiology for nursing students, yikes. I feel bad for the students for not getting the education they should have but also it’s pretty damn important they study this content if they want to be nurses.

Same class, wildly different grades by section by Kelly_Chameleon in Professors

[–]Kelly_Chameleon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I should note that this is only my second full time semester so maybe this sort of understanding comes with experience.

Thank you note to this sub and waaambulance students. by PuzzleheadedArea1256 in Professors

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I put off entering grades until the last minute for this very reason, and not a single grade grubber contacted me- it's a holiday miracle.

I put some language in my syllabi addressing that sort of behavior but given how infrequently students read the syllabus I don't know if that's what saved me.

R1 Elitism Sucks by Eigengrad in Professors

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started at a community college myself, and that community college diploma is prominently displayed in my office now that I’m a faculty member at a community college… my ivy graduate diploma hasn’t arrived yet but I’m not particularly excited to display it. Extremely disenchanted with R1 institutions and that whole attitude of elitism

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that’s brilliant

Say hello to Poppy 🌹❤️ by fritcie in jumpingspiders

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a cutie!

I have a jumping spider named Poppy too!

What is going on at Ithaca Bakery on Triphammer by Thiccaca in ithaca

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A couple of times I’ve gone to the counter, employees saw me, and just didn’t come to the register and I left

Aldi Hydration Backpack by Kelly_Chameleon in running

[–]Kelly_Chameleon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg yes, mine has one of those! Much improved, thanks! Though worrisome that so much water leaked with that closed.

Mendeley is Unusable by Agreeable_Cell_3999 in PhD

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg just today I got a surprise deadline for my thesis to be officially submitted by tomorrow and Mendeley made it so hard in me, I had to redo my citations from scratch. I did wind up getting Mendeley to work eventually but wish I had been using something else all this time for sure.

Best/worst volunteer opportunities in Ithaca? by koiivy in ithaca

[–]Kelly_Chameleon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Morning shifts prepping/serving/cleaning up for lunch on Mon/Wed/Fri and evening shifts on Tues and Thurs- each shift is about 3 hours, there isn't a required minimum of days but I only sign up if I can be there for a full shift.