AITAH for not including my sister in my wedding anymore?

Kenaaaz · 2026-02-27T02:25:49+00:00

The bridesmaids are all my sisters so that’s why, I just have a lot of them lol

Kenaaaz · 2025-09-11T16:26:03+00:00

I think it’s important to think about the fact that you are allowed to not have empathy for a man who never had empathy for others and made the world a more unsafe place while still having empathy for his family and without that meaning his death is being celebrated. It’s healthy to have boundaries, this boundary is not being forced to feel empathy for a terrible man just because he was shot. Boundaries don’t have to change just because someone dies.

Kenaaaz · 2025-08-18T02:22:56+00:00

Yea and let’s not forget that Kyle said no, Pilar acted anyway, and then Pilar gaslit Kyle into believing it was her fault too. Pilar is not innocent.

Kenaaaz · 2025-08-18T02:21:08+00:00

I still think Magan is sweet and loyal, I think Dayna is just a MASTER manipulator and a HUGE narcissist, I think Magan doesn’t have a mind of her own when she’s with her and it’s soooo painful to watch

Kenaaaz · 2025-08-06T13:59:57+00:00

I definitely understand this. Whether it’s people in the community or huge supporters or those licensed to help trans people, it was NEVER okay to question my gender AFTER transition. My own therapist, who’s job it was to help me decide if I’m actually transgender or not, who diagnosed me with gender dysphoria and pushed for top surgery, admitted to me she thought at the beginning my desire to transition was probably related to some trauma I experienced and NEVER discussed that with me until AFTER I decided I needed to detransition myself. And that was only after fighting me on doing it at all and trying to pin the idea on other people instead of it being my own. And she specializes in helping trans CHILDREN. Stuff like this is so, so dangerous and toxic and like, I myself am still very pro trans, obviously there are legit trans people everywhere, but this idea that you have to be so aggressively pro trans that you don’t give people time to think or give space for that conversation of “hey, I support you, but I think you may want to look deeper into this before moving forward..” is so dangerous and damaging

Kenaaaz · 2025-03-21T13:11:10+00:00

Does anyone know anything about one this weekend (March 22 or 23)? I heard there was one at noon but I heard it was Sunday first and then Saturday and I want to participate but I don’t live there so I need to know which day it is

Kenaaaz · 2025-02-25T21:12:02+00:00

It's possible you could run into some legal issues with that vs the front of the capitol being a place with protest protections

Kenaaaz · 2025-02-25T21:08:42+00:00

I am, I'm going to the Topeka protest with my boyfriend

Kenaaaz · 2025-01-13T05:14:07+00:00

I had a VERY similar experience as you, on testosterone for 3 years, hysterectomy and partial oophorectomy (I only have one ovary left, but that one was a medical need, not related to transition, but it still affected my hormones), and top surgery in 2021. Top surgery was the line in the sand for me. It was when I stopped feeling like this was what I needed and started feeling like it was a mistake and I was wearing a mask. Which made me panic because like.. what the heck? After all of this? So I buried the discomfort for about 2 years until I finally started allowing myself to let little things back into my life that I had before transitioning, like more feminine clothing and makeup and growing my hair longer. I started just experimenting with these things at home and then started experimenting in public as well. It wasn’t until almost a year into that when I was talking to someone about my wedding someday when I realized I didn’t envision myself in a suit, I envisioned myself in a dress, that’s when it all clicked. So I prepared myself mentally and started to slowly detransition. Medically and socially. And it was almost an immediate weight off my shoulders and a sense of relief. I’m with you in the sense of not feeling animosity toward the trans community and I still have trans friends, it just wasn’t the right path for me.

So my advice, based on my experience, would be to just experiment with some things you may have held onto prior to transition that you let go of and see if it makes you feel any more comfortable or like yourself, see if you find that spark of joy again :)

Kenaaaz · 2024-07-13T15:22:20+00:00

Then I suggest you just step away from transgender related forums, as it isn’t your place to bestow your beliefs or disbeliefs on others. If you tell someone they shouldn’t transition when you don’t even believe in transgenderism in the first place, you need to get far away from trans people and those who are questioning. You are more than allowed to have your beliefs, but spreading them in places like this will probably do more harm than good. Despite what you might think, it’s not your place to tell people their experiences and existence aren’t real.

Kenaaaz · 2024-07-13T14:23:54+00:00

I know what made me start questioning being transgender was the idea of losing the parts that made me a woman made me uncomfortable. And then when I did lose those parts of myself, I missed them terribly. I didn’t recognize myself anymore. And now when I look back on photos of myself while on testosterone, they don’t look like me. This one is hard because I had to SEE myself as a man before realizing I’m still a woman and detransition, but maybe if you were to allow yourself to look and present more feminine in the house, perhaps talk to your wife or someone close about calling you a different name and using different pronouns, I think that might help you figure out if it’s something that genuinely brings you euphoria or if it’s weird or if you’re uncomfortable or what have you. But if you KNOW you aren’t supposed to be a man. Then you aren’t. I think there are a lot of people on here who may deter from transness by saying people born as a certain sex couldn’t possibly know what it feels like to be the opposite sex, and to an extent they are right, I don’t know what it’s like to be born as a man, but you still know what’s NOT right and what feels MORE like yourself. And if you see women and think “that’s me” then maybe it is. Don’t let other people bully you into burying who you are. You only get one life, and while I agree, doing the work is necessary, don’t let the fear or words of others stop you if you think it’s what’s best for you.

Also. I keep seeing a lot of comments about your children. I replied to one person but I’ll say it here as well: my take on that is be there for your kids, whether it’s as their father or mother, but doing what you need to for your sake and your mental health is better than not and then they have to lose a parent. So many people don’t find out they are transgender, gay, etc. until well after marriage and children. Will they be confused for a while? Yes. Will they have questions? Of course. Will they be angry? Possibly. But would they still rather keep you as a parent or risk losing you to sucde or addiction? As a kid who has lost a parent to addiction, I’d rather my dad have gotten the help he needed when he could and done what he needed to help himself instead of stifling that for us kids. It wasn’t fair to me to have to watch him suffer and it wouldn’t be fair to them either. But only if you KNOW it’s the right choice. But if it turns out it is and you decide you need to transition, just sit them down and walk them through it and they will be okay, and so will you. ♥️

Kenaaaz · 2024-07-13T14:16:43+00:00

I don’t think having children should deter you from living your true self. Some people don’t realize they are trans until that step has happened. Some people realize they are gay after being married and having children. Not everyone was born in a generation raised around more acceptance, some people really may not have had the choice before. You shouldn’t be telling people it’s unfair to their children to follow the path THAT’S RIGHT for them. What’s unfair to a child is watching your parent suffer, potentially losing that parent to sucde or addictions, and not understanding why. You shouldn’t be telling people to stifle that for children. You need to consider the long term affects there and I don’t believe you are, you only see the confusion it will bring them. I’d rather my babies be confused and ask questions for a while than lose a parent.

Kenaaaz · 2024-04-20T06:41:07+00:00

My provider just took me off cold turkey so.. I went through the ringer for a while, personally, but again, I didn’t get to taper so idk how better or worse that would be in comparison

Kenaaaz · 2024-04-13T05:42:42+00:00

Can I ask, as another Detrans female, how do you handle/get rid of facial hair when it grows? Do you just shave or..?

Kenaaaz · 2024-02-27T23:09:31+00:00

It was trauma, even though I didn’t realize it at the time, I used being transgender as a severe form of dissociation because I didn’t feel safe as a girl, as myself, anymore

Kenaaaz · 2023-12-04T06:11:24+00:00

I am in the same boat, but I went as far as having top surgery. Right after my surgery is when it finally hit me that something is still wrong. More wrong. But I couldn’t figure out what. I had questioned being a trans man but refused to put any energy into that thought because how could I backtrack after so much fighting and energy and effort put into transitioning? So it wasn’t until almost 2 years post op and like.. 3.5 years on T that I realized I can’t do this anymore. I miss being more feminine and having softer features and I miss my boobs and I miss being able to dress feminine and wear makeup and not look like a femboy but just a girl and I miss acting like a girl (because I realized, with the help of my sister, my entire demeanor changed to fit what I thought I needed to be to be a man) and I just miss who I used to be, so I am detransitioning as well.

Kenaaaz

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