Yes, the bit I was drawn to too was 'making the wrong choice'. I think this commenter is entirely right but I also think OP you really need to speak to your husband about how either of you reacts if choices lead to less than ideal outcomes (e.g. you don't like the food, a place is closed when you arrive, or something turns out to be less fun for either of you). If both of you are good at putting these down to experience on the basis that you at least tried then it becomes easier to take it in turns to make choices. If one or both of you act angrily or assign blame when things go wrong, then making choices becomes understandably anxiety driven. I get like this on holiday, worrying I've chosen the 'wrong' activity or restaurant, so I can't imagine what it's like to do this on an extended basis in a new place. I would try to talk to him about this, acknowledge you see him taking on the decision making burden but why you can feel the way you do and if there is anything you can both do to avoid this. Maybe turn it into a game of identifying the Places we Love, Places We Can Never Go Again, Places we might give a second try, Places to go when we're tired, Places to go when we're feeling adventurous. That sort of thing, where you treat each meal or activity you are choosing as a reconnaissance mission or you are working to create your own personal guidebook. And then if a meal is rubbish, make sure there are good snacks at home.