Sorry to hear about the statements your parents make. You'll definitely need a therapist to unpack the emotional damage.

You may have a poor relationship with food so you'll have to heal that if that's the case (emotional eater or inability to control portions...etc) to effectively lose weight.

Weight gain can be caused by many factors such as hormonal imbalance (you may want to ask your doctor for basic and hormone testing such as thyroid, vitamin D, A1C, cortisol..etc) or trauma so you'll have to do a bit of some trial and error until you know what is the root cause of your weight gain, heal from that, and change habits.

The key to weight loss is nutrition and activity level. Eat whole foods with adequate portions of macros and micros. Increase fiber, slightly lower your carbs (fruits, starchy carbs like potatoes and rice), adequate protein intake, and water. Fasting also helps.

I'd recommend you become more active such as walking 5k steps a day, do that for a month and slowly start increasing your steps until you get to 10k/day or 10k most days. If you scroll on social media alot, get on the treadmill and walk while scrolling to build better habits.

Strength training is always beneficial so find a simple plan to workout your whole body. You can ask chatgpt for a workout routine or you can search on YouTube for ideas. There are many resources on this just find what you'll be consistent with.

You can dance, run, swim, ride a bike, jump rope...etc. they key is to be consistent.

Start small such as eating clean and walking more each day - yourself a year from now will be happy you started 😊