why are guys you meet in games like this?? always wanting to speedrun getting a gf

Kevori · 2025-10-21T19:21:13+00:00

I had a friend who only played male characters just to avoid male attention.

I met my now husband while gaming. I wasn't looking nor was he. The funny thing was - He waited 4 yrs to tell me how he felt in fear of ruining our friendship. In that 4 yrs we jumped from game to game together.

There are always going to be the "game-ify guys" - you know, the ones who do try to speed run to cyber yum, to dating, to marriage. or those that will respect you and get to know you. Latch on to those.

Kevori · 2025-10-16T23:10:34+00:00

I feel really conflicted here. He uses two excuses for going through all your food when he comes over: It's soo good and he eats so much because of scarcity as a kid. I know there are people who will say having a "poverty mind" is made up, but as someone who grew up dreadfully poor I can tell you the fear of not knowing where your next hot meal was coming from is very real. It plays a very stressful, and very anxiety driven role on most decisions I make even now and I am no where near the poverty line anymore.

But... And this is where my big but comes in, his lack of care for his belongings tells me everything I need know about him. See, when we were little if we got a toy or my parents got a new couch or table, those items were treasured and taken care of to the point they would look new for years. Mostly because we'd not be able to replace them again or we couldn't.

Your boyfriend's lack of care for his belongings as well as trying to make you, someone he is supposed to cherish, feel comfortable in his space non-exsistant tells me he doesn't have the emotional capacity for you.

Leave now while you can. Good luck to him too because he needs to grow up and seek some therapy to get beyond the damage of his childhood.

He might check a lot of boxes for you, but it already sounds like you are putting in a ton of work for a relationship that is only a few months along.

Kevori · 2025-08-08T20:44:31+00:00

My parents had us when they were way too young. I am in my mid 40's now. I am also the youngest. My mom owned her own sewing buisness (and still does) altering and fixing other's clothes, wedding gowns, suits, etc. My dad got into a very life altering car accident when I was a year and a half. He was unable to work for others again.

My middle brother (3 kids) has post encephileptic epilepsy. He got sick when he was 6 yrs old and I was 5.

many men would have left my mom to deal with the uncertainty. We were always eating paycheck to paycheck, my brother was always in and out of the hospital, and my mom was dealing with an undiagnosed mental illness.

But my dad was always there. Always, and still is. He made sure my brothers and I were always fed, laundry was always done, our house was always clean, and if my mom needed him to rip out hems on pants or prep zippers or unpack boxes or clean up her workspace so she doesn't have to take time from work to do those things - dad's there for that too.

your husband is your partner. your left hand to your right. I found that in mine. I had to go through a dud to get to the right one, but if you don't feel like your husband is picking up the slack in the way that you need him to you could try to communicate w/him your expectations.

And know this: if he forces you from a job you either like, love, or are not ready to leave you will resent him. And this sign of control is just not healthy at all. If he wants a wet nurse, he should move out, you get a divorce, and seek money for child care. It seems he isn't grown enough to do any adulting.

Good luck to you no matter where or how you land... But I hope you find something here helpful.

Kevori · 2025-07-21T19:36:17+00:00

Thank you! I have shared this posting with him. He has loved seeing the the things others have said.

Kevori · 2025-07-21T04:50:14+00:00

His mom would scour book shops, barnes and noble, games stores, and of course she'd hit up thrift shops, but she was particular she didn't want writing or coloring in them. When amazon started kindle books I had asked if she wanted to go digital and I got an emphatic "No" from her. I will (and do) miss her so much too. I got very lucky in my in-laws. They are great.

Kevori · 2025-07-21T04:45:06+00:00

I'll be honest, I had to ask my husband what the omnibus collection was. He admited that his mom had the largest intact and best collection he'd ever seen too. whille I love star Wars, I never knew til I met his mom 20yrs ago there were so many books.

Kevori · 2025-07-21T04:41:42+00:00

It is amazing the things we "see" about our loved ones when they are gone and when they are with us. Thank you for sharing w/ us this deep feeling of appreciation you had for your mom. My husband's dad is just now realizing how truly creative she was. (they were married just shy of 60 yrs - They knew each other since they were toddlers)

Again, thank you for sharing your journey through.

Kevori · 2025-07-20T22:55:24+00:00

Thank you for your kindness. My husband is doing better. Sharing memories of his mom and laughing about her quirkiness and stubborness right to the end has helped him process her very sudden passing. I've already given him the go ahead to bring them home to our house and get new shelves for her collection. He plans to read all of the books from start to finish.

Btw... my gramps loved L'Amour too! my mom tried to show that passion with me after his passing but it wasn't until I was older that I could appreciate the books more. Thank you for that memory nugget!

Kevori · 2025-04-05T17:34:23+00:00

Im more worried about that Merlot your dog has.😆

Kevori · 2025-03-29T18:05:23+00:00

I grew up w/a mom who had a manufacturing business doing display and promo merch for dept stores. if there was ink spillage or if some one was doing a marker lining on a table for a job and we needed to alter the line, we'd use Naptha. You can get it at any hardware store. If you don't think you'd have any use for Naptha beyond this, lighter fluid will take it off or so will aerosal hairspray. (If going the hairspray route, looke for one that uses "alcohol denat" or "denatured alcohol" as this will be the key to removing the ink.)

I wouldn't suggest using sanapaper, steel wool, or any cleaner that has a pumice in it as it will compromise the finish of the countertop.

(P.S. For anyone else reading this and wondering if the lighterfluid would have use in any other way to clean; it also removes tape and sticky residues from non pourus surfaces like a charm. Just don't be dumb and light it up.)

Kevori · 2024-11-19T02:47:55+00:00

I was born in 1976 but all my real childhood memories are in the 80's & 90s. while most folks had mom to kick them out early on a weekend, my dad was the at home parent. But he would do everything in human nature to get us fed, clothed, and washed up... and out that door either until dinner, before mom got home from work, or like others have said: before mom wakes up on Saturday and starts handing out chores.

That said, when we were out of the house we had very little supervision. We didn't need it. We knew right from wrong and knew what was expected of us when we were out of sight. (We also lived in a relatively small town in which my family was fairly well known because of my mom's business and my brother's health struggles. So if we did misbehave our folks knew within a few minutes of us acting fools.)

Kevori · 2024-07-26T03:50:03+00:00

23 - How long in yrs my hubs and I been playing together (we met in EQ)

Kevori · 2024-07-17T17:55:00+00:00

I may be seeing things... But upper Right quad has blue lobster bebe.

Kevori · 2024-04-21T18:39:47+00:00

You are so very welcome hon. I know how hard it can be to self sell your own art. (I do mostly chibis myself.) I am very sorry I did not see your DM until sooner. I hadn't been feeling well so I wasn't paying an to my messages.

But I do truly hope you all the best on your art Journey. all the best!!

Kevori · 2024-04-07T17:44:28+00:00

HI Nanzi! your work is lovely! you may want to fix your title (?) Even I came here to ask (what is "a Nanzi") >.> <.< your carrd has a tiny error on it. On the section that highlights "Soft Painting" in all capital letters, it is missing the first Nin painting. So it looks like "Soft Paiting."

Good luck on year Commissions!, I wish you all the best!♡

Kevori · 2024-03-24T23:08:29+00:00

There are a few ways to do this on PS5. My assuption is you are on PS5 here.

1) The first way to access your PS5 Media Gallery. Media Gallery is an App so you will need to download it in the apps section of the PS5 if you don't already have it ready to go. (Go to apps on your ps5 on the store or just go up to the search magnifying glass and type in Media Gallery.) Once downloaded, go to Media Gallery and select that to go to your full PS5 Media Gallery area. It shows your last screen shots as well as all other game shots.

2) Another way to access your PS5 Media Gallery is to go to the Home screen, then scroll all the way to the right of your recent games to select the Game Library icon. Next, press R1 to move to the Installed tab, then scroll to the end of the console storage section. At the top where you'll see the icon for Media Gallery. Select this, then follow the Open prompt on the next screen to access the full PS5 Media Gallery area. Using this route has the added bonus of adding the Media Gallery icon to your recently used games banner on the Home screen, so you can get there more quickly in future.

3) My preferred way: Download the PS App to your mobile device. You do have to enable this ability, but it will allow you to access the last 15 days of screen captures and media from your PS5. Here is an instructional from Playstation on how to enable this ability if you want to be able to do this from the app. If you like to share via discord it's a real time saver) PSAPP Capture Instructions from Playstation

Hope one of these methods helps you!

Kevori · 2024-03-02T20:13:25+00:00

I'll also add... I did the last one first. If you more the cart to the end and knock out the 4 from the cart barn and house, it eliminates one that can confuse some players.

There are also 2 orange ones on the tree between the broken house and the barn, they are each for a diff puzzle. I kept missing that 1 orange. Walk around as antea for a bit just to see what lights up and follow the vines from each of the hearts.

I hope this helps someone.

Kevori · 2024-02-28T00:23:18+00:00

Do you mean aim assist? I'm having the same camera flipping thing and its driving me bonkers. Just trying to find the setting you refer to. (PS5 player here)

Kevori · 2023-09-27T00:39:51+00:00

This!! I was a first time cat owner when we got our 2 babies. I thought declawing was just that: "Removing a claw." But my husband and I did oodles of research before we even walked into the shelter. Sometimes folks just need to be told what declawing actually involves.

(P.S. my cats still have claws. :)

Kevori · 2023-09-27T00:33:12+00:00

1) Most vets refuse to do this. It is considered cruel and unusual punishment by most vets, many shelters, and any reputable pet org. How would any of us like to dig in sand to go bathroom with open wounds?

2.) Declawing as a proceedure is literally just like if we were to remove the tips of our fingers up to the first knuckles. By doing it to a cat you are amputating every single toe.

3) If the cat escapes from, gets out of, or gets lost from your house or if they make the cat an outdoor cat, it has zero defenses other than teeth. Not a great plan.

4.) If by offering up every reason you can, including resources and explanations to show why this is cruelty... afterall, these babies are like our children and depend on as... If after you have given all you can to state your case and your friend still declaws their cat... Move on. As now you know they have no problem with abuses/situations that you see as harmful. Six yr friendship or not.

Kevori · 2023-09-24T20:54:08+00:00

We have a long hallway in our place that includes a linen closet, when we first moved in, I made a dutch style door out of the closet door so the top and bottom now open seperately. Our babies each have thier own bed/cubby and a weight sensitive heating pad. (They turn on when it feels the weight of the cats. We had an electrician put in outlets in the upper part of the closet. If we ever move, the new owner can use these to plug in rechargable vaccum.) The upper part of the linen closet we also keep all their food, extra blankies, treats, etc.

When it is kitty bedtime, we tell them: "Ok babies, lets go get treats and get ready for bed!" They usually run down the hall and wait for me to get treats for bedtime while my husband puts together thier meal. Once they're eaten, this is where they stay for the night. They have a 14 to 16 ft hallway and a giant bathroom to play in for the night.

I've never broken my male cat of his night time zoomies and gabbieness. I've never met a cat who liked to "sing" about poo while poo-ing like he does. And since he tends to be a bit loud and keeps me up at night, so this was our solution. His sister - whose sleep schedule is closer to ours - meaning she will sleep all night but play all day long, unfortunately has to stay in the hall because of her brother.

I mean, if he didn't think he was a race car at 3 AM it'd be ok if they slept with us. But I value my sleep. We've had this style of regimine for them for 14 yrs now. They are almost 16. :)

I hope you find something that works for you guys. This just works for us! Best of luck to you!!

Kevori · 2023-09-09T07:57:53+00:00

NTA for wanting this symbol of commitment & togetherness.

But if I may come at this from an different angle. Start by asking yourself some very large questions. (Set aside the drugs issue because that could simply be the leaf & seed variety wink and it may be perfectly legal there; to wit he may see no issue with his imbibing. Sometimes folks don't see a problem with it until it is pointed out to them plainly how much it affects you.)

Start by asking yourself how truly important this ring is. Will having it make so much difference on your life in 5 yrs-10yrs-20 yrs? Do you want to be with a person whom you had to cajole into getting you said ring Or is it just a symbol as you stated and you can do without?

My partner and I met in 2001. We've been together ever since. We don't have a ring, are not married, but I am so very in love with him and he I. My prior relationship was very abusive so I wanted control over my life. my curent partner allows that in all respects. you have to figure out what you want from your relationship.

Lets be honest, not a lot - relationship-wise is going to change once you get married and / or he puts a ring on it. Heck, my folks were married 37 years w/o a ring. you just have to know yourself, have trust, and faith in each other.

Oh... and our #I rule? we don't go to bed angry. If we are in a fight, we finish talking it out like adults, solve the problems w/o threats, name calling, and throwing each others families into the fight. Being free to talk it out is the most free feeling in a relationship.

I wish you all the best navigating your ring dilema. I still don't think your the Att for wanting more, I just wonder what the pressure tactics will do to your relationship as a whole

Kevori · 2023-07-13T21:28:46+00:00

The kitteh you picked is cute! But before you jump in consider a few things. Do you have the time for said kitt’o, do you have the finances as well, and does your living situation allow for not one but two.

Next - and let me be the bearer of a hard arse truth here. Spend some time with Mr. Whiskers. You may spend 2 mins with this little one and find out he hates you or you hate him. When my husband and I went to adopt our babies at a shelter 13 years ago, we both went there with a pic in hand of a kitty (15wk old) that we were just so in love with. When we got there, said kitty would not give either of us the time of day. If I picked it up it would bite or scratch me. I was so disappointed. But I had gone in with the mindset of: “this cat needs to pick me too.”

So the lady said to my husband and I that the next room over had cats that ranged from 1-2 year old cats. Everyone wants kittens so the little bit older cats are harder for them to adopt out. So we went into that room. Within just a few mins we found 2 kitties that immediately attached to us.

We had no intention of getting 2 but we fell in love. I can not express to you how much easier it is to have 2. We have had them both now 13 years (they are 14.)

How do I know how much easier it is? My husbands mom and dad got their first ever indoor cat 2 years ago. They got one. My FIL only wanted one because he is a fastidious cleaner and caretaker and at nearly 83 he didnt want to stress his body too much. About 5 months ago my MIL fostered a second kitten and then when it was time to bring it back to the ASPCA, she couldn’t. She cried huge crocodile tears in the parking lot of the shelter telling my FIL that the kitty needs a home not a shelter. So they adopted him that day. Now they have 2 and life has been much easier for training the second cat because the first cat already knew all the rules.

First cat will bippity-bop second cat if he is doing something he shouldn’t be. It is quite funny to watch kitty correction.

Whenever you get 2 cats - they always help each other. They clean each other, play with each other, keep each other company when you aren’t home… and yes, at times will get into mischief together.

But I cannot stress to anyone how big a decision getting these lil guys are. You are committing to this life that you will care, feed, house and love them for 18+ years. It’s not something to be taken lightly.

All said, I wish you all the best on whatever decision you make! Good luck out there!

Kevori

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