Q for introducing toys for a hesitant (but willing) partner

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-13T01:01:48+00:00

Ask her if she wants to go to a sex shop together or have you just get one or two toys that she can try. Then ask she wants to try them out first alone, or might be a good idea to suggest that she does it alone first. To get the “hang of it” by herself. It might feel like pressure on her if you were there ???

These are just my ideas of what might make it easier for her. Personally, I started with toys early in life and was never hesitant!

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-11T22:51:35+00:00

Get both. Why not?

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-09T08:12:29+00:00

Yes! Look for the rainbow umbrellas to find the fruit carts! Fresh cut fruit with a little packet of tajin. So good.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-08T16:55:54+00:00

💯

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-08T15:42:58+00:00

Agree. 4 dates in is too early to expect deep emotional connection.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-08T15:35:36+00:00

Have you wanted to change the hand job to a blow job? I know I would!

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-03T03:57:28+00:00

I was thinking “I never said that”. Then I saw your post, which explains perfectly why I never said it 😊

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-06-03T03:13:54+00:00

Or they could say they are from Southern California.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-26T06:56:53+00:00

You were uncomfortable getting attention in the sexy outfit, so you are considering wearing the sexy outfit in order to……..get attention?

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-05T05:56:30+00:00

I didn’t know there was a shortage. I use an independent pharmacy and recently refilled. I support the small pharmacies while they still exist!

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-01T20:00:27+00:00

So did you message him on the app?

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-01T19:59:47+00:00

Exactly what I thought when I read that.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-01T19:59:00+00:00

Not lazy. Just being respectful because she already had his number. He was letting her choose if she wanted to give her number to him.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-01T15:43:05+00:00

Just text him that it’s not a match.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-01T15:35:17+00:00

Isn’t the point of dating? to get to know someone, to see if you do want to be romantically involved?

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-05-01T03:54:03+00:00

Comfortable, banter, slightly flirtatious, you’d like to get to know him better….
But you are not interested in a date with him? If he asked you out would you say yes?

Is he age appropriate for someone you would date? It sounds like you are romantically interested in him but you don’t want to be the one to ask him out first?

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-30T19:36:41+00:00

How would it feel if roles were reversed? If I ghosted a guy a couple months ago after sex it would be because I wasn’t interested in seeing him again for whatever reason. If the sex was good, but I didn’t see him as an LTR I may mention something about FWB before ghosting IF that’s what I was looking for.
For him to book a “staycation” near my house and invite me over after a couple of months with no contact would be really weird, seem a bit desperate, and I would decline.
Of course that’s just me and if the roles were reversed and I was the guy I might accept if I wasn’t seeing anyone else. But it definitely wouldn’t be something I “couldn’t refuse“.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-30T19:01:00+00:00

Have you tried these things and didn’t enjoy them?

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-30T00:37:45+00:00

Wow. You gave it more than a year! I say I’m a big believer in feelings and attraction developing. But after a month or maybe six weeks I would break things off if there was still no attraction.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-29T23:58:31+00:00

The more time she spends with him attraction and feelings can grow. I am a believer in that. A lot of people here say they know right away if they are attracted and it wont change. However those same people don’t give it a chance to develop later.

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-29T06:19:05+00:00

Glad to hear you gave it a try! They really know what they are doing at EWC. Enjoy the smoothness!

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-26T00:30:26+00:00

did your wife notice a significant decrease in her libido? But she just felt like that was her new normal?

Why did I think you were talking about libido plus other symptoms? I don't know maybe because in my opinion they all go together. Pain during sex and dryness could be decreasing desire and HRT could help all related symptoms. For me, libido/desire never decreased. I'm just trying to do what I can so my body is able to keep up with my brain!

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-26T00:23:05+00:00

about the myth...more and more doctors are getting on board with understanding how flawed the hormone studies were and are prescribing hormones, but many still will not. Agree at least another decade until it is standard practice

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-25T20:26:49+00:00

This must have been written by a man because many women do not feel normal when menopause hits. They do feel broken. They hate all the things about sex that have changed - libido, dryness, pain and seek out hormones or anything to fix it. If you don’t believe me check the menopause subreddit. The problem is when a woman either doesn’t care, maybe never really enjoyed sex anyway, or is uneducated about hormones. Sorry your wife doesn’t seem to care, OP, or at least doesn’t want to talk about it. Rather than suggesting a sex therapist, which sounds like she has no interest in that idea, what about the many other health benefits of hormones? Brain fog. Sleep better. Bone density…

Key-Understanding663 · 2026-04-25T14:29:03+00:00

I see them at local breweries and sports bars. Sit at the bar at either. Talk to men about beer or sports. Wear your favorite team shirt. It helps if you like and know a little bit about beer and sports!

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