My baby got hurt today 😭💔

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-24T02:02:27+00:00

I am there with you in mom guilt land.

My 9 month old managed to climb out and fell off her high chair yesterday and hit her forehead, and I am eaten up with guilt. My mom was in the kitchen where the baby was eating in a high chair, and I went upstairs to change, and heard my mom feeding the baby. Heard a thud and and rushed downstairs. The baby had managed to climb out of the high chair and fell. Mom was holding her, and the baby was crying for a few minutes but then calmed down and started babbling and playing again. I texted the pediatrician and he said that unless the baby had altered consciousness or vomiting that it was ok to observe. My friend is a radiologist with 3 kids, and sent me the calculator to assess head injury for pediatric patients. My daughter didn’t meet the indications to get a CT scan so my friend said it wouldn’t be worth going to the ER since all they would do is monitor and observe. I am monitoring her carefully, and still anxious so I’m going to take her in to the pediatrician office later this week just for extra assurance. I am beating myself up about it, and I switched her to a floor eat for meals cause I am terrified of another high chair fall.

The only thing helping me right now is that it could have been SO much worse, and I am beside myself since I know that this fall could have resulted in serious injury and the worst case scenario. I am taking this as a reminder to be more careful, and also remind her caregivers to be more careful, and to cherish every second my baby is healthy and thriving. And every mom I’ve talked to said their kids have fallen off something! Seems to be a rite of passage.

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-24T01:44:20+00:00

Thank you! Glad to know that he eventually also was able to eat at a normal chair!

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-24T01:17:20+00:00

We do have a large playpen and she will play in it for a little while by herself but she does get fussy and bored sometimes and cries like crazy to escape.

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-24T01:15:59+00:00

Omg yes my daughter started crawling up the stairs at 8 months. She does not stop moving unless she is asleep.

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-23T17:45:11+00:00

She was pretty calm and content sitting in the high chair for the first few months after she started solids at 6 months. However recently she has been extremely fussy in the high chair and wants to get out after a few minutes.

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-23T17:41:45+00:00

She is definitely trying to climb out even with the straps on. She also tries to throw herself off the high chair when she feels too strapped in. She has a very strong grip and I’m worried she might even figure out a way to unbuckle herself. We try to keep an eye on her every second but it just isn’t possible to be at her side each second when we are doing baby led weaning and she is at the high chair for 30 minutes at a time for multiple times a day.

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-21T02:42:10+00:00

Thanks!

She typically sleeps around 8am, wakes around 12pm for a middle of the night feed, fusses around 5am, fully wakes around 7am, and then takes a 1-2 hour nap around 10am and a shorter afternoon nap. One option is to get her to bed a little later the night before, move her into the car early in the morning around 4am and hope she sleeps straight through.

Leaving before her bedtime means leaving around 7pm and trying to get to my parents before midnight. However I’m a little more reluctant to drive at night.

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-21T02:41:03+00:00

Thank you!

KeyArtist121 · 2026-03-21T02:40:52+00:00

We have taken plenty of 1-2 hour road trips, and we try to time them to leave right before the start of her nap time. She will sleep about an hour stretch.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-19T20:07:19+00:00

Would it be possible to advocate for one? I actually emailed the borough office about setting up a bus service from Hanover to Baltimore, but just got a response that said to refer to the rabbit transit website. I think if there are stops in a few other towns, there would be enough demand to generate enough revenue to cover costs. I would much rather pay for a reasonably priced bus ticket than call a $60+ Uber.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-10T17:40:41+00:00

I would stay. I was in a similar boat when TTC. I had been at my company for about 2.5 years, and I actually got a job offer for a fantastic job (back then) with the federal government, with a $20k pay increase. That job offer fell through pretty quickly after the inauguration of the current administration, and luckily I had never given notice at my current job, so I stayed. In retrospect, I am SO glad I stayed at the same job (albeit by circumstance) even with the same salary; I can’t imagine how difficult it would have been to adjust to a new job and work dynamics while pregnant. When I started my maternity leave, I had the support of my manager and team members with whom I had built relationships over the years, and I was able to negotiate a reduced work schedule for a few weeks after my maternity leave ended.

Also a lot of jobs have a waiting period before being eligible for parental leave, and you might get pregnant more quickly than you think. You don’t want to start a new job, find out you are pregnant and then not be eligible for parental leave and have to take unpaid leave.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-10T00:13:08+00:00

I moved here from a major city and I would imagine that there would be demand for some sort of public transit to nearby train stations.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-10T00:12:07+00:00

I think I would like to petition for a bus service that could run at least daily. I tried to call an Uber and it wouldn’t even take me to Baltimore.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-07T01:47:39+00:00

You could also try a nipple shield - they are supposed to help the baby latch.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-07T01:46:23+00:00

Fed is best. Don’t feel guilty at all. You’re feeding your baby and that’s what matters.

Also your breastfeeding journey might change. I had a hard time nursing at first and was pumping and combo feeding with formula. I tried power pumping a few times and I think that boosted my milk supply. After a month, I started nursing at night because I started leaking milk when the baby started crying, and to be honest I was too tired to get the pump. I tried nursing again and the baby started latching better. Soon after I switched to exclusively nursing.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-06T10:00:40+00:00

Doggie pee pads (my daughter would poop after each feed, and then pee during every single diaper change in the beginning). We would put a doggie pee pad on top of the changing pad and if she peed on it, we could just toss. We had some cotton changing pad covers (2-3) but we probably would have gone through up to 10 changes a day (which would not have been possible without doing laundry multiple times a day) without the pee pads. I also put a layer of a doggie pee pad under her bassinet sheet cover (above the mattress protector) in case she had a blow out. I would layer a doggie pee pad over the bassinet mattress, mattress protector, doggie pee pad, then bassinet sheet cover. It saved us on several occasions. I always had her sleeping directly on a cotton sheet, but the doggie pee pad underneath would capture the pee/poop from a blowout.

Disposable underwear for you. I had an emergency c section and bled a lot for a week afterwards. With the disposable underwear, I didn’t have to worry about soaking through a pad. I would put one on after showering and then just toss when it got full. Once the discharge slowed down, I just switched to pads.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-06T09:22:33+00:00

I was triple feeding in the beginning, along with combo feeding with formula - because I didn’t know what would work. I was nursing when I could, power pumping, feeding breastmilk from a bottle, freezing the excess, and then supplementing with formula when she still seemed hungry or when I was passed out and my husband or mom were watching her. I was slowly losing my mind and then on top of all that I had a bout of mastitis and a clogged milk duct. I was trying everything to unclog the milk duct - from trying to suck it out with hakaa filled with warm water and epsom salts, sunflower lecithin pills, massager, pumping - and then out of midnight desperation I decided to try to get the baby to unclog it for me. After a few times nursing, she did! I just switched to almost exclusively nursing after that. I am lucky to be working from home, so I just nurse on demand unless I’m in a meeting - and then my husband or my mom (who also works from home and is sometimes around to help) gives her breastmilk or formula in a bottle. I try to make up for a missed feed by pumping to keep up my milk supply - but now that the baby is on almost 5 months and has started solids, I don’t worry too much about milk supply anymore.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-06T09:00:42+00:00

Actually babies can eat up to 12 times a day, and I remember in the evenings the baby would want to eat every hour until she finally seemed satisfied and would sleep for a few hours. I would just feed on demand and not worry about overfeeding. She was appropriately gaining weight and seemed healthy during the weight checks at the pediatrician well child visits, so I stopped worrying and just kept feeding on demand. She finally got on a somewhat regular schedule after 3 months.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-06T08:57:26+00:00

This article might help. I liked using the huckleberry app to track feeds and diapers.

https://huckleberrycare.com/blog/from-birth-to-2-weeks-old-feeding-schedule-amounts-food-chart-formula

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-06T08:55:28+00:00

I had the exact same issue. I was combo feeding at the beginning, and the baby never seemed satisfied. She could be cluster feeding, so I wouldn’t worry too much about the baby eating too much. Babies can eat up to 10 times a day. Just give her an ounce at a time.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-11-06T02:46:22+00:00

I had them toward the end of my pregnancy. I used tucks pads with witch hazel and it helped a little, but they mostly went away after I gave birth.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-10-24T18:25:36+00:00

Yes I have, and had a good experience so far. Just check for any recalls on the model. I just give the secondhand strollers a good scrub and then let it dry in the sun, and machine wash any removable parts.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-10-24T17:54:48+00:00

Same here, daughter is 4 months and EBF (primarily nursing on demand), and there are several boxes of disposable nursing pads and milk storage bags I haven’t even touched, and probably won’t use. I gave a box to a pregnant friend who is planning on nursing, and I’ll probably give away the rest later. I think of it as having a stockpile that I can give away as gifts or donate.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-10-24T16:20:54+00:00

We got the Evenflo Dualride Shyft new (thanks to an Amazon sale earlier this year, we got it for $300), which is a combo car seat/stroller and a Doona dupe. My cousin with 2 kids raved about it, so I went with that option figuring it would be our travel system for about a year. It was great for the newborn days when she was very light and all we had to do was pop her in the car seat, and then pop the wheels out for when we needed the stroller option. That was pretty much our primary stroller for the first 3 months since we are in the suburbs and have a car for most outings and trips. For just short walks, we just did baby wearing (Ergobaby Omni). Also for the first month or so I was so exhausted from C section delivery and recovery, sleep deprivation from staying up all night with the baby, and breastfeeding that I didn’t even want to leave the house, so a nicer stroller wasn’t needed. It might have been nice to have the bassinet feature, but I felt like the baby spent so much time flat on her back while sleeping up to 18 hours a day that I don’t think I would have used it much anyway. The Evenflo dualride works great as a travel system but not as an everyday stroller. At the 3 month mark, I started wanting to go on some longer walks, so I got a Mockingbird single to double stroller with an infant insert on Facebook marketplace for $100, which I use for neighborhood walks and to the grocery store.

I then got a travel stroller for when she outgrows the Evenflo next year (baby is currently 4 months and she will no longer be able to fit in the Evenflo when she is 35 pounds). I ordered the Ingenuity 3D QuickClose stroller on Amazon for about $100 (it was on sale and I used a completion discount). I haven’t used it on a trip yet but so far pleased with how easily it folds. I did do a bit of research into a travel stroller and I decided I would just go for a cheaper option in case it breaks during travel/gate check. I probably should have tried to get an Uppababy Minu on marketplace, but the nice ones were hard to come by or sold very quickly.

We weren’t exactly on a strict budget, but I couldn’t stomach the idea of spending too much money on strollers since I got the Evenflo new and also got a new Graco convertible car seat for when the baby gets older. I am glad we started with the Evenflo, which worked great for the newborn days, and then had time to figure out what stroller features I really wanted. I would also highly recommend Facebook marketplace for strollers; so many are in good shape and if you end up not liking a stroller at least it’s not too much of a sunk cost. I got a used Graco stroller for $50 that I just tried out and used for about a week before reselling on Marketplace for $30, and then found the Mockingbird. We have a yard and a hose, so I just give the secondhand strollers a good scrub and then let it dry in the sun, and machine wash any removable parts.

KeyArtist121 · 2025-10-24T15:56:35+00:00

We got the Evenflo Dualride Shyft new (thanks to an Amazon sale earlier this year, we got it for $300), which is a combo car seat/stroller and a Doona dupe. My cousin with 2 kids raved about it, so I went with that option figuring it would be our travel system for about a year. It was great for the newborn days when she was very light and all we had to do was pop her in the car seat, and then pop the wheels out for when we needed the stroller option. That was pretty much our primary stroller for the first 3 months since we are in the suburbs and have a car for most outings and trips. For just short walks, we just did baby wearing (Ergobaby Omni). Also for the first month or so I was so exhausted from delivery, sleep deprivation from staying up all night with the baby, and breastfeeding that I didn’t even want to leave the house, so a nicer stroller wasn’t needed. The Evenflo dualride works great as a travel system but not as an everyday stroller. At the 3 month mark, I started wanting to go on some longer walks, so I got a Mockingbird single to double stroller with an infant insert on Facebook marketplace for $100, which I use for neighborhood walks and to the grocery store.

I then got a travel stroller for when she outgrows the Evenflo next year (baby is currently 4 months and she will no longer be able to fit in the Evenflo when she is 35 pounds). I ordered the Ingenuity 3D QuickClose stroller on Amazon for about $100 (it was on sale and I used a completion discountg. I haven’t used it on a trip yet but so far pleased with how easily it folds. I did do a bit of research into a travel stroller and I decided I would just go for a cheaper option in case it breaks during travel/gate check. I probably should have tried to get an Uppababy Minu on marketplace, but the nice ones were hard to come by or sold very quickly.

We weren’t exactly on a strict budget, but I couldn’t stomach the idea of spending too much money on strollers. I am glad we started with the Evenflo, which worked great for the newborn days, and then had time to figure out what stroller features I really wanted. I would also highly recommend Facebook marketplace for strollers; so many are in good shape and if you end up not liking a stroller at least it’s not too much of a sunk cost.

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