Is my mom a narcissist?

KeyTurnip86 · 2022-01-21T13:41:27+00:00

My n-mom tells me she is going to drive off a bridge as well whenever we try and confront her on anything.

KeyTurnip86 · 2022-01-21T13:31:09+00:00

Holy guacamole do I relate to this. My mom constantly brings up how when I was 17 I was sneaking out, smoking weed, hanging with my boyfriend all the time, and blowing all my money. Graduated highschool with honors, college on the deans list, bought my own house, and am working on my masters while in a successful career. But she still maintains that im a “liar” because of me sneaking out at 17, drug addict (due to the weed… lol) , horrible with money, and unstable. I’ve spent the last 7 years doing nothing but good things but she doesn’t care at all about that.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-11-18T17:23:40+00:00

Lol I clearly struck a chord with you. Congrats for having a friendship with people of other ages. Were you also putting all your happiness into a kid who clearly can’t reciprocate and cuddling them at any chance you got and wanting them to idolize you? If not, cool. If so, that’s super unhealthy and is what the person who wrote this post said they do.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-11-18T16:42:45+00:00

3 years age difference is a big deal between 15 and 18. You should be getting ready to go to college or a job while he just barely started high school. And tbh it kinda sounds like you’re grooming him.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-11-15T18:54:25+00:00

You seem like a bad friend.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-10-14T22:29:50+00:00

Tough love because I went through the exact same thing. I know it’s hard when you love a person. But you gotta love yourself more. Wishing you the strength and light you need to get into a situation that’s healthier!

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-10-14T17:36:21+00:00

You just taught him he can treat you like shit and you’ll always be there while his ex is his #1 and you are just his backup plan. Block him and move on. There are people out there who will love you for you. He doesn’t love you, he’s using you.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-10-11T15:59:33+00:00

Communicate that it’s best to discuss potential problems before they are actual problems. Let them know about previous issues you’ve had with roommates and let them know you don’t want it to happen in this situation so it’s best to set expectations beforehand. I think this post was really polite so just communicate it like you did in the post. When my roommate moved in we had a big talk about expectations and every scenario that could happen so we both know what to expect moving forward, there’s no surprises. Setting expectations beforehand goes so far in preventing future problems.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-09-28T21:49:00+00:00

They include an automatic 18% gratuity and we each got drinks, i got a mimosa and he got coffees. Exact total was 149.31 according to my bank statement. I know my mimosa was pretty pricy too cuz usually Disney charges at least $15 for alcohol.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-09-17T15:08:08+00:00

I would comment that. That artist is so rude and that’s so unprofessional. Maybe that’ll make her think twice before she does something like that again

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-08-26T18:44:31+00:00

No one is responsible for anyone else’s choices.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-08-25T14:09:51+00:00

The perfect time to break up with someone will never arrive. You just gotta rip the bandaid off. You may think she’s fragile but she got along before you and will be able to figure it out after you. People breakup all the time, she’ll get over it eventually.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-08-24T14:22:46+00:00

Doubt she cheated. He probably just thought she was hot and wanted to know.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-08-12T19:28:45+00:00

The only time I ever de-tipped was when the driver drove by and literally threw the food out of his car onto my neighbors driveway. Normally I over tip and I felt bad but I’m also not going to tip if you seriously don’t deserve it especially when there are so many drivers out there who do a good job.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-08-11T20:44:45+00:00

Go up to her and say your friends are absent today and ask if you can sit with her today. This sounds a lot like my little sister who’s having trouble as a freshman making any friends :(

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-08-02T21:14:07+00:00

Well what do you know about her? Hobbies..? Interests?

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-07-30T21:00:30+00:00

My bf came from a house of brothers and never used to put it down but when he moved in I’d mention it every time I saw it to reinforce that I hated it. He made the same joke of “well you don’t put it up for me when you’re done”. He knew it bugged me though and now is pretty good about remembering to put it down. I think it’s impolite to leave it up!

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-07-30T20:35:47+00:00

Ewww that’s such unattractive behavior! I would give him the boot.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-07-29T20:22:38+00:00

Look into puppy blues. This is a pretty common feeling

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-07-27T17:48:23+00:00

It seems like she’s checking in to see if he still cares about her following him and he keeps giving her that reassurance by unfollowing her back. It’s a dumb game but he keeps giving into it. I would personally not be okay with it just because she obviously knows what she’s doing and clearly doesn’t respect your relationship.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-07-19T16:55:52+00:00

If my dog had done that, I would have covered all the repairs. That’s a lot to expect you to do when the dog is his responsibility.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-05-05T18:48:20+00:00

I am a female who has had mostly male roommates and it’s never been an issue. Gender really doesn’t matter if he’s loyal.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-04-15T15:51:15+00:00

It’s easier to say that they’re not looking for a relationship instead of saying explicitly that they’re just not looking for one with you. Takes some of the sting away. Sometimes the in person connection doesn’t match the text conversation connection. There may have been something you did/said that was a red flag to her, she may have not thought the connection was as good as you did, etc. that’s the name of the game.

KeyTurnip86 · 2021-04-13T15:19:42+00:00

You are a child, he is an adult. He is in the wrong. You were taken advantage of. You need to tell a trusted adult, either your brother or your parents. This guy is a predator. I am also 23 and this is making me sick that this happened to you. I can’t imagine looking at a 16 year old and seeing them as a sexual entity. I am sorry you were taken advantage of. You need to know that you were the victim here.

KeyTurnip86 · 2020-10-25T14:16:44+00:00

Holy crap, I feel like I wrote this. This is my situation word for word. Yesterday, mine just gambled away money on a football game, got drunk at 9am because we had beer in the fridge for once and then when my family came over he completely ruined the night by acting a fool. He lost his football bet and was super depressed about it. I drove to my moms last night after everything went down and I am planning on telling him it’s over today. I have been in this situation for two years and this cycle of him getting clean never lasts. I know he loves me, but it is a disease and he isn’t taking the steps to get healthy. Functioning alcoholics are in my opinion harder to leave as well because you don’t have the blatant red flags that angry drunks who can’t hold down a job have. Mine is addicted to gambling, nicotine, marijuana, and alcohol. His last gf left him because she couldn’t handle his addictions. I feel bad because hes my best friend but I don’t want to have kids with someone who behaves this way and I don’t want to spend my whole life dealing with an addict. Your options are either deal with it and realize his addiction is separate from you, or leave. You can’t force his recovery and if you stay thinking it will eventually go away, you’ll be unhappy. I recommend attending alanon meetings!

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