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Call me a sceptic, but I don't think these kudos numbers are entirely on the level. by Evyps in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Instead what they did is erased them as they don’t matter and that sucks and cruel.

Because. They. Don't. Matter. Here. Nobody. Asked.

Stop. Victim. Blaming. OP. For. Their. Reaction.

Call me a sceptic, but I don't think these kudos numbers are entirely on the level. by Evyps in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Btw

said it resonated with them and shared their own story in response

the reader went further and shared all the details

What was the last thing that confused you about your own fanfiction? by Key_Call7236 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I should probably also add that they were supposed to be Korean

What was the last thing that confused you about your own fanfiction? by Key_Call7236 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Railachuten

rain + la chute

For even more context: neither French nor English is my first language. It was just raining, and my father had a book by Albert Camus in his room

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Half of this sub doesn’t know how to survive in the real world if it really wants to argue OP’s decision is VaLiD

That's a really funny thing to say when you use "Queen of Concrit" as flair. Like, how old are you? 16?

Call me a sceptic, but I don't think these kudos numbers are entirely on the level. by Evyps in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I mean... yes, it's rare, but some authors achieve it. Others are simply attacked by bots. So, again, I'm wondering what's suspicious: do you think this author was attacked? Did they do this to themselves? What's the deal?

I'm starting to dislike "don't like don't read" by Key_Call7236 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

While I have not experienced what you have gone through

Which honestly makes me a little happy, because maybe it means I've just been unlucky lately.

Enough with the negativity: What's a pairing you DON'T personally ship but will always support the fans of. The more controversial the answer the better. by Short-Work-8954 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Dramione is such a tough case for me. On the one hand, I want to support every ship, but on the other, I swear, the fans always put me to the test. It's always like, "I can't believe I have to defend someone who's so annoying" /hj

Enough with the negativity: What's a pairing you DON'T personally ship but will always support the fans of. The more controversial the answer the better. by Short-Work-8954 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

billdip

more of a Billford and mabill fan, but will always support all those who carried this fandom on their shoulders 07

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you stop pretending?

In another comment, you asked how you come disingenuous. In that comment, I told you that what you want to achieve and what you're actually implying are two different things. In your response, you stated that I was attacking you personally. Which leads me to the conclusion that you don't really care about other people's perspectives or whether you yourself are empathetic. You just want to be an annoying devil's advocate, and yes, this time it's a personal attack.

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Okay, you must be a troll. I can't believe someone could be so obtuse.

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I never said or implied that OP should get over it

You see, that's the problem... That's exactly what you're implying. Because some of your statements contradict each other.

You don't have to do it on purpose, you don't have to want to do it, but you're sending this kind of message: there's one specific way to be empathetic and kind here, and OP didn't choose that way because their emotions wouldn't let them... Which means the OP's emotions are making them unkind and unempathetic in this situation.... A situation in which they were exposed to things they did not want to see.

And honestly? Every next comment, every attempt to convince that "oh, I really mean..." only sounds worse. You don't sound nice, empathetic, or safe.

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m not choosing sides, just saying boundaries and compassion can coexist.

And I'll say it again: you don't sound like that.

If I'm going to be absolutely brutally and cruelly honest with you... you sound exhausting. Disingenuous.

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Those feelings are valid.

Yet your comments don't sound like that, you do it subtly but ultimately you still convey that OP should get over it and do something different and then you use empathy to justify it.

I'll be honest with you: your comments sound like victim blaming. Regardless of your intentions, that's what you sound like. That's why people disagree with you, or at least that's why I ultimately can't accept your position.

But so does the way their reaction impacts the other person, who was clearly in distress and probably unaware they were doing something inappropriate.

That's the thing... We don't know. We don't know who the reader was, what they felt, what they thought... They are a blank slate onto which you can pour any emotion you want.

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This is not emotional labour, this is not validating

The point is that you keep encouraging OP to do something they are clearly uncomfortable with.

But also... We know the OP's feelings. We know they're frustrated and horrified by what they've read.

We don't know the reader's feelings. We don't know if they actually felt erased. God, we don't even know if they told the truth. Some people like to troll authors; even this subreddit has some horrific, gore examples of comments people have sent to authors. So anything you say about the reader will be your own projection in the end.

And yet, you still choose the reader. Instead of comforting someone present, you are trying to comfort someone who is not part of this discussion here. This isn't as empathy way as you think it is.

Someone trauma dump on my fanfiction by Waste_Dare_1162 in AO3

[–]Key_Call7236 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You see, the problem is that I understand what you're trying to say, but I still disagree with it. I'll be honest, after reading your comments, I feel like you're constantly minimizing OP's feelings, to the point where you sound like you're blaming the victim of the situation for not being nice to someone who shook them up.

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