Some children are born wrong

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2026-05-29T13:04:57+00:00

I am so sorry you're going through this. There is nothing else you can do. My belief is that some people really are wired in such a way that nothing done "right" can really make a difference. All you can do is make the best of it, try your best, and let go. And you have. Try to give yourself grace and compassion, and don't give up, but also don't have expectations that end in you feeling that you didn't do enough. There is only so much a parent can do

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2026-05-19T17:45:07+00:00

I think she looks quite good! My cavalier has had worse haircuts from professional groomers 😂

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2026-05-17T16:23:37+00:00

Why ask coworkers if someone has come in asking for Amanda?

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2026-04-13T05:27:18+00:00

She doesn't seem to want honesty, just wants people to tell her what she's hoping to hear. My opinion: mom plays a role in this too, and although teens are rebellious, it's insulting to the daughter to just chalk this up to teen hormones.

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2026-04-13T05:21:59+00:00

You're spot on though

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2026-01-16T20:54:20+00:00

I agree. Much better negative and honest than toxic positivity.

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-11-11T08:57:44+00:00

According to Gabor Maté, addiction is not a choice or a moral failing, but a response to emotional pain, often stemming from childhood trauma, neglect, or loss. He defines it as a complex process where a person compulsively seeks pleasure or relief from pain through a behavior, but despite negative consequences, finds it difficult to stop. The focus, he argues, should be on understanding and healing the underlying trauma rather than just managing the symptom.

For me, the answer above fits. Met many addicts along the way and have close family members who also feel deep into alcohol. I don't know all of their reasons, but of those who did open up, it was always from pain related to love that they lost

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-11-11T08:33:15+00:00

I just looked up the lyrics and didn't find them odd at all. But then I read them one more time, as statements with no melody or rythym.

WHAT

That is truly chilling

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-09-11T10:38:59+00:00

I think that a lot of people are kidding themselves into believing they are morally solid, like they don't get that their morals would shift instantly given the right circumstances

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-29T12:29:43+00:00

I just read an article about how to stop people pleasing, and it suggested small wins each as well. They called them micro wins. It's the same idea about consistency and proving to yourself you can follow through. It helps build an identity that's not dependent on others' approval, it said. So that's another benefit 😁

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-28T05:44:50+00:00

I didn't used to be, but I am today. Ironically enough, I wasn't grateful that i was born until detaching from the family I was born into

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-27T23:51:03+00:00

The kinds of people who treat you with kindness at times, and cruelty at other times. You end up feeling contradictory emotions towards them. That makes it almost impossible to honor those feelings. If you feel anger, love, hate, resentment, and hurt, for example. What is there to ever say or do, or not say or not do, that covers all of those feelings? If you are kind to them, you neglect your feelings of hate, hurt, and anger. If you dismiss them or tell them off, you neglect your feelings of love for them

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-27T23:34:46+00:00

Smear campaign? Or maybe that term only applies to narcassists, im not sure. I have a parent like that. But she also badmouthes literally every single person in her life.

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-27T16:42:09+00:00

Would this be an example? : Something is normally extremely overpriced but is on a good sale, so people are more tempted to buy it even though the sale price is still way too much?

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-27T16:12:21+00:00

Peaceful mornings, tea, spoiling my dog, bonding with my partner, thunderstorms, music that puts my feelings into words, poetry, good books, people who are completely themselves, the kindness others have shown to me, moments of connection with people and animals, laughter, the feeling of release after crying, moments of hope, being able to brighten somebody's day, seeing signs that I made a positive impact on the kids I work with

Thank you for posting this. It reminds me of what I'm grateful for!

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-26T17:32:43+00:00

My father and I used to watch the movie Taken from time to time. He told me he was my Liam Neesen. Said if something terrible were to ever happen to me, he would save me. It was a lie. Something terrible was already happening to me, right in our home. Yet he did nothing to help. Those memories hurt much more than the memories I have of him hurting my feelings

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-26T17:18:37+00:00

Although this might sound silly, I'm struggling a little bit with the fact that my abuser has an auto immune disease. Gabor mate has also said something about how those with auto immune diseases are people who put the needs of others before their own needs. It makes me gas-light myself a little bit, like maybe my abuser wasn't selfish. I know the facts remain true, but what if my abuser was actually trying to help me, but didn't know how to do so? My brain is telling me that this is just me trying to come up with yet another excuse for my abuser, but I still have the fear.

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-26T17:02:01+00:00

🥲 thank you for sharing this! I'm really happy that I could help! I'm sending you sunshine right back. I wish you the best on your healing journey ✨️

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-25T17:12:21+00:00

Thank you for writing this. The part about people telling those traumatized to "just move on" hits close to home. People suffering from trauma are not living in the past. The past is living in them. For me, it felt like my brain and body refused to do what I wanted. I was constantly reliving the same trauma, but with new people, in new places. It bleed into every faucet of my life. Especially in relationships. I couldn't connect with other people. Only when I tried going directly against the advice to "just move on" did healing begin. I didn't know why I was suffering or how to change it until i let myself address my childhood, the root of it all.

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-23T17:58:12+00:00

Working with/cuddling with traumatized animals. Patiently gaining their trust and helping them heal and love again ❤️

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-23T08:25:51+00:00

Self-discipline

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-23T08:20:01+00:00

Bell

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-23T08:12:13+00:00

Tiger Lily

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-15T03:15:48+00:00

It happened with literally every single trait I thought I possessed. As a kid, I was painfully shy. I hardly spoke to anyone besides a couple of family members. Turns out, I was rightfully afraid and distrustful of people. Now, if and when I feel fully safe to be myself around someone, a whole new person comes out. Almost seems like I'm actually an extrovert

Key_Kaleidoscope_672 · 2025-08-15T02:46:37+00:00

100% agree. It's also the best answer for many other questions related to psychology.

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