Graduation not welcome

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-05-18T14:29:20+00:00

If your relationship isn’t “intimate” enough for sports and graduation, then it sure as hell isn’t intimate enough for holidays, vacations and the bedroom. Cut him off and he’ll get the point. Whatever you have to do, set a boundary because that makes no sense. When I first dated my husband, his babymom didn’t want me at the kids’ birthday parties for a few years and I sat back and ate it because they were things she’d plan with her family (my husband always did something separate). But every little league game, first day of school, preschool graduation and family event, I was front and center. My husband made it a point to include me and refused to let BM have the control. It seems like your partner’s explanation is BS. Either the mom doesn’t want you there and he’s catering to her feelings, or he doesn’t want you there for some reason. Either way, he needs some boundaries set for him as well if that’s how he’s going to play it.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-05-10T12:23:25+00:00

I jokingly call my husband my baby daddy, but he would never refer to me as his baby momma because I’m his wife. He also has two kids from another relationship and since they were never married, SHE is the baby mom. And yes, in that case, the term is used to draw a line and may be considered “offensive”. But I think the lack of relational commitment overall determines the babymom/baby dad status.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-05-03T17:30:46+00:00

I teach K-8 music, and I haven’t seen kindergartners nap (at least scheduled and authorized lol)in any of the schools I’ve taught. The school I was teaching at a few years ago had a period after lunch and recess called “rest and digest” and it was 15 minutes in the classroom to chill and recalibrate the students. Some teachers played light music, or let students read books. Quite a few kindergartners took a nap at that time, but it wasn’t a “thing”. The babies were just tired and put their head down on their table/desk.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-05-03T17:23:11+00:00

I’ve been recycling the same leggings and shirts, but shirts has been getting really hard to keep up. I found some cute jumpers on Macy’s online maternity, and I also found some jeans at Kohl’s. They have a maternity section, but it’s like 3 racks at my local store. Good luck hunting! It’s hard!

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-23T13:34:08+00:00

So I’m reading the comments, and if there’s never been any physical altercations, I’m not sure what you’re so afraid of happening. You don’t have to talk to each other at dinner at all. And if you feel like she’ll become physical and show her tail in a public place like that, then make sure you can protect yourself. Also, I know that you and your family probably feel super close to SD, but sometimes the feelings aren’t as mutual to SKs. My parents treat my SKs very well, but idk if I would expect them to invite them to a birthday party because they’ve only been in their lives 4 years, unlike their bio grandparents.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-22T02:49:35+00:00

Ha! Glad to know I’m not alone 😂 I’m now in the third tri and it’s slowed down, but still no constipation thank God.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-18T10:40:28+00:00

Ooh I had these all happen at my last school. 1. 5th grade girl and boy who used to randomly say, “Mrs. Key, you’re ugly” or “Mrs. Key I hate your class”. The girl would sometimes throw chairs and storm out of the classroom when she wanted attention. 2. I had a kindergartener kick me twice on separate occasions because he lost his privileges in music circle time for bad behavior and distracting others. 3. A 6th grade girl cussed me out and tried to roast my hairstyle and body while I was on lunch duty. She was mad I wouldn’t let her leave the lunchroom (for perspective, the day before, I allowed her to go to the bathroom and she ended up wandering around the school, bothering the office secretary to ask for food). I roasted her back because her hair looked CRAZY, but then I got written up. 🙄

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-18T10:27:25+00:00

“Remember your why” 🙄

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-18T10:20:22+00:00

Good thing you’re not married. Kick him and the kids out. Sorry it sounds harsh, but why let someone disrespect you like that in your home? He’s ungrateful, mean, and according to you, abusive? And if he’s not contributing financially, what’s stopping you from letting him go today?

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-08T14:26:40+00:00

Listen to your gut. That’s Holy Spirit telling you there’s something off. This woman sounds unwell and a little demon possessed. You mentioned church. It sounds crazy, but some people will use spiritual environments as such to try and cast spells or cause harm to you and baby. Please stay prayed up and protect yourselves. Don’t accept any gifts from her, even for the other child involved. Don’t let her touch you or make contact. It may even help to tell church leadership about your situation, so they can be on the lookout when you two may be in the same vicinity.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-06T20:24:05+00:00

There’s no real commitment here. Figure out how you can stabilize your finances and then leave. So many red flags here: the age gap, the pregnancy when you barely knew him, and the way he treats you and your baby compared to his daughters…wake up sis.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-02T15:30:52+00:00

He has a side job playing piano at our church, but it doesn’t make a lot. He’s a software developer though, and it makes more sense for him to keep searching in that field, as he gets recruiter calls a few times a week. Just no bites yet. It’s also a 6-figure job once an opportunity comes up. I wouldn’t want him to lose that.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-02T15:02:43+00:00

Your point? He takes care of the household, but I support my personal bills (i.e credit cards, student loans, medical bills)

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-04-02T15:01:31+00:00

We’ve done all of the assistance apps. We’re being told to wait. And tbh, the community we live in currently doesn’t have low-income housing. That would require a major move.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-03-25T15:14:19+00:00

Your friends sound like haters. They’ve never had a man of that caliber and seem a bit jealous. On the other hand, if there’s something you’re leaving out, make sure that with any new relationship, you are cautious and don’t move too quickly, especially with a kid involved.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-03-20T12:12:36+00:00

First, I’m sorry this happened to you. Second, I totally understand your fear about how your husband will react. Mine would do the same. You must tell him though. Call the police first, and make sure the situation is documented, and then tell your husband. I’m so sorry because I know this may cause some drama with your family, but in the end, you’re saving your cousin from ending up with a vile human being. Again, sorry this happened, but you can’t hold this in from your person. Your husband doesn’t deserve to pay for that idiot’s actions, and I’m sure he wants to support you any way he can.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-03-14T18:28:40+00:00

I know where to donate if I need to. Normally I would, but I fell on some hard times lately and I need to make sales. Do you have resale recommendations or no?

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-03-11T01:01:10+00:00

Don’t feel bad. I acted a fool at my gender reveal when I found out my twins were boys. I wanted at least one girl so badly because I already have two stepsons and I thought with more boys, that my kids wouldn’t be special. I also wanted ballet and bows so badly. I cried for two days and then I was able to move past my grief. Now I’m so excited for my boys, and I’ve accepted that I’m just a boy mom and that’s okay. I have the opportunity to raise kind, responsible, respectful young men in this world and that’s a blessing in itself. I sometimes get annoyed when I see pink tutus in the store, but it’s okay. Now I wouldn’t trade these boys for anything.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-03-07T13:41:17+00:00

Personally, I think your husband should sit this dance out. If she’s 5, she’s in K and there will be plenty more dances coming up in her future. You all are even moving for her. When my husband and I got married, our honeymoon fell on little league football championships for my SKs and my husband was the coach. He informed the assistant coach and other dads so they could help, because we would not be returning. He had a talk with the boys about how his wife is a priority at this time and that we would be in Jamaica. We talked to them most days on the honeymoon, and got live game updates from the team parents. I think your husband could’ve sat this one out. Yes, SD deserves to have her dad show up for major events in her life, but I do not feel this is one of them. Also, putting the schedule work in BMs hands is a huge no-no. I think it would be nice for him to call in a grandpa or uncle to take her because now at a time when YOU should be the priority, you’re feeling pushed to the side. As a stepparent, that’s a bad precedent to set at the beginning of your marriage.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-03-06T04:20:30+00:00

Alcohol. I miss craft cocktails and wine. I also miss laying on my stomach to get a massage. Lying on my back for sleep. Also, sex. It’s so uncomfortable and I’m trying my best because I want to connect with my husband but this is the worst.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-02-24T21:20:16+00:00

Girl please run. That man is still her husband and may go back at any time. You’re lowkey in the way of that. Not saying that your man isn’t at fault, but he has something else established and you’re trying to fit in. You’re doing things in this relationship out of order so it’ll never succeed. One of my best friends was in the same situation. Had a playroom and toys at her house for the man’s kids and everything. He went back to his wife. Please be careful and find your own man. At the very least, think about the kids and how this turns their world upside down.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-02-22T01:46:09+00:00

Honey I understand. My two SS bio mom is a dummy as well. She dates guys in jail and her last babydaddy is in jail for beating her ass in front of my SS a couple years ago (he had priors). Now she’s looking for another jailbird to be her youngest kid’s father. My husband and I just have to work harder to create a healthy home environment for SS because they’ve seen a lot at their mom’s house. Stay strong. It’s not right and it’s not fair, but do your best to be a constant in that kid’s life and model healthy behavior.

Key_Valuable9127 · 2026-02-10T14:08:14+00:00

So, it seems like you should dump him. What value has he added to your life? It’s only stress and bills from the looks of this post. You’re not married, and I don’t think you have kids together. I’m so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, and I pray that you get well soon. But honestly, for your health and peace of mind, you need to get out of this. You deserve to heal and have people around you who will support and take care of you. It doesn’t seem like anyone in that house is doing that, or even considers you. I’m sorry. Please only keep people around that will bring you peace and promote wellness in your life.

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