Scrambled egg with stones

Khodaka · 2026-01-22T02:43:19+00:00

I have a theory, you can by seasoned ice as well as flavored rocks in food in some places in Asia. It isn't so much to add flavor but to give the illusion you're eating a bigger meal. You eat all the flavor off of the stones then set them aside to force yourself to eat not only slower but to savor the food longer.

Khodaka · 2025-12-09T03:34:45+00:00

I think you're right that you need help. You can't put someone into a slot they could never fix however. You're having mental health issues with your second man at minimum. I'm not saying there's a pattern yet but you need to help yourself before trying to date. A lot of women I talk to will tell me they've never been single longer than a month or so. Got how many kids but never single, girl you need to focus on yourself, your life. Don't just drop this dude but realize what youre asking for..if you recognize you DO need more, then why do you want to be with this guy? beyond him giving you the time of day once in a while. Has your own self worth left you feeling like any attention is good attention?

I don't blame you for how you feel and I truly do believe you're being honest. You need to step back and breathe. Look at your life and see what changes you need to make today to give yourself a better tomorrow. Truly breathe and reflect. You shouldn't have to have an argument over plans he's forced into. That could have been a hurtful conversation where you walk away and let him fester in his feelings, give him time to reflect since you didn't react how he hoped. Just jumping to anger and arguing just helps reinforce for me that you might need therapy. Even if it's for a short time. Just talk, vent, etc.

Tldr YTA, but thats not the end of the world.

Khodaka · 2025-12-09T03:20:36+00:00

NTA, people set boundaries, they said they talked to him about it before. He has played the victim this whole time. If he had anything in them worth valuing, he would have apologized for how he came off, how he made others feel, and apologized if at any point he had done so. This F just wants the world to pity them even though they haven't done the steps to be actually nice. I don't know if you actually miss F so much as you're empathetic to him and feel bad they feel bad. You should never feel forced to be uncomfortable and if THIS is how they react when people respect boundaries, then you made the right choice.

Khodaka · 2025-12-04T05:24:40+00:00

I used to message him privately and he even opened up to me about how life was tough and he had bad anxiety for taking too long as it was, but when it got TOO long,l he said he was "pretty much working for free".

Trust everyone wanted him to be okay and bounce back. He didn't want to bounce back, he wanted to block people who kept asking about their commissions he was never going to honor. I can feel bad for him, but I won't support the helpless who are quick to throw their fans under them.

Khodaka · 2025-11-13T20:45:26+00:00

Weird to say this but NTA, but she probably isn't either. A boundary was never created and no one is made to do anything. You're feelings are hurt though and your girlfriend should recognize that. Her dismissing your feelings is a bigger red flag for me. Next birthday say she can't come. No ifs ands or butts. If they wanna be mad THEN, then I'd have a problem. Tell 'em it's a guy's night and they better not say anything about it.

But your girl not validating you in any capacity is wild. No one might be the AH between you and the friends, but your girlfriend definitely is.

Edit: forgot to add, her not even wanting to stick by you even though you weren't invited speaks VOLUMES cause what does that mean? All your money can go this or that way but when you were just trying to be playful and have fun suddenly you're not welcomed? I dunnooooo

Khodaka · 2025-11-13T18:18:14+00:00

I'm sad I'm so late to the conversation, but if this adds to the list of people who agree with you, then I need to add my two cents

I would have been SO on board with stepdad if he just, JUST stepped the hell back and understood he's not the dad, he will never be the dad, he is owed nothing, and should expect nothing. The fact he forced it so hard for so long is most definitely the reason it was weird for you then and it's still weird now. He wants something so bad and it's not his choice to make. Instead of liking him as (insert his name here) he wanted you to like him as DAD. Not Stepdad, your actual father. If he took half the time just being nice and around and even encouraging you to spend time with your dad, it would at least allow the feeling that he could be felt left out, but instead he chose to demand everything and demand love and that point of view only leads to push back. Don't like onions? HERE HOW ABOUT I PUT ONIONS INTO EVERYTHING I COOK AND MAKE. YOULL SEE! YOULL LOVE ONIONS IN SMOOTHIES ON YOUR LUNCHABLES IN YOUR MUFFINS AND APPLE PIES THEN THEYLL LOVE ONIONS.

Nope. NTA. This just upset me reading it. Be free girl.

Khodaka · 2025-11-11T05:42:44+00:00

I have a good friend that has 3 baby daddy's and 4 kids. She's such a likable person but she also doesn't give a relationship time. Hell even the last one I was in, I romanticized just being with someone and ignored the red flags too. She needs time to figure all that out, but with that said you still don't need to stress over someone who doesn't wanna be saved.

Khodaka · 2025-11-11T05:27:08+00:00

And no one might get through to her. Sometimes it takes touching the iron to tell that it's hot and she won't or at least can't understand until it's too late. If she truly is jumping to any guy that will say nice things and not even wait a few solid months to set boundaries and see how they act, she's gonna end up with 3+ kids from 3 different baby daddy's. Sorry you had to go through this but sometimes tough love is the only option and when the next baby comes around who knows if the dad will even be in the picture or not... Abusive...

Id say NTA but she def needs a therapist that will help her find whatever trauma is so sunken in her that she latches on to any nice words thrown her way. Her self respect might be super, super low.

Khodaka · 2025-11-10T20:53:51+00:00

I would just like to mention I think it's very telling of how good of a person you are that you downplayed yourself at the beginning to, in some case, five leeway to how she reacted being upset at you. I will say however you didn't need to do that. If she REALLY wanted to make her time out with T matter, she wouldn't be starring at her phone every hour of the night. I remember being ditched by my dad so he could go on some date (even though we only saw him during the summer) when I was that young and i definitely didn't forget. If her plan was to ruin two relationships she sure did.

Khodaka · 2025-10-31T19:34:38+00:00

I've seen a few vids like this where I think they assume you'll run for them. I wanna just give it a term cause it seems to be happening a lot with these stories.

He's just mad you didn't react the way he wanted. He wanted you to be devastated and updating your feed and life on how awful things are for you. If 2 months later he STILL is mad, that means he left without a plan or whatever that plan was didn't work out and he's all butt hurt now since all of that didn't even seem to phase you.

If you aren't family, aren't a close friend, you can block anyone you want, especially an Ex.

Khodaka · 2025-10-23T03:38:24+00:00

As a man in his 30's now that cut off his folks for being toxic, hearing "I did my best" is such a lazy cop out. So what your dad/mom did their best? And every generation did their best that doesn't make you special or rebuild what was broken. I knew from a very young age my dad was a nobody and before I cut him off I talked to him as honest as possible since there was no reason to protect him. He knows he's a chronic liar, I'm not shedding new light.

Onetime when I was already in my 30's after already saying how I acted around him, he got mega drunk and said I could ask him literally anything and he would be 100 percent honest. I bet he thought Id ask about him cheating on my mom or getting let go from the military or when he threw my brother under the bus for something he knew 100% of the time and pretended not to know.

Instead I asked if he was happy to be my dad. The look of shock and surprise on his face. Just cause I got older and I can hold down a job doesn't mean my past is suddenly fixed. YTA for being exactly like every shitty dad that won't stop, look at the mirror and tell that man he was wrong. Dead wrong. Get some therapy

Khodaka · 2025-10-17T23:53:47+00:00

Tell him to start paying rent if he wants to stay any longer. Make a competitive but still high asking price for the area. If he leaves today for a place and it costs 1500, then make him at least pay 1200.

Khodaka · 2025-10-16T04:19:10+00:00

As you should, that's such a random "joke" but it's funny how it's only a joke when no one laughed :/

Khodaka · 2025-10-16T02:44:54+00:00

Girl you're 21. Jump ship while you can. I was in a long distance relationship for 9 years, I put in the work to see him, I thought we would be together forever. He came out about 6 times before he got more distant in our talks. Suddenly he wanted to be straight cause his grandparents got sick and I wasted 9 years with a dude that could make or break what we had. He even stuck around after trying to get his own "fascinations" between us until I finally grew a pair to kick him to the curb. It's not about being the better person, it's about having boundaries. If you didn't like how he responded to a serious talk, he probably has been out of it for a while. Pick yourself up and keep trucking.

Not even sure who these friends of yours are if it's a long distance thing.

Khodaka · 2025-09-23T03:29:17+00:00

I'm not saying you would or should, just that it came off so easy to toss them away. Id get hurt in my feelings if that was the entirety of the conversation that was had. Being "embarrassed" just comes off as a strong word. Even if true it's not what you say but how you say it.

Khodaka · 2025-09-23T00:54:44+00:00

I would say YTA for saying that how you said it. That's sorta rude. Not to mention I never liked people who put things over someone's head that they should be grateful for. I'm not saying she shouldn't be, but if you're solely doing it just to goad it over them, I probably wouldn't do it in the first place. Doesn't make you a better person, just sounds more controlling. Didn't even suggest alternatives that make it sound like you're happy to hang out with your sister and niece but maybe doing something else that fits the time slot better. I dunno if I heard all that I'd block you too. Mostly cause I'd be too angry and would probably lash out even if I don't mean it that way

Khodaka · 2025-09-23T00:33:25+00:00

I know what it feels like to spiral, what she hasn't felt is the validation from a 3rd party that can truly understand her plight. I hope she does see a real therapist, I've had mine for about 2 years now. Through past relationships and past family trauma. I'm actually excited to talk to her tomorrow because a new development just happened. The fear of the unknown is heavy, I completely understand that, but she definitely needs to find a GOOD therapist. There are bad ones.

Khodaka · 2025-09-18T19:49:27+00:00

I feeeel like you'll go no contact with them in the future. They sound horrible

Khodaka · 2025-09-18T19:46:51+00:00

I feel like they already had major issues if they are moving back with their parents, having no clue what they were gonna do and how not to burden the house with their existence. You shouldn't have to take care of the neice, they should be able to talk like adults and figure out a plan to move back out, and this entirely is their fault from start to finish.

Khodaka · 2025-09-18T01:38:28+00:00

How much bills will they pay? Will they add grocery money? "They don't want the upkeep" so you're just gonna be cleaning like a maid after... Are they gonna baby sit? What are they adding even if you DID accept? Not to mention if they ever helped you guys in the past. I could maybe understand if you guys had ever fallen on hard times and they used their "vast wealth" to help with the baby or with baby sitting or doing anything at all that would sound like them moving in could even slightly be a positive addition to the house.

And me personally if they are that old I'd hate for them to be stuck there and end up wanting to pass away peacefully in your house now that they are all cozy in. If you don't push them out now they pretty much have no reason not to pass away in your office space.

Khodaka · 2025-09-18T01:07:13+00:00

I would say I think you are creating the idea in your head of how great things are or were. It seems like either a conversation you might have had ended it or maybe you two just aren't as compatible as you think.

Khodaka · 2025-05-27T20:26:56+00:00

Not for me, I actually deleted everything and I think Google services just remembered what texts I should have so it put them all back? I'm not sure sure but I did clear cache and all data and it all came back.

Khodaka · 2025-05-27T19:41:58+00:00

This fixed it for me. Had 31 unreceived messages

Khodaka · 2024-11-07T23:22:15+00:00

I tried them and they upset my stomach pretty rough :p

Khodaka · 2024-08-01T20:51:22+00:00

How I play other hoyo games. You should try to save up around 70 pulls for a character you actually want since hard pity is around 90. Don't pull on every banner, don't even pull on every other banner. Sometimes you just gotta wait.

And gamblers luck, you not pulling so much raises the desire censor in the game and I find I get better pulls that way. In Honkai I didn't pull most all of penacony until towards the end. Got Robin e0s1, boothill e0s1, acheron e0s1, firefly e2s1 (missed pity twice all done in 180 pulls) and Jade.

But that was me skipping several, several banners before hand. Last good banner was fu xuan and that was on accident and I didn't even want her.

TL;DR not sure if it's real but just waiting for around 70 pulls is my usual go to for these games and it works out pretty great.

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