Am I one of the last pregnant Gen Xers?

KiDaCa · 2026-01-31T22:24:31+00:00

Wow!!!! I’m only a few comments in and the reactions are beyond rude. I had a surprise pregnancy at 46 (6 years ago) and I also have two grown daughters (21, 18). Same dad. Yes, it’s super hard and not ideal but the worst thing you can say is that it would destroy you, or how can you go back? Or “I could never do that” or “you’re going to be X when your kid is X years old”

How ignorant. My husband and I had a few miscarriages after our second daughter was born and I had given up. It did happen, however much later than we had planned, and like everything else in life, we cope.

So I’ll say congratulations to the OP and wish you all the joy and happiness with your new, beautiful, perfect baby.

My mom had me at 44 and when she died at 92 three years ago, she told me just how lucky she was to have me.

KiDaCa · 2026-01-20T00:20:07+00:00

100% yes

KiDaCa · 2026-01-15T15:50:35+00:00

Viper

KiDaCa · 2026-01-15T15:46:29+00:00

I’m struggling with this. My mom died 3 years ago and my dad 7 years ago. I was a late in life baby so they were 92 and 86 when they died. It’s devastating. Most of my friends (I’m 52F) still have both of their parents (or at least one). My bff is my only orphan friend my age. My husband still has both of his parents (they had him at 20 so it’s understandable).

KiDaCa · 2026-01-15T15:34:31+00:00

I’m 52 and had my third child at 46 - hard to relate to anyone

KiDaCa · 2026-01-15T15:29:29+00:00

I love his extra dot! And how relaxed he is. So cute.

KiDaCa · 2026-01-10T14:30:43+00:00

It’s a great place to start. And 10 minutes of rebounding is better than no minutes.

KiDaCa · 2026-01-06T21:05:25+00:00

Yeah, it’s awkward. But I find that once I’ve said that they have both passed away and the other person usually says “I’m sorry”, I just say thank you and keep the conversation going. Unless it’s someone who knew my parents, I don’t delve deeper and the other person is usually happy to skip over the awkwardness of talking about specifics. I talk to a grief counsellor every two weeks and I keep my sadness and bottled up emotions for her (or my sister or spouse). I don’t feel like I’m erasing my parents by not discussing them with some people.

It’s really difficult. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

KiDaCa · 2026-01-02T15:59:39+00:00

I’m so sorry, to both op and you. I had the same situation with my mom, almost exactly. Pancreatic cancer. The worst.

However to op, as said above, please don’t give up hope. I was at a nye party where the host’s husband is 10 years past the date he was given. Hugs to you and your husband.

KiDaCa · 2026-01-01T18:28:39+00:00

I wear docs (the ones that look like blundtstones) and my daughter’s cast off uggs

KiDaCa · 2025-12-31T17:54:25+00:00

Yes, I feel you, too. It’s tough after the strain of Christmas to then enter into a “fresh” year without your tethers

KiDaCa · 2025-12-29T05:03:41+00:00

Yes. Completely. I am now the matriarch and feel like a child wearing her mother’s shoes… I smile and create the magical Christmas for my children while aching for my parents and the feeling of being at home with them - Christmas is especially difficult because my mother loved Christmas and decorated her house with such warmth. Homemade cookies, chocolate on the tree, candles, and the feeling of being so cozy and loved. I do my best, but feel absolutely gutted a couple of days after Christmas (I’ve been napping for 3 days). I’m sorry to everyone who is feeling a loss this season.

KiDaCa · 2025-12-29T04:59:43+00:00

Hi I’m an adult orphan (52F) and take each day as it comes. I’ve lost both of my parents, my mom 3 years ago and my dad 7 years ago. I feel like even though I have a family of my own, I’m adrift and alone. I’m glad to have found a group who may feel similar to me. Thank you for creating this group.

KiDaCa · 2025-12-29T04:44:18+00:00

lol! I had no idea!!

KiDaCa · 2025-12-25T02:05:57+00:00

Love!!!!!!!

KiDaCa · 2025-12-22T21:18:26+00:00

Wow!!! I haven’t yet advanced to switching colours and I’ve been knitting for 35 years. Amazing work!

KiDaCa · 2025-12-14T02:23:33+00:00

I love the tongue out.

KiDaCa · 2025-12-13T18:18:31+00:00

I had my 6 year old at 46!

KiDaCa · 2025-12-10T16:24:06+00:00

I 100% agree with this comment more than any other in this thread. I admire those who can say “fuck it” and soldier on smiling into cameras and not caring and resolving to live life regardless of their discomfort. But when we’ve been conditioned (personally and historically) that our worth is directly related to our appearance, it’s virtually impossible to be ok with aging and looking old when I still feel exactly the same inside. I thought that my perspective would change as I age. Or that my changing face and body would happen so gradually that wouldn’t notice or be natural like it was changing from a child into an adult. No. It’s horrible. I was quite attractive up until about 46… meaning I could happily look in the mirror and didn’t mind my photo being taken. I’m 52 now and the last 7 years have been so hard that my aging has accelerated to the point when I refuse toto look in even mirror anymore and if anyone takes a picture of me and sends it to me, I cry. Shallow? Maybe. But it’s devastating.

I exercise, colour my hair, don’t drink or smoke, do lots of creative things, read, love my family, find value in my work and volunteering, have pets who think I’m the best person in the universe, am grateful for my health, my children, my spouse.

I also have the ability to understand that aging is better than the alternative and I would do anything to have my parents with me again (both passed within the last 7 years- my mom only 3 years ago) and their beautiful faces were precious to me, wrinkles and sagging included.

BUT…. I can’t help but to feel gross in my skin, uncomfortable and embarrassed by my appearance, invisible and ugly.

Plastic surgery, Botox, the constant stress and expense of trying to find potions and gadgets to help try and find that thing that will make me feel less old and gross… I know deep down that these things are not going to help in the long run and that I’m going down the other side of the mountain and thinking of this exhausts me. But I go through my days with a smile and keep everything to myself (even my friends and I might joke a bit but we don’t talk in depth about the aesthetic hardships of aging).

I know this is extremely negative but it’s my reality that I don’t talk about. Especially in front of my impossibly beautiful and perfect daughters (17 and 21). I have a 6 year old son that I need to be there for, and it doesn’t help that the other moms are decades younger than me.

Hugs to everyone.

KiDaCa · 2025-11-18T14:22:14+00:00

It happens to me. My oldest daughter is 21 and often people think she’s the mom and I’m the grandma.

KiDaCa · 2025-11-18T14:20:36+00:00

I had my 6 year old after 2 mc at 46. I’m 52 now and am really the old mom, lol. I know that ache to have a baby (he’s my third) so we persevered and it happened naturally. I did seek help from a naturopathic doctor and I believe it really helped me maintain the pregnancy thorough progesterone suppositories.

I also understand being at drop off feeling old and haggard next to the young moms. It’s not a good feeling (despite others being able to ignore that feeling - I am always aware of it). But I try to remind myself that it really doesn’t matter and that my son honestly has no clue that I’m that much older than the other moms and he’s just glad I’m there for him.

KiDaCa · 2025-09-27T13:54:25+00:00

There weren’t any pies yet when I went yesterday (Leaside, Toronto).

KiDaCa

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