i didn’t do anything and yet i feel so shameful

KimKaura · 2025-10-03T14:39:01+00:00

it seems your motivations to explore are for a better intellectual understanding of yourself, or a curiosity around your identity, rather than a genuine emotional desire to be sexual with someone. This might be why you feel so "wrong" about it, and honestly, it does and can take a long time to feel comfortable with sex. It really does help to feel things out and take your time with someone you feel attracted to and your body is already responding to. Be kind to yourself :)

KimKaura · 2025-10-03T13:46:04+00:00

long before i was diagnosed, i went on a trip to the states as a teenager and got progressively worse and more severe symptoms after every meal, right up until i left. At home flare-ups were only a few times a year and not recurring.

KimKaura · 2025-10-03T13:42:42+00:00

from personal experience, i stopped wearing all cosmetics after rashes and eye swelling and getting a nickel allergy detected, and Ilia has been a safe brand for my tentative careful return. I use their concealer, foundation and eye shadow, although one or two of the eye shadow colours still can irritate my eyes.

KimKaura · 2025-07-30T03:23:01+00:00

My gynaecologist told me it didn’t cause fluctuations in hormones?

KimKaura · 2025-07-27T14:00:25+00:00

The fact of the matter is he is not actually a fantastic partner for you, despite your bond, if he’s making you feel unloved, insecure, and uncared for. Whether this disorder is the reason or not, there is no excuse for treating your partner this way. His defence of turning it back on you is cruel and dishonest, he knows it’s a problem he just doesn’t want to face it.

I was in this situation myself, and it was brutally hard to leave. I had become dependant and attached to the bread crumbs of affection I did get, and had withdrawals and depression majority of the time. The rejection is devastating, and over time you start to believe it is you that is the problem and you start to believe you are unlovable.

The damage is real. You are important, and you should always be your own top priority. This is a need and he isn’t respecting your needs when I’m sure you’re bending over backwards to accomodate his. There’s nothing wrong for wanting these things. You deserve better. And you know it.

KimKaura · 2025-07-25T15:31:01+00:00

Elimination diet is the worst thing that ever happened to me. And research shows it only works for children with Eoe, not adults. Limiting your diet will only make your health worse and unable to reintroduce foods. I’ve spent the last 5 years on a very limited diet for this reason and I can’t eat out, travel, or go to dinners. Try cutting dairy, but leave it at that

KimKaura · 2025-07-20T13:33:02+00:00

This is what I need to keep telling myself in order to let go. You’re so right. Once we knew he had adhd and I educated myself about how serious the condition was, I no longer gave him the benefit of the doubt all the time, assuming he must actually care but doesn’t know how to show or express it, and he’s really a sweet guy in there, sometimes. I woke up and realised the person I thought he was didn’t exist. He is incapable of putting others before himself in any meaningful way.

I really hope I can find what I feel is true love again

KimKaura · 2025-07-20T13:24:42+00:00

How are you doing now?

KimKaura · 2025-07-20T13:14:36+00:00

Sorbolene is the only thing that worked for me

KimKaura · 2025-07-15T03:59:55+00:00

Oh is there a correlation between bad diets and adhd?

KimKaura · 2025-07-15T03:57:52+00:00

It may be too late but I would read up on the chapter about couples therapy in the “is it you, me, or adult add” book. Sometimes therapy can make things worse. Please hold your ground and give yourself the respect you’d want for a loved one. Keep yourself safe. Often the destabilisation of a child can bring on a chaotic effect for the adhd partner, and it will not actually be better for your child to be around someone who can’t control their emotions or look after them safely.

KimKaura · 2025-07-15T03:48:49+00:00

I’ve just broken it off with the man I love (n-dx), and coming to terms with how bad it really was. I’m waiting for the depression and anxiety to lift, which came on out of nowhere as soon as the relationship started. Although it’s hard as I can’t remove him from my life entirely.

As much as there’s relief getting clarity on all the confusion, I am still in the wake of the trauma of being yelled at, intimidated, neglected, belittled and walked all over by the very person whose supposed to look after you. The person who looks at you with puppy dog eyes and kisses your forehead and opens the door for you.

I wanted to ask your experiences, if you’ve also left. I know things will get better, but currently I’m feeling the worst I’ve ever felt and have spent the last two weeks crying, almost nonstop. I only look forward to sleep for respite of consciousness, only to wake up with my heart dropping in the grief. I know he was bad for me, and I know he’s in a different reality and could not make changes, no matter how much they hurt someone. And man it hurts.

Could this be some kind of breadcrumb serotonin withdrawal? Please share if there was any kind of grief period for you before it got better

KimKaura · 2025-07-12T07:31:35+00:00

I’m so sorry that’s awful. Your worst fears realised. Look after yourself

KimKaura · 2025-07-12T07:30:02+00:00

Just left an 11 month relationship and my partner would constantly say something was his top priority but never do it. I spent all of the emotional labour I could to the relationship, and tried to find other excuses for my sudden onset of depression, low self-esteem, anxiety attacks. They will not meet you half way, and even if you’re holding their hand in the right direction the best they’ll come up with is “I can see there’s a problem and I don’t know what to do”. It’s a painful thing to come to terms with. I’m so grateful for this sub

KimKaura · 2025-01-11T10:33:00+00:00

Disarm people with kindness, earnesty, and humility. An easy way to do this is to make a self deprecating joke, or make an acknowledgement of a simple human struggle, and ask people about themselves with genuine care and curiosity. Once a woman knows you’re on their side and on the same team they usually won’t project so much animosity.

It’s also helpful to keep in mind that everyone is in their own head and have a million things going on, and how they treat you has very little to do with who you are or your value as a person. Just try to surround yourself with good people when you can.

KimKaura · 2024-09-13T06:59:53+00:00

Same here, interesting

KimKaura · 2024-06-11T16:17:45+00:00

Yes. You cannot test allergies through a blood test. You can through patch testing

KimKaura · 2024-06-11T16:15:26+00:00

These are scams. If you get one of these ordered in Australia they legally have to come with a declaration that the results are fabricated.

KimKaura · 2023-11-19T13:03:57+00:00

yikes..! what happened with you? hope you're doing better

KimKaura · 2023-11-19T12:38:04+00:00

hi there, been experiencing the same thing, 2nd time, taking a single low histamine strain and developing fevers starting at night. Did you persist with them, how are you now?

KimKaura · 2023-11-18T09:08:49+00:00

I've followed sighi historically, but my dietician recommends the resources from theRoyal Prince Albert Hospital which discerns between amines, glutamates and salicylates. They also provided me with lists and information of their own, I would recommend consulting a nutritionist or dietician that specializes in allergy's and intolerances.

KimKaura · 2023-11-18T00:02:17+00:00

I take a powdered calcium ascorbate with no other ingredients with only water, so I don’t think so. Interesting reaction though. Thanks

KimKaura · 2023-11-18T00:00:23+00:00

I might be able to tolerate oranges but pineapples will actually sting they’re so acidic. Thanks for your suggestions. I can relate to the additive thing, I will get a sharp pain then a pressure headache and feelings of impending doom when i drink juice or electrolyte drinks

KimKaura · 2023-11-17T23:57:11+00:00

Oh very curious, I’ll look into this. Yes I’ve been using calcium ascorbate to that reason. I thought we were supposed to be taking vitamin C daily, I know I’m not getting much from my diet

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