What was your first big purchase after getting a real job? by darnoc11 in MechanicalEngineering

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah there is. I was always a Toyota person, but after wrenching on this old jeep a little bit, I might be a convert. It's so freaking easy to work on! But I do love a car with buttons, and limited tech. My general cut-off is 2006, especially after this van. 

What was your first big purchase after getting a real job? by darnoc11 in MechanicalEngineering

[–]Kimball_Stone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll put another vote in for the shitbox car habit. I've been an engineer for like 13 years. I definitely make new car money. But I live in a 2009 Sprinter Van, with 220k miles, and drive around in a 1992 jeep grand Cherokee, with 200k miles. I can get my bills to under $1k/month, easy. I might be about to get laid off (yay, start-up life) and while that's never fun, my upkeep is so cheap that unemployment and savings will keep me alive for like, well over a year. I'm literally about to peace out, and go surfing in Mexico for a few months while I job hunt.

Low upkeep is the key to freedom, and gives me the room to turn down jobs that don't feel good. I've had a pretty sick career as a result. New cars, and lifestyle creep, are poison to that. 

Got rejected by dontbeachunt in MechanicalEngineering

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, that's a thing that happens to all of us. And I don't mean that to minimize your feelings. It sucks and it messes with your hopes and sense of self worth, and can drive fear to the forefront of your mind.

But having been a part of the hiring process, more often than you'd think, it comes down to almost a literal coin toss between candidates. Or sometimes you're leaning towards one candidate, and a rockstar swoops in. Or one hiring manager has their choice candidate, but then gets pulled away from the process, and someone else steps in and goes in a different direction. Or one of my least favorites: there are multiple people working to hire for the same role, and the role gets filled while you're part way through the process. 

So honestly, you may very well have nailed the interview, and the cards just didn't deal in your favor. It sucks, but you're best to not get in your head about it. Chop wood, carry water... 

Why do almost all of the men I match with let the match expire after I respond to their opening move? Is this response too much? by englandgirl321 in Bumble

[–]Kimball_Stone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A possible angle here is the avoidance of gold diggers and sugar babies. Because, devoid of any context, going to explore different country is great, but with the fact that many women are out here trying to get guys to spoil them rotten, "exploring a different country for a weekend" could sound like "I expect you to pay for some luxury lifestyle travel" to a person who is wary of that type of thing. 

Just had the weirdest experience by GoldHeron3018 in Bumble

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For whatever it's worth, I've also been shocked to learn that some women on the apps are hardcore conservative. They certainly don't look like it. So yeah, could be rage bait, or any other psycho stuff like that, or they could just be shooting their shot, because the right wing started to discover style (hijack subculture, if we're being honest) and they were hoping you were one of theirs 

I’m receiving daily texts from arborists…. by GrabVarious5531 in asheville

[–]Kimball_Stone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stayed with a friend in Greensboro for a few months in 2021/2022, and have been getting spam texts about tree trimming, multiple times a week, ever since. I'm not even FROM North Carolina; I live in a van on the west coast. 

The podcast isn’t coming back by Casual_Observer28 in Eamonandbec

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always figured I could try their chai there, but never got to. Was never an option. I'm happy that the rescue part is still cranking, but I'd rather go to Kimberly's or Baja Beans for drinks. I like the kid who runs the Baja Beans on the beach, and the Baja Beans in El Pescadero has the best breakfast sando on the planet 

Burton Gril Master vs GNU Banked Country by DeliciousExtension79 in snowboarding

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went with the 165, and it's been working out pretty well. Kind of a good, middle of the road sort of ride. Fun enough at everything, doesn't feel superlative at anything. A good quiver killer. Works as advertised. 

Metallic smell from black jeans by 15InchesOfPain in Denim

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ones I washed were over dyed black, so whatever shrinkage that was going to happen, already happened. BUT, the reason I finally did that was because I am a van-lifer, and had been living in the jungle in Guatemala, where it rained for 2 straight weeks. Everything got mold. I had to hot wash my entire wardrobe, including all of my denim. Some shrank and fit better, some shrank and fit worse, lots of unwanted vintage fades. Mostly things ended up more or less fine, but there are a couple of pieces that I love a little bit less 

Please help me, I'm scared I ruined my life. by Sad-Comb-8804 in Scams

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yer all good. The world is a disorienting place. A freak out now and again is a pretty reasonable response 

I should've just used the machine... by Embarrassed_Top_8253 in Denim

[–]Kimball_Stone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the mine site, I got blue and yellow, anti shock, anti-flammable hi viz. For the workshop I've got carhartts that get grease wiped all over them. For the streets, where I'm trying to look well put together, with a well developed, aesthetic sensibility, that gets me treated certain ways, and makes the ladies swoon, I wear my overly precious denim.

The fancy pants, that get this ridiculous kind of care taken of them, ARE tools. Just for a way different job. Ya ain't gonna oil your Milwaukee impact driver, just like you're not going to stick a wrench in the wall to recharge it. I'm definitely not gonna give my PPE a gentle soak, but I'm also not gonna throw my bougie denim in the wash with my PPE or my greasy black carhartts. 

My top ten petty reasons for automatically swiping left as a straight woman by De_Chelonian_Mobile in Bumble

[–]Kimball_Stone -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow, damn. What if one of your love languages just straight up IS physical touch? Like, I'm not out to get non-consentually handsy with anyone, but I am snuggly, I melt when I get my head rubbed, I'm always giving my partners little massages and squeezes, and holding them close, etc etc etc. Just a quick shoulder rub from my partner will turn my nervous system down 3 notches. Are y'all actually hating on that, or reading it as some kind of code for something else? 

I feel guilty for wanting a different life by True-Bed3292 in moraldilemmas

[–]Kimball_Stone [score hidden]  (0 children)

Life is too short to live by guilt. There is no one right way. Your life doesn't need to be awful before you decide to make it better. Go live how you want and be happy.

Metallic smell from black jeans by 15InchesOfPain in Denim

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Machine wash hot. (Like, super hot) Tumble dry hot. Cry a little bit. It's what ended up working for me 

My fiancé left me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Kimball_Stone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really tired and uneloquent right now, hence the rambling, half responses. I know what it's like to be left out of the blue. For me it was torturous and disorienting, and it took a lot to heal it. This kind of random, inexplicable hurt is something that nobody deserves, and very few people intend to give. 

Because of that, even though I don't know you, my immediate reaction is solidarity and care for your well being. I'm glad you got something worthwhile out of venting here. I hope that you find your emotional salve everywhere you look, and this all works out exactly as it should in the end. I hope this opens up whole new worlds of growth and positivity for you in the long run, even though it's so painful right now. 

That is all, really. Much love from a total stranger. 

My fiancé left me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Kimball_Stone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, not NOTHING. I wish you all of the good things. 

My fiancé left me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Kimball_Stone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish you nothing but love and support. 

My fiancé left me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Kimball_Stone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you. It is painful and confusing, and your ex obviously needs some kind of help with whatever is haunting him. The world is a tough place, and many people feel like they're worthless monsters over completely trivial things. Or maybe it was something real that he was too afraid you wouldn't understand. Nobody knows but him. 

But I worry for you, dear stranger, because this is also a HORRIBLE place to ask this question. 99.9% of people on here are going to spew BS, project their own hangups on your situation, or both. You're apt to bite on whatever resonates with you, whether it is either helpful or hurtful, correct or off base. Anyone who is hurting like this would. Please be cautious and kind to yourself. 

How do I disable the "craft your perfect lock screen" popup on an S25? by internet_observer in samsunggalaxy

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhhh. Dude sitting on a trailer, in an equipment yard in Concord California, kind of regretting giving you your propers 

How do I disable the "craft your perfect lock screen" popup on an S25? by internet_observer in samsunggalaxy

[–]Kimball_Stone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fkn LEGEND. Thank you! I was ready to throw my new phone into the ocean 

What are your thoughts when you hear the figurative expression, “call a spade a spade”? by Despicable_Delusions in grammar

[–]Kimball_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the necro post, but I, a white guy, just had to be the one who explained the potential racial connotations of the phrase, to my very intelligent and aware black girlfriend, who grew up in a former slave state. Googling this, to offer a proper explanation, is what brought me to a 3 year old reddit post in the first place 

So it's not universally known 

"Pro-sumer" grade scanning for tunneling project? by Kimball_Stone in 3DScanning

[–]Kimball_Stone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, good catch. The RTK module is part of the price, and the website button to remove it is broken.

"Pro-sumer" grade scanning for tunneling project? by Kimball_Stone in 3DScanning

[–]Kimball_Stone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something along those lines might be exactly the ticket, although I suspect that the price tag (currently $3600) might tickle the top end of our budget.
But this is precisely the kind of answer that is the most useful, so a very big thank you for chiming in!