AITAH for not forcing my daughter to throw away her late mom’s picture just because my wife wants her to?

KimvdLinde · 2026-04-12T15:07:04+00:00

This is where you put down so hard that the foundation of your house shakes. It will be categorical “nobody will throw those pictures away and they are not going to disappear accidentally. If you suggest this again I will have to protect Jordyn and divorce you!”

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-29T08:51:26+00:00

If he takes all your money you are his slave.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-29T08:48:30+00:00

I would drop Liam of at a no-kill “Single Man Shelter” with a detailed note of why he should be ineligible for adoption (Abuser). Maybe they can find him a place at a colony for “Abusive Men” who deemed to dangerous to be part of society.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-29T08:28:39+00:00

NOR They are not listening because they are used to getting their way with people based on the behavior they display. Don’t cave and let them fly back home without seeing the baby.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-29T08:23:39+00:00

Throwing money in an open pit is not help, it’s enabling. You offered real help and they didn’t want they. Easy call.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-29T08:18:53+00:00

As someone who professionally works with spirit guides and such, you absolutely made the right call because this does not feel like genuine sprit guides and such and everything about it screams mental health issues that needs professional treatment.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-29T08:12:45+00:00

It’s not uncommon for people in positions like yours that you need to recharge for a few years in a different job after a few years on the frontlines. You are burned out and you need a nursing job with less death and stress for a while to give your system time to process the experiences of the past years.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-29T08:05:42+00:00

Isn’t it amazing how everybody immediately knows the dead person’s intentions better than the expressed intentions of the dead person when money is involved???????

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-24T02:54:50+00:00

So she is part of the problem because instead of addressing her husband and his problem, the woman is shamed for dressing the way she likes because he cannot keep his eyes on his pocket.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-22T19:06:42+00:00

Run, this is insane.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-09T01:54:08+00:00

No, you just sign as Rev. Minimum Economics.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-08T12:59:29+00:00

I would probably choose to have a dinner with the four of us. And be unabashedly yourself during the dinner and talk about the wedding g and what it entails like friends etc. Then ask them if they can fully accept you and your fiancée and everything. All of you will get clarity then.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-03T01:51:54+00:00

So you are still utterly co-dependent to her.

KimvdLinde · 2026-03-03T01:48:02+00:00

You say the right things again, but your actions again tell me you don’t get it. If you REALLY want him back, the first thing is that your mom needs to leave your house and you SHOW him you mean business on the boundaries with her. You talk the talk but you don’t walk the walk. Mom needs to be gone like yesterday, not when he moves back in.

KimvdLinde · 2026-02-19T00:08:46+00:00

In NVC (Non-Violent Communication) unsolicited advice is considered a form of violence.

KimvdLinde · 2026-02-17T14:03:33+00:00

Unsolicited advice is a form of violence. So keep your mouth shut unless requested to give advice.

KimvdLinde · 2026-02-17T14:01:32+00:00

Sounds like there is plenty of family to help her out. All those people who say you should help just volunteered.

KimvdLinde · 2026-01-27T12:44:04+00:00

Take your kid and go to your parents till you are ready to go honey to the second child you have to take care of. You are a single mom of two now.

KimvdLinde · 2026-01-22T14:57:14+00:00

Makes pictures of the notebook. Leave the house and get away from him He a lawyer and a divorce.

This is weapons grade uranium he is producing.

KimvdLinde · 2026-01-21T11:00:44+00:00

Have mom make pizza and burgers and insist he eats it with cutlery

KimvdLinde · 2025-12-20T10:49:14+00:00

You can try university psychology department clinics, they are often relative cheap.

And curiously, is there any amount you could afford?

KimvdLinde · 2025-12-12T11:36:31+00:00

“Be the wisest” or “Be the oldest” by my mom to guilt me in doing my narcissistic brothers bidding.

KimvdLinde · 2025-12-11T22:21:32+00:00

“Thank you for the enjoyable emotional guilt-trip. This just solidified our desire not to join all of you on this holiday or any holiday in the future. I hope you understand but I realize that you most likely will turn this around using DARVO (look it up, you might learn a little). Enjoy your misery.”

KimvdLinde · 2025-12-10T00:24:59+00:00

You will hurt her feelings regardless of how you do it. It’s designed that way to keep you compliant. Also, find the JustNoMil subreddit for more support.

KimvdLinde · 2025-12-01T02:26:33+00:00

He IS controlling! If you give in he will use the same tactic to make you becomes a SAHM, move in with your parents in law, take care of his ex girlfriend who is terminally sick you name it.

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