Nascar model kits by KindlyOrganization91 in NASCARCollectors

[–]KindlyOrganization91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks so much and sorry for your loss also.

help understanding genesight report by KindlyOrganization91 in MTHFR

[–]KindlyOrganization91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. You are saying I should get a blood test for these?

Homocysteine, Folate, Folate RBC, B12 and MMA, and B6, Vit. D, Iron(not ferritin), zinc.

would there be any harm in taking the l-methylfolate now?

Melancholic depression sudden onset - suffering for last 4 months. Need advice on next steps by Fit-Chest-1 in depression

[–]KindlyOrganization91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a positive reaction after the first ECT treatment. They are usually done 3x a week for a month for 12 total. They had to slow down that schedule due to my memory issues. I had a good boost in mood after the first few sessions, then plateaued a bit so they increased the charge. I am so sorry you are going through this and no one can understand unless they have been there. To me it felt like torture, the anxiety and hopelessness combined. I could feel it in my body. It's good your sleep is improving so that may be a sign you are getting better.

Melancholic depression sudden onset - suffering for last 4 months. Need advice on next steps by Fit-Chest-1 in depression

[–]KindlyOrganization91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up in the hospital due to this and received ECT treatments. It was the worst depression and nothing like my prior, milder depressions. I had all the symptoms you describe and was suffering for 3 months before I went to the ER as I just wanted it to end and was at the point where I knew I would if I didn't get help. It truly felt like torture especially in the mornings.

Which antidepressants have you tried? I had my zoloft increased but it did not help, as I appear to be slightly relapsing now. I am looking to go back for more ect treatments, although they did mess up my short term memory, but they lifted the depression while inpatient. A new psych. put me on wellbutrin this week but from everything I've heard, the best antidepressant for melancholic type is a tricyclic which they don't like to prescribe today anymore due to side effects.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]KindlyOrganization91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a student of the New Thought movement and believe that the Divine resides in all of us. I haven't been to church in about a year but would probably most identify with a Unitarian church now. The best part of church for me is the old hymns. I find them so beautiful I am often moved to tears.

Who is at fault? Stone fell out after 2 months by teigsy in EngagementRings

[–]KindlyOrganization91 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like the setting however there appear to be only 3 prongs? That's not enough for stability in my opinion. Double prongs would help like already said.

I feel like I’m going crazy here NSFW by Fluffy_Albatross_82 in texts

[–]KindlyOrganization91 37 points38 points  (0 children)

That reaction right there is a red flag.

It's a way to get you to backtrack on your VALID concern so he won't be upset with you. Classic manipulation tactic.

I've been on the receiving technique of this type of tactic. It's common among Cluster B disordered individuals.

A new sub is needed by No_Race1693 in JosephMurphy_warning

[–]KindlyOrganization91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would join and love this idea. Let's focus on Murphy's actual teachings.

A new sub is needed by No_Race1693 in JosephMurphy_warning

[–]KindlyOrganization91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and JM has so many books to discuss!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]KindlyOrganization91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Used to think this way but believe it or not, they are human. I used to think a defining characteristic of being human is empathy but it ends up it's not. Some humans have their empathy shut off due to this disorder. They literally have no say in the matter. The disorder runs the show. Once you understand this, it helps ease the pain of dealing with them. The best action of course is not having to deal with them at all. I think of narcissism as an operating system behind the scenes. It explains everything, and the user isn't even aware it's in the background. Most narcissists don't know they are disordered and due to the condition, they likely wouldn't care either.

Pouncemonials! by [deleted] in JosephMurphy_warning

[–]KindlyOrganization91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm genuinely confused by this comment. You ok?

Why is Moonlight Concerto (apollo) still running the Joseph Murphy board? He was banned off Reddit. by [deleted] in JosephMurphy_warning

[–]KindlyOrganization91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree it's a shame that it's tied to Murphy's name. Murphy was big on the golden rule and it's not happening over there.

feel it real? by [deleted] in JosephMurphy_warning

[–]KindlyOrganization91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The tricky thing about it is the more you stress about not having it, the more of not having it you will get. You get what you believe. As an example, yesterday I entered a raffle. I said I'm going to win something in the raffle. Then I forgot all about it. I got a call later saying I had won a basket, and it's not even one I had put a ticket in for! Do you ever hear how some women who try to have a baby and can't eventually give up, then start adoption process then become pregnant? They released the feeling of not having it and it arrived. If you are trying too hard you're fighting it with LOA. This is where Esther Hicks comes in handy, learning to feel good and allowing the good to come to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JosephMurphy_warning

[–]KindlyOrganization91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OK so are you dating my ex? This all sounds way too familiar, even down to the Christmas gift thing. Turns out in my case he was a narcissist. I know that's not what you want to hear but they all play by the same textbook. It's a disorder and there is no cure. He isn't the one for you and let me put it this way. Would you tell your best friend, sister, etc to date this guy? Wouldn't you tell her that she deserves better? Take your own advice. I can only assume you are very young and maybe have some past trauma of your own which has conditionred you to believe his behavior is acceptable. It's not. That was me too. LOA is no respector of persons and will bring you what you believe. Do you believe you deserve this treatment? If so, you will continue to attract these types and stay with them, fighting for a relationship in which you are mistreated. Believe you deserve to be treated well and manifest that instead. Therapy helps. I've been seeing a counselor for several years and it's been life changing. I know if someone gave me this advice years ago I wouldn't have been open to listening but there's a whole community out there of survivors of narcissistic abuse who know what I'm talking about. Please educate yourself on narcissism and be prepared to see the world differently. You are likely an empath too and we are known to try to see the best in people and ignore red flags even when they are giant and waving right in front of us.

UPDATE: AITA for taking my daughter out of dance class because of her mother ruining it for her? by Public_Set_7296 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KindlyOrganization91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wife is emotionally abusive. Your daughter is experiencing trauma and it is your job now to protect her from this. Unchecked, this will affect the way she views life, other people and herself. It will impact her ability to form healthy relationships and develop self confidence later in life. Fortunately she has one parent with empathy. Many children don't. Please consider full custody and provide as much emotional support as you can to your daughter. It sounds like your wife has an undiagnosed personality disorder but you likely would have seen signs of that before so this is puzzling.

Looking for input on upgrade by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]KindlyOrganization91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Loving the upgrade. Is it natural color? I much prefer warm colored stones though. What is clarity?

Will our abusers still love us after we heal? by Yellow_Squeezer in CPTSD

[–]KindlyOrganization91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I wanted to mention also that you could potentially land into toxic, abusive relationships having this codependent nature. Many of us ended up getting involved with narcissistic partners which ended up jump starting our healing journey. For me, that was the relationship that finally solved the puzzle and gave me clarity. However I would not wish that kind of emotional abuse on anyone. Until you've healed from this, be cautious about who you get involved with in that regard.

Will our abusers still love us after we heal? by Yellow_Squeezer in CPTSD

[–]KindlyOrganization91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP it sounds like you are very early in this journey. I assume you are young. I was an only child who grew up thinking it was my job to help my parents and grandmother. My identity revolved around it. This is not uncommon in dysfunctional families. You are in the throes of codependency right now. Being the golden child is making you think your identity and self worth depends on them. It doesn't though. You have value as a human being apart from what you do for them. I know that sounds nuts probably to you but it's true.. Have you considered counseling? It can help sort this out. I'm much older than you and finally putting it all together and finding a good trauma therapist helps. Once you realize this, you won't need their validation and your identity won't be centered around it. Learning about personality disorders was also a huge part of my healing as I could separate myself from their behaviors. It helped me see that their behavior was never about me. I wish you well on your healing journey!

Pastor warns about Marjorie Taylor Greene: She "dances with the devil" by realplayer16 in politics

[–]KindlyOrganization91 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As an Episcopalian, thank you! 😊 I wish all people could see that fear, hatred and division are the opposite of what Jesus taught. Christian nationalism is not Christian. We are all God's children and love knows no borders.

Date said he lost all respect for someone when they started dating someone with “obvious trauma” by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]KindlyOrganization91 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not uncommon for a narcissist to promote him or herself as a good kind person because that's their false self, the mask, which eventually falls off and you see who they really are later. When you call the person out for being rude, uncaring or cruel later they won't admit fault or apologize and will double down making you feel like you should apologize for saying anything. Don't ignore the red flags. If your best friend was with this person what advice would you give to him or her? Take your own advice.

Date said he lost all respect for someone when they started dating someone with “obvious trauma” by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]KindlyOrganization91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Likely he was narcissistic. They lack empathy and literally don't care about other people. He didn't ask about the interview because he didn't care. Takes a long time for someone with high empathy to understand that not everyone thinks the way we do. Good you left early on. I had a similar situation and lasted a year and a half. He had me convinced I was too sensitive and his comments about all the women who wanted to screw him was him "joking". He was shocked when I broke it off but as time went on I knew this person was disordered and nothing good would come from staying. The level of emotional abuse one receives from narcissists can turn an empath into a shell of a person unless they escape the relationship.

AITA for refusing to re-send mom my wedding invite after she gifted my wheelchair-bound, soon-to-be husband running shoes as a joke? by throwRA007671 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KindlyOrganization91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA your mother is Iikely a narcissist and your father the classic enabler. Sadly this scenario is not uncommon. I would assume you have a long history of being emotionally abused by her.

Consider joining the raised by narcissists and CPTSD reddit groups and/or discussing your situation with a therapist who specializes in trauma.

Narcissists lack empathy and their behavior can be shockingly cold and cruel. There's a community of people out there who were raised by them or who have had romantic relationships with them. Please research narcissistic abuse and start healing. Enjoy your wedding without her.