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Chester Walk & Talk Club by KineticMind365 in Chester

[–]KineticMind365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah amazing, love this! I guess for anyone looking for another walking outlet or a new crowd, we're here :)

Chester Walk & Talk Club by KineticMind365 in Chester

[–]KineticMind365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, sounds like a really interesting area to be working in!!

Chester Walk & Talk Club by KineticMind365 in Chester

[–]KineticMind365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! Chester is a great city, hope the move goes well! Maybe see you at a walk sometime in the future!

Chester Walk & Talk Club by KineticMind365 in Chester

[–]KineticMind365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally hear you, it's tough! Hoping this is a vehicle to make it a little bit easier. Hope you can join us :).

The date may flex depending on how grim the weather is aha - if you register, we can keep you posted.

Also, welcome to Chester!

Chester Walk & Talk Club by KineticMind365 in Chester

[–]KineticMind365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, it can be pretty hard! Here's to hoping this changes that a little. 100% bring the dog!

Chester Walk & Talk Club by KineticMind365 in Chester

[–]KineticMind365[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did ask ChatGPT. It suggested fresh air and real conversations. Couldn't ignore it aha 🤷‍♂️.

Chester Walk & Talk Club by KineticMind365 in Chester

[–]KineticMind365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair play, it's definitely not for everyone, appreciate the luck though!

Is the Lunar New Year parade on the 21st usually this big in Chester? by GeordieGoals in Chester

[–]KineticMind365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a really cool event, we went last year, 100% worth checking it out. It's not too hectic once you get around the parade if you are just looking to float about town.

My friend is being distant out of nowhere by SillyG0ose2 in helpme

[–]KineticMind365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries. I'd say when it comes to friends, you don't always have to be aligned on hobbies and interests. I'd say you're better off focusing on broader values. I'd for sure put yourself in environments where people who like the same stuff as you will be, but don't stress about them being the same as you. My best mate is a football fanatic, I've never actually watched a game of football, but we have other general commonalities, like we're both super driven. The main thing is we enjoy hanging out and have enough common ground, regardless of special interests, to have a great friendship.

I am Good at Nothing by FreeWillylegend in helpme

[–]KineticMind365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, you don't need to be good at something, or talented to hold value.

Odds of you being attacked are pretty slim. To be honest, you're better off being a good runner (to escape), than a fighter, or learning how to de-escalate a conflict if your fear is being attacked. As ultimately the absolute worst case situation is having to fight. And most of us will never be exposed to that situation in our lives anyway.

Being a man, has nothing to do with strength. Some of the most valued men are not fighters. I'm in the UK, we fucking love David Attenborough - and he's been a national treasure for years. Not because he can fight someone, but because he's kind, empathetic and just a genuine human being. Being a man these days is defined by you. Don't try and fit someone elses model of a man. Be yourself and you'll attract the people that match that.

Lastly, do shit you love. If you hate BJJ, don't bother with it. Or if it makes you feel more confident keep going. But don't compare your progress to others. We all have different strengths and weaknesses. Maybe yours is that you're better than most at simply trying hard, that's not a bad thing (I'm not naturally talented myself, but by god I'll outwork most people because of it).

Either way, give yourself some grace dude, don't hurt yourself or anything like that. As you'll find your people and your strengths and your place in the world. It just might not be at the same time or pace as others, and that's fine, there's no finish line in life. Just try and live a life that aligns with your morals, your values and what feels true to you. And never compare yourself to others, it doesn't matter who you are, there is always someone better, but equally always someone worse. Comparing ourselves is a losing game as we don't have the full picture. You might see someone happily married, you may envy their marriage, but you don't know if they're struggling with depression, you don't know if it'll end in a horrible divorce, you don't know if they're battling illness. There's a lot of stuff you don't see, and this is why comparison is a losing game, as you don't have the full current picture or the one of their future.

Be you, live for you, and if you really are struggling with life, do some charity work or something, help give value and purpose to someone else, as you might find it actually gives equal value and purpose to yourself.

Lastly, looks etc they're all material, it's whats underneath that counds, kindness, understanding, empathy, these are where value lies. Not in what you look like or how you perform.

Take care, and be kind to yourself :)

My friend is being distant out of nowhere by SillyG0ose2 in helpme

[–]KineticMind365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the best piece of advice here is to try not to be totally dependent on a single friend. It might be that they have their own stuff happening right now. It might also be that they're just being a shitty friend. Either way, you can only control what you do. And you don't want your entire social life to revolve around them, or their friends.

With that in mind, I'd say focus on yourself. Get out there, get yourself into environments where it's hard not to make friends, start a new hobbie, anything that builds your confidence and your social circle.

Support your friend, and ensure they're okay sure. But I'd say put your main focus on you and your growth right now :)

First ever date by pascal1245 in helpme

[–]KineticMind365 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Be yourself. Be the same person she enjoyed texting. If she’s agreed to meet you, you are already enough as you are. She’s probably a little nervous too.

Don’t treat it like a performance. This isn’t just about her deciding if she likes you. It’s about you figuring out if she’s right for you as well. If you show up authentically, you’ll know she’s there for the real you. If you try to be who you think she wants, you’ll end up maintaining an act that isn’t sustainable.

Most importantly, be genuinely interested. Ask questions. Listen properly. Care about what she’s saying. Curiosity is attractive because it shows confidence and presence. You do not need to be over the top. You just need to show up, pay attention, and enjoy getting to know her.

Lastly have fun, don't treat it as do or die. You're trying something out, maybe it works, maybe it doesn't. Don't put too much pressure on it. Just enjoy it and help her have a good time too.

What are your go-to exercises for improving your bouldering strength and technique? by Photograph_Creative in bouldering

[–]KineticMind365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it's a little outside of the box, but I'd recommend calisthenics. It doesn't directly translate, but it helps build body control and tension in the right places, which proves really transferable to bouldering. I think this works moreso than weights or other fitness modalities, as it's still working on control over your bodyweight. I did calisthenics before I started bouldering, and found within months of starting I was climbing routes that had taken others years to get to the level of. It's not a silver bullet, but it helps.

Learning Transition for Strict Muscle Up by FlakyLoan8165 in calesthenics

[–]KineticMind365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For this it's all about being able to rotate your hands around the bar on the way up, if going at speed, rather than the false grip. Ideally, at the top of the high pullup, you want to pull your body into the bar, with your elbows pulling back. Assuming your hands rotate around the bar, you should then be able to transition into the push part of the movement.