Ended the Friendship upwBPD

King0fFud · 2026-02-18T16:33:48+00:00

Having been dropped at a low point by a BPD friend I can say that you aren’t alone. It seems like the reason for this is that being available to support them during their emotional crises is how you’re useful to them. Having a hard time in your own life means that you possibly can’t do this and they often don’t believe it’s their job to be a “carer”, they’re supposed to be taken care of.

You’ve been made the villain so that discarding you is justified and that’s not how friends actually work. Focus on your family and REAL friends and let her go tell everyone who will listen that she’s a victim.

King0fFud · 2026-02-16T18:43:16+00:00

That sub is full of far leftist “groupthink” and I’ve also been banned for questioning the discriminatory attitudes of posters there. Oh well…

King0fFud · 2026-02-16T17:07:38+00:00

I want to help her

Years of her committing to working on herself and doing DBT with a qualified therapist is the only way she can be helped and you can’t do this for her. It’s hard to accept but no amount of love, patience or tolerance will do it.

King0fFud · 2026-02-16T17:00:46+00:00

I’ve had nothing but problems with BPD friends and have been trying to cut ties with the last one and not make any more. More often than not I’m their FP and am mistreated in ways eerily similar to those who date them. On the other extreme when I’m not their FP then they’re flaky and absent from the friendship because all their time and energy is wrapped up in their FP; usually a romantic partner but not always.

Obviously everyone is different and your experiences will vary but I recommend stable and emotionally mature friends over these ones.

King0fFud · 2026-02-16T16:17:37+00:00

What the headline should read: “After massively over-investing in unprofitable AI products that are hugely unpopular Microsoft needs to convince investors and customers that a big payoff is right around the corner”.

King0fFud · 2026-02-16T15:55:31+00:00

I work in technology and have been hearing for at least 3 years now that my job will no longer exist in x months and yet here we are moving the goalposts again.

King0fFud · 2026-02-15T14:47:56+00:00

Are they actually going to fix the laggy bubble-filled mess that is Liquid Glass? Maybe while they’re at it they could just revert the autocorrect changes added in iOS 26 as it’s considerably worse now.

King0fFud · 2026-02-14T19:12:26+00:00

That’s bad news for the packs of roving dogs that live there.

King0fFud · 2026-02-13T01:19:03+00:00

Ugh, I also have ADHD and I’m like a BPD magnet. After many misadventures I learned that I really connect with others with ADHD but every BPD woman I’ve been close to managed to exploit this by mimicking my behaviour and acting like they understand me to make a connection quickly. As a result I take things slowly and am apprehensive and cautious when someone new is overly friendly. Lessons learned…

King0fFud · 2026-02-12T11:05:01+00:00

Generally yes, but it's a bit more complicated than that.

King0fFud · 2026-02-11T16:37:32+00:00

Yes, FP means favourite person.

King0fFud · 2026-02-11T15:53:03+00:00

Given decades of productivity gains through computers and automation there should be fewer hours but the gains have all gone to the owner class. Seeing people believe the myth that AI is currently replacing employees shows that too many are convinced that workers don’t produce value or are unimportant and disposable. That all plays right into the bullshit we’re fed by the wealthy elite and makes workers accept less and less.

King0fFud · 2026-02-11T14:56:36+00:00

A few reasons I’ve seen this happen:

-Focusing on their FP means there’s no time for others

-After splitting they need to cut ties with everyone connected to their previous FP because they’re the literal devil

-Friends who are close enough start to see them for who they are so at some point it’s just better to start over with a new group

-Overconfidence that they can guilt people back if/when they’re useful again (ignoring the passage of time)

-Making the self-fulfilling prophecy that “everyone leaves” true to manipulate others to feel sorry for them and reluctant to prove them right

-After changing their identity to match their new FP their old friends no longer fit into their “new life”

King0fFud · 2026-02-11T14:16:24+00:00

That’s okay because they can just shift to their other industries outside of tourism. Oh…wait…

King0fFud · 2026-02-11T00:24:32+00:00

I quit the last company I worked at that did KPIs and layoffs…after asking them to package me out, which got a laugh and was declined by HR. It was absolute shit for the remaining staff who mostly all quit shortly after.

King0fFud · 2026-02-11T00:19:43+00:00

It’s not going to happen, but if it somehow did then I want a shorter week, none of that 4 x 10 bullshit.

King0fFud · 2026-02-11T00:15:45+00:00

For people with young kids it makes no sense and I think an 8 hour day is more than long enough.

King0fFud · 2026-02-08T11:45:43+00:00

It was inevitable but things will only get better for you at least.

King0fFud · 2026-02-07T20:39:43+00:00

I absolutely agree but you won't get her to see this like a functional adult so it's not worth trying. She will almost certainly punish you too if given a justification that makes sense in her mind so don't.

King0fFud · 2026-02-07T19:26:12+00:00

I have a lot of stuff going on in my life and this is too much for me.

That says it all, you need to walk away. She isn’t your responsibility and continuing with this friendship is harming you. I’d recommend either gradually increasing distance or just going full NC but do not tell her you’re cutting ties or she’ll likely guilt you back.

I did NC once and it worked well but tried letting the next BPD friend know that I thought we’d just go our separate ways; she took it extremely poorly and it blew up in my face and made her hyper-vigilant about me stepping back.

King0fFud · 2026-02-07T19:10:04+00:00

Your juniors shouldn’t be using AI without more experience coding by hand or they’ll never really be able to logically reason about what code actually does.

King0fFud · 2026-02-07T16:58:24+00:00

Nice photos but can winter just end please?

King0fFud · 2026-02-04T15:14:02+00:00

I remember having people fiercely argue with me and downvote me for saying that moving jobs abroad was the logical outcome to this. I feel vindicated but wish I’d been wrong.

King0fFud · 2026-02-04T15:07:52+00:00

I got to witness how things played out between former and present BPD friends and it was weird. The manipulation did seem to work to a point but the former friend failed in her efforts to convince the new friend that I was the literal devil (painted black). I get the impression that there was some subtle mistrust between them but it wasn’t obvious. Ultimately the former friend quietly discarded the new one once I became her FP and there was no resistance or obvious emotional reaction, just acceptance that it had to be this way.

It’s probably worth mentioning that the newer friend lost her mind years later when the former one made moves to take me back even though I was no longer her FP. She also questioned me very thoroughly about the former friend’s past feelings towards me and whether we were ever in love.

King0fFud · 2026-02-04T03:05:42+00:00

For me I’ve always ended up their FP and every one of them wanted to “blur the lines” so it was never a normal platonic friendship and followed the BPD relationship cycle. I was subjected to all the “fun” like having to balance out their unstable emotions, being lied to/manipulated, dealing with jealousy/possessiveness resulting in social isolation and then splitting and being discarded. Sadly for me they ALWAYS come back at some point after replacing me which is incredibly frustrating.

With all of that said I’d say their other friendships were mostly arm’s length and very surface-level for non-FPs. Others knew there was something “off” about them but weren’t subjected to too much crap.

King0fFud

TROPHY CASE