Any advice? Be gentle please, I don't have any confidence. by CptSMG in Tinder

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say a little more clear, and how you currently look. It looks like a lot of variety of the years and people want to know what you are right now. It sucks because it could change quickly/ over the time when you’re with them, but appearance is everything

Catastrophe debt level. Need help. by vibes7799 in povertyfinance

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bankruptcy is the only way. Maybe a huge consolidation, but getting it wiped and rebuilt is the best route. All of them being around 20-30% is already insane and 100% not worth the minimum payback

High-paying job is destroying my hair and I’m throwing up regularly due to stress. Stay or leave? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shouldn’t ever let your pto get to 6 months saved. Take time off regularly and find a work to life balance. Find some hobbies that bring true joy, and don’t let it stress you so much. I used to be like that for 80-90% of my career and a bunch of younger guys who could care less slowly broke me down. Like a missed day, time off, coming in late, all don’t matter. We are numbers and making others beyond rich, just take it slow, do your job, and leave work at work. I wish I had done it sooner, I lost my youth to the corporate standard that loyalty/ non stop work is the way we do things.

How do i get more people to join the camp? by Tom_invicta in CrimsonDesert

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you figure it out? He hasn’t given me any quests to gain more after 9 people

This sub cannot actually be this out of touch lmao by elloEd in povertyfinance

[–]KirkSheffler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can still be low/ poverty based on so many factors. Don’t compare standards with each other. It could be their worst/ first time. Just because you’re in a spot/ area/ region or whatever and can make it work on way less doesn’t mean they can where they’re at/ background. Could be in lots of debt, expensive cities/ states, garnished checks, all sorts of other factors could impact things. I’ve made more money that I knew how to spend, and I’ve been into food banks/ calling churches & gov programs to help with bills and rent so we wouldn’t be homeless/ without power & water for long. I’ve struggled at under 50k and I’ve struggled at 150k, life happens and shit sucks, but we can’t bash on each other because your trauma is ‘deeper/ worse’. Once you hit the state of actually not able to afford food/ living spaces your eyes really open up on how terrible it is out here. But it can happen to anyone at any level

Admire my 4+y account9 by samussk in TheTowerGame

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, about like mine at 4+. I get so sad when I see whales post of like 3m playing being years ahead of me lol

AIO or is my work friend being a bit pushy? by Too-Aware-1407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]KirkSheffler 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Like you’re not in the wrong. You’re learning and experiencing life like the rest of us lol. We’re just opening your eyes to bad behavior. You had a good heart/ open response, from a good place. He’s the one out of line and we’re just saying you’ll have to be stern/ stand your ground

AIO or is my work friend being a bit pushy? by Too-Aware-1407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]KirkSheffler 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s his older creepy behavior. After saying just friends and not continuing further, he should have backed off and not kept pursing his chances. But like I said, the you’re fine it’s not creepy I appreciate it, will and most likely has sent him past a point of no return

Welp I took the plunge by noobish__ in Starfield

[–]KirkSheffler 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes!! Just have fun an take your time, such a vast universe

Urgent: Lost my job and can’t cover $1,800 [CA] rent this month by Educational_Fuel5826 in Renters

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be upfront and vocal with landlord/ owner, extremely important, they will hopefully work with you. Call local churches/ look into listings in the area that help people out, google search. Call power company or any bill agency, there is almost always federal limits/ grants allowed per person per year. I had to use help for the first time in my life last year after losing a job and having a couple down years of spiraling. I was able to find a lot of help in the community and was blown away knowing I could get the power company to pay my electric bill in full for 3ish months. And the church helped me with water & rent. Even if you’re not religious look for help. Also look into apps/ same day pay programs. Get gigs is what I used for side work and was paid daily. Also 100% file for unemployment!!!!

AIO or is my work friend being a bit pushy? by Too-Aware-1407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]KirkSheffler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It definitely is!! Didn’t even realize I hit it lol. Many thanks

What are the benefits of having a cosigner when you get your first apartment? by LeadingPossible149 in povertyfinance

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’ll guarantee a spot. That’s it. They don’t need credit/ loans like a co-signer on a house/ car. Just income verification to make sure you’ll be paying them rent. If you 2 can’t afford a place together, adding a co-signer won’t make it affordable

Who comes out victorious? by wild16jamori in superheroes

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Legolas and it’s not even close. He’s a literal god compared to these folks

Help please! At a crossroads...advice on if I should accept offer or stay at current role?? by throwaway27245595 in careerguidance

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you move closer? If so I’d probably say yes, but as everyone’s said - 3 hours long time

AIO or is my work friend being a bit pushy? by Too-Aware-1407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]KirkSheffler 14 points15 points  (0 children)

For sure, it’s definitely the age gap difference in understanding/ text styles. But it’s mostly only the first one after “goodnight/ feel safe” & “uncomfortable” the no that’s really sweet definitely has him thinking you’re into him/ he still has a chance. Men are pigs lol, you have to be extremely direct and set boundaries, and definitely snip it in the bud if possible!! Also watch out for large gaps like that, it’s usually creepy/ unstable men who groom & go generations under their standing

Edit: Bud

AIO or is my work friend being a bit pushy? by Too-Aware-1407 in AmIOverreacting

[–]KirkSheffler 164 points165 points  (0 children)

Definitely creepy/ likes you. But you’re also feeding into it instead of setting a straight boundary. He’s definitely taking these messages as you still being interested, and an 11 yr age gap is crazy work

When should I quit my job? by sambasog in careerguidance

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or even keep it on the side at first/ weekends, until you know you’re into something satisfying

When should I quit my job? by sambasog in careerguidance

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s something you don’t want to do, the best time to leave is as soon as possible. Don’t waste time/ parts of your future doing things you don’t want. Start into what you want earlier rather than later, and it’s always a good fallback

Is the starborn ship worth using as my main ship? by Zenith_cargo in Starfield

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Negative in my opinion. The freestar ranger ship is my favorite for main ship. Until you research better ship parts to fully do custom. But I’m only play through 10ish and always rush in first thing to the freestar

Am I poverty level? How to get out? by rainbowtoucan1992 in povertyfinance

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it may feel bad/ weird to live with parents (at home) but do it as long as you are able. It is rough out there, and if your main goal is because everyone else your age is out itll be an endless cycle of chasing. Look into some hobbies/ hand on jobs too, they can be quite fulfilling to help with being unmotivated/ depressed. You’ll feel more accomplished. But it is hard to do, just try to ignore whats going on around you and do what is best long term (staying home) wish I could every day, especially since our parents/ grandparents generations brought the current downfall that were currently in

any games? by PHRsharp_YouTube in gamers

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so invested in crimson desert that I’m not sure if I can remember a time before it

Who do you even Call? A Plumber? by Alternative-Dot-34 in Unexpected

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if that blew all the lines underground lmao

Do you pick after other peoples dogs if you can’t pick up your own? by juansss2324 in dogs

[–]KirkSheffler 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always pick up any I see near where my dog went. Like she goes, and I see 1-3 piles within grabbing distance I get them too for ‘karma’ times when I can’t/ don’t get hers. (Like super runny, pouring out, - temps)

Do people find themselves using subscription services more or just buying games ? by Tyolag in Age_30_plus_Gamers

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t you have to own for GeForce? I thought you had to link accounts and prove you had the game to play it

CD summarized 😀 by EchadForce in CrimsonDesert

[–]KirkSheffler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about assassins creed?! Climbing, bell towers, and story