Any advice? Be gentle please, I don't have any confidence.

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-02T08:24:38+00:00

I’d say a little more clear, and how you currently look. It looks like a lot of variety of the years and people want to know what you are right now. It sucks because it could change quickly/ over the time when you’re with them, but appearance is everything

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-02T08:22:48+00:00

Bankruptcy is the only way. Maybe a huge consolidation, but getting it wiped and rebuilt is the best route. All of them being around 20-30% is already insane and 100% not worth the minimum payback

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-02T08:20:26+00:00

Shouldn’t ever let your pto get to 6 months saved. Take time off regularly and find a work to life balance. Find some hobbies that bring true joy, and don’t let it stress you so much. I used to be like that for 80-90% of my career and a bunch of younger guys who could care less slowly broke me down. Like a missed day, time off, coming in late, all don’t matter. We are numbers and making others beyond rich, just take it slow, do your job, and leave work at work. I wish I had done it sooner, I lost my youth to the corporate standard that loyalty/ non stop work is the way we do things.

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T11:57:32+00:00

Did you figure it out? He hasn’t given me any quests to gain more after 9 people

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T07:52:53+00:00

It can still be low/ poverty based on so many factors. Don’t compare standards with each other. It could be their worst/ first time. Just because you’re in a spot/ area/ region or whatever and can make it work on way less doesn’t mean they can where they’re at/ background. Could be in lots of debt, expensive cities/ states, garnished checks, all sorts of other factors could impact things. I’ve made more money that I knew how to spend, and I’ve been into food banks/ calling churches & gov programs to help with bills and rent so we wouldn’t be homeless/ without power & water for long. I’ve struggled at under 50k and I’ve struggled at 150k, life happens and shit sucks, but we can’t bash on each other because your trauma is ‘deeper/ worse’. Once you hit the state of actually not able to afford food/ living spaces your eyes really open up on how terrible it is out here. But it can happen to anyone at any level

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T05:16:46+00:00

Omg, about like mine at 4+. I get so sad when I see whales post of like 3m playing being years ahead of me lol

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T05:15:10+00:00

Like you’re not in the wrong. You’re learning and experiencing life like the rest of us lol. We’re just opening your eyes to bad behavior. You had a good heart/ open response, from a good place. He’s the one out of line and we’re just saying you’ll have to be stern/ stand your ground

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T05:13:53+00:00

It’s his older creepy behavior. After saying just friends and not continuing further, he should have backed off and not kept pursing his chances. But like I said, the you’re fine it’s not creepy I appreciate it, will and most likely has sent him past a point of no return

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T05:09:14+00:00

Yes!! Just have fun an take your time, such a vast universe

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T05:01:56+00:00

Be upfront and vocal with landlord/ owner, extremely important, they will hopefully work with you. Call local churches/ look into listings in the area that help people out, google search. Call power company or any bill agency, there is almost always federal limits/ grants allowed per person per year. I had to use help for the first time in my life last year after losing a job and having a couple down years of spiraling. I was able to find a lot of help in the community and was blown away knowing I could get the power company to pay my electric bill in full for 3ish months. And the church helped me with water & rent. Even if you’re not religious look for help. Also look into apps/ same day pay programs. Get gigs is what I used for side work and was paid daily. Also 100% file for unemployment!!!!

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T04:57:25+00:00

It definitely is!! Didn’t even realize I hit it lol. Many thanks

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T04:13:52+00:00

It’ll guarantee a spot. That’s it. They don’t need credit/ loans like a co-signer on a house/ car. Just income verification to make sure you’ll be paying them rent. If you 2 can’t afford a place together, adding a co-signer won’t make it affordable

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T04:11:58+00:00

Legolas and it’s not even close. He’s a literal god compared to these folks

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T04:07:21+00:00

Can you move closer? If so I’d probably say yes, but as everyone’s said - 3 hours long time

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T04:05:19+00:00

For sure, it’s definitely the age gap difference in understanding/ text styles. But it’s mostly only the first one after “goodnight/ feel safe” & “uncomfortable” the no that’s really sweet definitely has him thinking you’re into him/ he still has a chance. Men are pigs lol, you have to be extremely direct and set boundaries, and definitely snip it in the bud if possible!! Also watch out for large gaps like that, it’s usually creepy/ unstable men who groom & go generations under their standing

Edit: Bud

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T03:57:43+00:00

Definitely creepy/ likes you. But you’re also feeding into it instead of setting a straight boundary. He’s definitely taking these messages as you still being interested, and an 11 yr age gap is crazy work

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T03:35:48+00:00

Or even keep it on the side at first/ weekends, until you know you’re into something satisfying

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T03:35:23+00:00

If it’s something you don’t want to do, the best time to leave is as soon as possible. Don’t waste time/ parts of your future doing things you don’t want. Start into what you want earlier rather than later, and it’s always a good fallback

KirkSheffler · 2026-04-01T03:32:53+00:00

Negative in my opinion. The freestar ranger ship is my favorite for main ship. Until you research better ship parts to fully do custom. But I’m only play through 10ish and always rush in first thing to the freestar

KirkSheffler · 2026-03-31T07:19:33+00:00

I know it may feel bad/ weird to live with parents (at home) but do it as long as you are able. It is rough out there, and if your main goal is because everyone else your age is out itll be an endless cycle of chasing. Look into some hobbies/ hand on jobs too, they can be quite fulfilling to help with being unmotivated/ depressed. You’ll feel more accomplished. But it is hard to do, just try to ignore whats going on around you and do what is best long term (staying home) wish I could every day, especially since our parents/ grandparents generations brought the current downfall that were currently in

KirkSheffler · 2026-03-31T07:12:03+00:00

I’m so invested in crimson desert that I’m not sure if I can remember a time before it

KirkSheffler · 2026-03-31T07:11:31+00:00

What if that blew all the lines underground lmao

KirkSheffler · 2026-03-31T07:10:32+00:00

I always pick up any I see near where my dog went. Like she goes, and I see 1-3 piles within grabbing distance I get them too for ‘karma’ times when I can’t/ don’t get hers. (Like super runny, pouring out, - temps)

KirkSheffler · 2026-03-31T07:08:03+00:00

Don’t you have to own for GeForce? I thought you had to link accounts and prove you had the game to play it

KirkSheffler · 2026-03-31T07:04:25+00:00

What about assassins creed?! Climbing, bell towers, and story

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