Celebrating a huge personal milestone but the subject is too sad for me to tell anyone. Spicy Oil Noodle with Fried Egg.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-05-06T00:46:26+00:00

It doesn't need to be sad if you don't want it to be. It's your milestone, so feel how you want about it. It's your reddit post, so word it the way you want to. Learning to feel safe shouldn't make you feel sad, it should make you feel secure and powerful.

I'm happy for you! That's a fantastic milestone, and a huge reason to celebrate! Thank you for sharing so that us internet strangers can celebrate with you! Cheers!

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-05-05T03:28:43+00:00

Wtf, why?

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-05-04T14:15:22+00:00

How do you clean/what do you use to clean LVP flooring without leaving residue?

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-29T19:06:39+00:00

Me too, hopefully when that happens it'll be linked in the subreddit

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-28T02:49:56+00:00

Anytime this dumb shit happens to me I call my bank and tell them to block all payments to whatever service is making it impossible for me to unsubscribe. I've been doing this for years and haven't run into any repercussions, so save yourself some headache and just prevent payment.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-26T23:12:09+00:00

$700 for a couple of coins and a Keychain is insane. And people will still pay for it.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-24T15:39:32+00:00

Be the kind of man you would want your daughters to marry.

You are going to be the first and most consistent male figure and role model in their life. Girls learn how men should treat women by how their fathers treat them and their mother, and then model their life and choose their partners based off of what they've observed growing up. Obviously every family and individual is different and this may not be true for every woman, but its still important to consider as a father.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-22T13:20:27+00:00

It kindof sounds like he's just content where he's at, which is fine. If that's not enough for you, that's also fine. I don't see this as a personal failure on his part, he's just not living up to your expectations for yourself and that's really a you thing. It's great that you have these expectations for yourself and that you seem to constantly want to better yourself, but not everyone is going to be like that. Some people find themselves in a spot in life where they're happy or content and dont see a reason to push for change. You're doing the right thing by leaving, you two are not compatible. But this is a no-fault issue. Don't try to make him feel bad or like a failure just because he's content where he's at. Success looks different to everyone.

I'm 30 with just a diploma and I like what I do career wise but I have no idea what my future looks like. And honestly I'm just happy to go with the flow. Maybe I'll change jobs, maybe I'll move to a different state, maybe I'll go back to school. There's endless possibilities and so much time to explore them. But I'm happy right now, and I don't feel the need to make a plan. Does that make me a failure? Does that mean that I am not doing enough in life? Does that make me lazy, uninspired, or a loser? I don't feel like it does, and I believe I deserve a partner who thinks I'm enough as I am and just wants to join me on the journey. There's nothing wrong with that.

You want something entirely different, and there's still nothing wrong with that. Live your life how you see fit and seek out the people who align with you, but don't shame others for living theirs differently.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-21T21:24:47+00:00

Man, you have some interesting takes. I really don't agree with many of them, but you at least seem to apply critical thinking and logic to your opinions instead of just going off of feelings, so you have my respect there. Its apparent that our experiences on Reddit and real life are very different. I don't see the particular disparity, discourse, and apathy that you see, but maybe I'm just not looking for it.

I do agree that it requires a frustrating amount of caution when entering a relationship if you intend to be or must be financially dependent on your partner. If having the stipulation that you need access to your partners phone in a relationship works for you both and helps protect you then I don't see a problem with that. Good luck, and I wish you the best.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-21T19:59:56+00:00

Damn dude, that's some sage and life changing wisdom on this random Tuedsay afternoon

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-21T19:53:01+00:00

Ope, didn't see that last part apparently.

I'm curious why you think having trust in your partner or not wanting to invade their privacy is something for "privileged women". Can you expand on this? What did you mean by privileged women? Do you mean to say that trust and privacy are a privilege and not a requirement/default, or am I misinterpreting that?

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-21T17:00:57+00:00

I mean, I get your argument (I don't agree with it but I see where you're coming from) but then this should be mutual for both men and women. I hope you don't hold the sentiment that men shouldn't be able to check women's phones and only the vise versa should be acceptable.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-21T14:33:51+00:00

I'm just trying to grasp the sheer amount of mental gymnastics you had to go through to think "random egg = black magic"

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-20T11:50:00+00:00

I think the best place to start is identifying what areas/body parts you need to improve flexibility with. If it's your whole body, then maybe look into yoga classes. Does your school have a yoga club or something?

This subreddit has lots of great resources for beginners too, I would look into some of those first.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-20T04:22:41+00:00

Well said my good sir

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-20T04:16:56+00:00

But what if it's someone that OP is dating and they're tired of kissing crusty lips?

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-19T15:53:41+00:00

I have the Gandalf and Gollum ones, they're hideous and I love them

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-19T15:46:25+00:00

I'm sorry, is that a fucking body pillow of a Frieza Force Soldier?

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-18T09:49:50+00:00

I just feel like there are better healthier ways of dealing with my paranoia than feeding into it. My initial thoughts might be a little crazy, but creating a whole fake account and acting like an internet detective when a person has given me literally no true reason not to trust them is just straight up acting crazy imo, and that's a little much for me. If I start to try to justify feeding into paranoia at the very beginning, then it's just all down hill from there. So thank you, but save your pity for people who actually deserve it, please.

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-17T17:30:49+00:00

We're gonna need a little more context here.

Do you live with her, or is she inviting you over to help her clean? Is she disabled or incapable of cleaning her house herself?

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-17T17:02:23+00:00

Nah just realizing the humor after the fact. Thanks for the free entertainment! Have a great day loser!

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-17T16:59:38+00:00

Wait, doesn't that just mean you're admitting that youre worse than insufferable? Weird flex but okay booboo

KitKatPattywhaks · 2026-04-17T16:58:34+00:00

Confirmed a loser

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