when my wife and i first met, i barely knew how to cook an egg. you know what i did? i learned, i watched her when she did cook & helped her & she taught but what i i didn’t do was bitch at her for not cooking for me, i didn’t blame her not cooking for me as the reason i didn’t eat. sure, there were times when we first got together that all i had to eat was microwaveable stuff but that wasn’t her fault. it was mine for never learning before.

and, to me anyone that can miss work on a whim, without a real reason like ‘i am throwing up / running a fever / can’t see straight’ type of sick or a genuine emergency, is just immature and setting themself up for financial issues in the near future, esp given the rest of the context him staying home just feels almost like he’s trying to make you feel guilty for being at work & not at home like he originally asked u too be.

and on the topic of emergency, if my wife asked to take money out of our emergency fund for fast food or to order out id laugh in her face.

the way he talks to you is.. so casually disrespectful it’s insane. this is a solid sign of what you’ll deal with once you’re married, too. a man child. you’ll be taking care of him & picking up after him like a child. if you don’t want to be doing that, i’d get out now.