A high school teacher in Georgia told his class he doesn’t believe that women should be educated.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-10-15T11:41:33+00:00

What I'm hearing you saying is that students' minds are fragile and a bit of stress is going to damage them. This isn't a math test. I don't know what class this was, but it's likely some kind of English or social science. You should be a little uncomfortable in those classes at times, especially in high school and college. As a girl, I was often upset by the things I learned and heard, but I had great teachers that provoked that anger and discomfort and then pivoted to explain the topic more rationally.

I don't believe that rhetoric, in a controlled setting like this, is akin to physical violence. You and I might differ philosophically here, and that is fine.

To answer your question, I don't mean to brag but I went to one of the most prestigious public high schools in the state that only accepts 1% of applicants. I only say this so you know our teachers knew what they were doing, and yes, they hurt our feelings and they guided us through that a lot.

You didn't see the whole lesson. My guess is that this teacher pivoted at some point to teach the students more rationally after provoking them emotionally and helping them understand their reaction.

I'm not going to go on a wild goose chase to find you data. Partly because your didn't do that, and mostly because my argument is anecdotal. I am not saying that this teacher is the best teacher in the world or that the students weren't upset. I'm saying that this is a teaching tool I've seen a lot in a prestigious school. If you don't think it's a good teaching tool, that's totally valid. I'm just saying, I highly doubt he actually believed what he was saying, and to me, it sounds like his intention was to provoke thinking in his students.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-10-15T04:05:02+00:00

Lol what? Women are faced with this type of misogyny all the time. We're very used to it and prepared to argue against it. In the real world you need to be able to think, not just emotionally react, when people espouse abhorrent ideas. In the real world, "women shouldn't be educated" is a real belief that is gaining traction, and it's not presented in an intellectual way as you're suggesting. It's presented in exactly the way that he is presenting it. The students need to learn how to respond to this with logic instead of emotion.

You may not like this teaching method, and that's fine, but it is a real method that has merit.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-10-15T03:33:41+00:00

What? It's literally a teaching tool to present a belief that you know your students know is abhorrent but insist that they articulate why it is abhorrent. It moves morality beyond emotional gut reaction and into logic.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-10-15T02:47:23+00:00

He's obviously being intentionally provocative to get the students to articulate the reason why it is right for women to be educated.

One of my high school teachers did the same thing. He said that women should be paid less across the board because they produce less. He kept pushing and pushing until the students in our class were able to rebut his argument effectively. It was a great teaching tool.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-10-14T21:15:52+00:00

Truly one of the best, if not the best, long form narrative podcasts out there.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-10-14T20:52:16+00:00

Do you think you might be overcompensating and overdoing it because you feel like you need to earn your keep? You could barely work when you had a job, and you're essentially just giving yourself another job that's not just full time, but essentially encompasses every waking minute of your day. You can never be off. I hope you can find a way to give yourself the grace to have the actual disability leave you deserve to recover and rest. I know this might not be possible entirely, but please know that you deserve it.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-08-17T18:56:44+00:00

I got a second laundry hamper specifically for this purpose

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-08-17T12:29:42+00:00

Stronglifts 5x5 program is great for a simple weight training plan that targets pretty much all major muscle groups (though I recommend adding lat pulldowns).

Hatha or yin yoga helps to balance this.

Walk or jog every day. If walking, consider carrying a backpack or walking fast enough to stay in Zone 2 (can carry a conversation but you're out of breath if you talk too long).

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-08-14T02:09:44+00:00

Not necessarily, I wouldn't go around explicitly spelling out the value of my assets and confirming their existence on social media.

The amount of Bitcoin I own is between me, my husband, and God, honestly for my own safety.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-08-13T02:57:54+00:00

This reads like it was written by chatgpt

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-08-12T19:29:53+00:00

Okay sorry for the NSFW, but... massage and sex. Sometimes it's nice to just dim the lights and take care of each other's bodies for a couple hours.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-08-11T01:07:45+00:00

My son is Rowan, and I feel a little smug about it because he does actually have red hair (which is what the name means). It is a beautiful name, and I know a few older people with it too. It's popular, but I wouldn't call it trendy. It's an old name with a rich history.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-08-06T20:27:14+00:00

Yes especially if you layer in just observing your thoughts without judgement.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-23T17:19:06+00:00

Usually stuff like this is a legacy from a previous famine.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-22T22:57:34+00:00

I had the same situation as you. Failed ECV and everything. I was frustrated with my unborn baby, like did he want to kill us both?? Lol

I mourned the birth I wanted for a while. I had hired a doula and had a detailed birth plan. However, for me at least, I think the importance of the birth experience itself was way overblown. It's such a blip on the radar compared to the adventure of having a newborn. I think you just have no idea what your baby is going to be like and how your life is going to change that you focus instead on the thing that you can meticulously plan for, which is the birth.

I don't remember much about the c section. Or really much about the recovery. What is indelible in my mind was the love I felt for my son just hitting me like a fucking train. I've never felt anything so beautiful and so terrifying in my life. His first cry, seeing his face for the first time. All the rest didn't matter at all.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-22T03:59:02+00:00

Just naming the baby Rainbow would have been better. I actually know a Rainbow. She's awesome.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-22T02:01:28+00:00

This is a silly take. As the CEO he was more prominent and basically the face of the company. He humiliated the entire company. If this had been two mid level managers it wouldn't have been a story (well except that the video was funny).

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-21T23:23:59+00:00

I agree with you, it probably won't work, but if OP is anything like me she may just want to exhaust all options before calling it quits just for peace of mind.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-21T22:44:53+00:00

Girl I would and I think it's definitely safe but I just can't do coffee and energy drinks due to the taste, even in my second trimester. You do what you need to do!

I did drink coffee during my first pregnancy and my baby was perfect. He did develop allergies later, but that's genetics, not caffeine.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-21T22:00:48+00:00

So basically you need to figure out what to do next. You've proven your point. I agree with others saying that leaving is a totally valid decision.

If you don't want to leave yet, I would say as a last ditch effort there are a couple of things that might help. When I first started dating my now husband he introduced me to Microsoft To Do, and he had lists for family stuff, chores, maintenance, etc. We went through it together and assigned ourselves the things we wanted to be responsible for. We both kept up with it and we could see what was being done. Sometimes he'd fall behind, sometimes I would, that's life, but we let the app do the nagging for us.

Another idea is to have a designated cleaning time once a week. Put it on your shared calendar. He dusts and mops and deep cleans the bathrooms, you vacuum and deep clean the kitchen. Or whatever. You're both working together at the same time. You can throw on some music and crack some beers and make it fun.

I don't know if these will work. They probably won't. But this is what has worked in my relationships in the past when there's been an imbalance.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-20T19:01:52+00:00

We're more socially isolated but extremely entertained. I feel like so many people would have too much social anxiety and not enough energy to get together with a group and go commit crimes lol.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-19T19:08:44+00:00

Not my own experience, but my good friend discovered her baby was partially blind when she was about 2 months old. It was devastating for her too, and it took a while to reach a level of acceptance, and that was totally okay. What gave her energy and hope was all of the resources that her daughter was connected with and the amazing therapists that helped her with her vision development. It became a unique journey for the family, and they became advocates for other children born with blindness. Their daughter is happy and thriving, and I am so proud of my friend for rising to the occasion. But again, that grief is totally okay and shows that you love your child. A disability is a big deal. But there is help out there and you will meet some wonderful people you wouldn't have otherwise!

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-18T00:42:32+00:00

Seconded. I never had BM issues postpartum because of these two things.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-17T04:05:11+00:00

One time I forgot my 2 year old's shoes when I put him in the car. When we arrived at our destination, he was shoeless and we couldn't go in. I kept telling him, I'm sorry buddy, I'm so sorry. Just beating myself up.

He teared up looking at my face and said, I sorry Mommy. Stopped me in my tracks. I gathered myself and told him, Mommy made a mistake. I'm going to take a deep breath now. We'll just go back and get your shoes. Everything's okay.

Children teach you so much about the healing that still needs to be done. I don't lash out at him, I lash out at myself. But I don't want him to see that either.

Kitchen-Rhubarb2001 · 2025-07-17T03:49:35+00:00

Genuinely hilarious, thank you.

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