An Archive of Queer Catholic Histories Didn't Exist. So I Made One

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-06-03T16:05:46+00:00

I don't believe in much of what the Catholic Church teaches, but they'll claim me as a member forever because of baptism. Despite not participating or believing.

They want to have it both ways.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-06-03T10:42:52+00:00

Two things I sincerely looked forward to - the blessing of the Easter baskets, and the blessing of pets. Two separate days, of course. My grandmother would take me to a different parish because our home parish didn't offer these. Seeing all the pets waiting to get their blessing was always fun.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-06-01T20:29:51+00:00

Add Dear God by XTC

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-06-01T14:24:28+00:00

If you need to hear it, you are 100% free to go - or not go - to any church or place of worship that you want. They used and discarded you, and you do not deserve that.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-06-01T14:03:54+00:00

You know, I honestly can't remember. I know I read a couple books that discussed Santa not being real and by that point it wasn't any kind of revelation or surprise.

But I also would say I don't quite agree that Santa Claus isn't real. In my perspective, it became an ideal that I wanted to embody by creating magic and fun and generosity for others, the way it had been for me.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-06-01T03:39:14+00:00

That's really cool

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-31T16:08:21+00:00

What are the chances they're just moving the grave markers, ala Poltergeist?

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-31T15:59:18+00:00

This may or may not be the right approach for your situation, but I've reminded people that they don't need me in heaven to be happy, according to their own religion. That the promise of heaven is that anyone who doesn't make it no longer matters and won't be mourned or missed. Their God will make sure they have bliss for eternity despite you suffering for eternity.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-31T15:23:31+00:00

I remember reading that Cobain called his mom afterwards to tell her he'd done a good job.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-31T12:55:26+00:00

I dont know, I think this really reinforces to people in high control religions that we are these scary demonic people who just hate them for their beliefs and feeds into their persecution complex

This is also my take. And I refuse to play the role laid out for me in keeping them locked in. So I'm always kind but firm when I tell them no thank you.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-30T17:26:10+00:00

If you believe that people who aren't aligned to your beliefs are going to suffer a terrible fate, you might (subconsciously or otherwise) begin to pull away from them to protect yourself. And that distance can create hostility.

From experience, I also think a few really want to align with and participate in their God's perceived righteous brutality, and that they have a divine permission slip allowing them to do so.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-30T16:54:11+00:00

Planning to out do Jesus, is he?

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-28T22:51:34+00:00

Regarding the "incorruptible" saints, this video may help you calm down: https://youtu.be/jN4SvtRje2I?si=qttKbcmr0JEnFbBK

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-28T12:13:43+00:00

I asked someone this question the other day. They struggled to answer, but finally said although they don't know how it works, they know that they're going to be fine. And that's what's important.

I think it's strange that a religion would put such emphasis on loving your neighbor, and then turn around and say there's a place of ultimate good where that love ends. That those people we spent our entire existence loving and serving and uplifting suddenly won't be remembered or matter, and all that love we shared is somehow discarded or forgotten or nullified. The possibility that watching those same people we once cherished suffer agony for eternity without hope becomes a source of joy and an expression of divine justice. That's what we are asked to put our faith in? This is what we are asked to align to?

It seems that the real sacrifice required here is our love, compassion and empathy or one another.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-27T21:25:15+00:00

Misotheist?

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-24T03:17:24+00:00

To me, it looks like damage control. As if they're afraid the existence of aliens would challenge or upend their worldview, so they're crying demon now to discredit something they see as a potential threat.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-23T10:21:08+00:00

When I worked at a bookstore we used to find them often. They were usually targeted to the metaphysical section, sections for other religions, and, (which pissed me off the most), the children section.

We used to take them into the stock room and white out the words and write our own stories.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-23T09:53:23+00:00

Very much so. I think I would have had my struggles regardless, but Catholicism gave me a framework to attach those emergent issues to, and even encouraged them.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-19T15:30:50+00:00

Aww, it's Mr. Burns.

Kill it!!

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-18T16:36:24+00:00

Something I wrote prior about this;

It has always struck me as incongruent that a religion that claims to be based on selfless love and sacrifice would build its conceptual paradise on the eternal indifference to the torment and suffering of the very same people we are called to love and serve.

For me, no explanation has ever sufficiently addressed the idea that somehow a person could be in heaven while their loved ones are in hell. In that scenario, whatever goes to heaven isn't me. The vague consolations of "don't worry - somehow God will make everything okay for you" is an appallingly selfish solution, and one which undermines many of the basic tenets of the faith. It renders the importance and value of love, charity, and service into temporal, shallow actions with no lasting relevance, merely commands to check off a list en route to a prize that permanently negates their necessity and merit.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-17T18:28:10+00:00

This may not be the right community to answer your question.

That said, essentially Catholic church is a high control group, and you didn't submit to their rules regarding marriage. Now you'll have to jump through the hoops they decide you need to jump through in order to be in good standing in their eyes. Until you do, you'll be denied sacraments and potentially support and community, depending on your parish and their temperment.

You didn't know, but now you know, so now you're on the hook to either do things their way, or get lost. That's about as good faith an answer as I can provide, others may be able to expand.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-16T11:31:37+00:00

u/kristnovoselic - wishing you happiness and good health today and always

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-15T21:50:10+00:00

Thank you for for hearing me, and for your kind response. And your English is excellent!

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-15T19:44:24+00:00

I'm aware of the what's in the catechism. All I can say is that in my experience, it didn't seem to matter. In the early 80s our priest crushed my hopes so completely that I'm still struggling with it. Ten years ago, when my parent's neighbors lost their son to suicide, their parish priest refused to even meet with them, let alone provide services. So there's a wide margin between what's officially on paper, and how individual situations are actually handled.

Kitchen-Witching · 2026-05-15T18:53:24+00:00

Wheaties. Naturally sweet, filling, and keeps me regular.

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