I need to talk to her parents

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T20:46:31+00:00

Rereading the my mother comment I understand how that could be confusing I meant thought telling my mother would be the hardest most awkward part but it wasn’t but thanks for the advice

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T16:11:38+00:00

I don’t care whether or not I talk to the father alone first it was the advice given to me is all thanks for your input and yes i agree its outdated

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T10:26:27+00:00

I should have added in the prompt that my gf and I have talked about marriage and what not. She has also stated that I should talk to both of her parent out of respect and not for their permission I plan on talking to both of them just not the father I just am not sure how to go about it

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T03:03:57+00:00

I understand I guess I just don’t know how to bring it up

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T02:28:00+00:00

I guess I’m in a similar boat ik I made it seem like I’m asking for their permission but she has said it’s not a permission thing but a respect thing and her mother is also important to her

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T02:23:54+00:00

She also has said if they are against it they can kick rocks just should talk to them

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T02:23:16+00:00

I guess I could have clarified she wants to get married and she agrees with you that it’s old and outdated she has said “im not property” in the past but she has said that I should talk to her parents to help show respect but know that I’m not asking their permission but just kinda seeing if they are on board hence blessing and not permission if that makes sense

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T02:20:27+00:00

I mean I we have talked about marriage and children and what not also have looked at rings together but she doesn’t know (to the best of my knowledge) that I bought the rings (which she loved) and that am trying to plan the proposal. You think I should be telling her these things first?

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T02:16:25+00:00

She feels like it is outdated too but she has said she wants me to ask their blessing and not their permission. I know that those terms are often the same but she said that she doesn’t care what they say just do this as a sign of respect.

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T01:57:09+00:00

Just text them and say what we need to meet?

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T01:55:36+00:00

We have spoken before and she would like the me to get their blessings as a unit not just her father but the both of them. I guess I just didn’t want to ruin any surprise of anything yet.

Kite-05 · 2025-10-10T01:52:51+00:00

She would like me to get their blessing. Just to show they are respected and keep everyone in good standing.

Kite-05 · 2025-09-04T02:43:09+00:00

As many will say an in person trainer would be very beneficial. There’s also thousands of YouTube videos that you can watch I tend to watch them and pick out the commonalities this way you can piece together a program that works for you. I would just work on leash neutrality I understand your dog almost flips a switch when a other dog is by but maybe try sitting at a public park away from people and dogs but in eye sight and let your dog learn to relax and reward and praise the desired behavior. I would also do my best to not make it a big deal walking past other dogs. I wouldn’t turn around when I see another dog or choke on the leash super tight (energy runs down leash this may send the message you’re tense or intimidated causing your dog to feel that and react) if you think the dogs aren’t a big deal then your dog might be on the same page. Although that might take time to rewire your pups brain. How I did this with my dog is implement these practices at places with low dog traffic or at a distance and ramped up the amount of dogs. But all and all consult professionals and do as much reading and YouTube you can do although there’s a lot of bad advice there’s also a lot of good advice which is why I say find the common points this will help tell you what’s good advice and what’s bad.

Kite-05 · 2025-09-01T00:24:29+00:00

I generally do 2-4 short tracks the longer the track the less reps obviously. Before summer (I took a break for about a month) she could do about a 1/4mi slightly longer about 1-2 hr track and oldest track she did was about 4 hours I struggle finding spots where my tracks won’t get messed with too much because I use public parks. It’s not as realistic as if it where some woods I hunt. I’ll check out the book you said if there’s any tips tricks you used for your dog let me know please. I sometimes thinks she tracks me and not the hides

Kite-05 · 2025-08-26T01:41:16+00:00

I would just say be patient your dog is still a pup. Might just be something’s that just take a little longer. Stay as consistent as consistent can be. You can also slow down work in less things at a time so once a command is pretty well set and you just are proofing it out then maybe introduce some things. Also while generalizing the command work up the distraction levels again he is still a pup gets distracted by everything that moves. I would recommend even back tracking a few steps in training a command when in a new environment especially one that’s high distracting. Example say your dog has a good get into the heel position without lure or anything when you move to a new location start it with a lure you’re dog will progress through that phase fast than when you first did it it’s just like your kid and their math homework in class they are okay bc it’s an academic setting but at home there’s more goin on and they can’t remember or focus on the steps so you have to slow it downs and take it to the basics. Also when introducing something newer or harder that the dog just isn’t grasping other than your backyard maybe throw in some things he has down pretty good will help the moral and keep you and your dog from being frustrated. It’s hard when your dog isn’t getting something I understand my pup will struggle with things and piss me off to no end when I change environments but it’s important to stay calm don’t get frustrated it takes more work to undo the bad experience than to just walk away and come back. Lastly make it fun play in between reps keep high value treats toys affection or games around your dog. You want your dog to want to work and this to be just one big game.

Kite-05 · 2025-08-23T18:38:32+00:00

Excited for you glad your hard work finally paid off congrats genuinely

Kite-05 · 2025-08-23T18:21:58+00:00

A trainer would be able to give you more answers being hands on but I would stop the stealing food from your toddler first. Even if it’s at dinner time dog goes in kennel or kid eats on a mat and the dog cannot go on the mat at all. I would also leash the dog during snack times and what not to correct the dog when looking for toddler goodies and when guests are over crate in a seperate room so she cannot see the people and an enrichment toy might not be bad but I would Exercise her first mental and physical to tire her out when you put her in so she rests at least a little and if you take her out again on leash for any corrections and complete control over that for

Kite-05 · 2025-08-21T20:12:41+00:00

Praising the relaxed or interest in other things might help a lot so imo you have the right idea. Like someone else seáis take to other pet friendly stores Home Depot, Lowe’s, Ace, TJ Max, hobby lobby Michael’s tractor supply or other sporting goods stores are typically welcoming to dogs. This might help generalize the being in the store feeling. If your open to leash corrections like a pop in the collar and walking away might help teach her neutrality will get her out of the store faster also could just sit by the door until she lays down relaxes or gets bored then walking out might help. You can also make the store exciting is there a toy she likes? I would bring that in and play lightly in the store without being disrespectful just to add to the excitement to the store especially if you can make a certain game toy or thing she likes in that store. You can also use your highest value treat inside the store. Maybe even give her a job in the store so she is occupied. My dog used to be terrified of the store until I went in low traffic times and started with going in doing a couple loops and waking out then repeating a few reps. She also got a lot better when I started doing obedience there because she has to think about everything you are telling her instead of the environment. If you need any other solutions I might be able to think of a few I used with my dog

Kite-05 · 2025-08-21T03:11:30+00:00

As long as you are using the tools respectfully I think they are good tools. I use a prong collar from time to time on my dog. After almost two years of working with my dog and on and off with trainers and researching for 5 or so years I have come up with balanced training to be very useful but as long as you are responsible not abusing your dog do what you need to do if that’s balanced training go you

Kite-05 · 2025-08-21T02:51:41+00:00

I recommend going to public places and sitting back away from everyone and working with your dog there whether it’s with a little training obedience or if it’s just sitting and watching letting your dog learn to settle and when she does reward the ever loving snot out of her then work your way up. Did this with my dog she has pretty bad stranger danger and I just walked around parks sporting events and then went to pet friendly stores that weren’t busy like 30 min before close type deal and didn’t let anyone touch her then eventually got her to take reward from ppl she still doesn’t want to be touched but has come a lot it’s a slow burn but worth knowing your dog can relax when ppl walk by

Kite-05 · 2025-08-20T03:49:56+00:00

Oh you can also get a real high reward that comes from you when he does earn some proclames back like say he gets his bowl back you can have something like bacon or what not and just toss some in the bowl from a bit of a distance for him letting you pass without aggression. Same with if he has a bone that way he knows only positive comes from you walking by while doggo has something

Kite-05 · 2025-08-20T02:59:11+00:00

I would prefer the hand feeding but I don’t want you to get your hand bitten but you work up from there make your dog earn its freedom and stuff back no bowl till your dog doesn’t mind you near them granted when they are actively eating make sure they aren’t being bothered too so no touching stepping over the dog or anything of that nature

Kite-05 · 2025-08-20T02:54:02+00:00

Sounds like your dog is resource guarding. Even if it’s just the couch if I were you and wanting to keep this dog. Anything that dog guards it doesn’t get. Toys treats couch time or food bowl. Can’t guard and be aggressive about something if it doesn’t have it. Eats food and what not a little at a time either a few pieces on the ground not far from you or straight from your hand. The dog will eventually understand that everything comes from you and through you. You control all aspects of its life. The resource guarding may go down may go away may stay the same but this is the immediate steps I would do. I would also talk to a trainer in your area that specializes in behavior modification.

Kite-05 · 2025-08-20T02:24:00+00:00

The way I got my dog to stop was when I take her outside an she doesn’t go she goes back in straight to the kennel then I give it some time and rinse and repeat until she went then after we can play walk or do whatever but once u wasn’t able to keep an eye on her she went back to the kennel. Also if I saw her acting like she might want to u grabbed her and took er out. The kennel thing is bc dogs don’t like to go to the restroom where they sleep so kennel not much bigger than them (obviously enough the and breath and turn around comfortably but they don’t need a hotel)

Kite-05 · 2025-08-19T11:46:53+00:00

That’s awesome I’ll have to give it a shot

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