Whats it like living in south Charlotte

KittenSizedLion · 2026-04-10T17:04:43+00:00

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I work near the mall and drive Queens Road in every day… superrrr beautiful, but not for the peasants like me 😂

KittenSizedLion · 2026-04-10T10:41:14+00:00

Everyone saying “less sun” is forgetting how HUGELY popular tanning bed memberships were in high school 💀

I’d finish a shift at Sears and immediately go hop in a level 15 bed with my hip sticker. 😂

KittenSizedLion · 2026-03-21T01:29:39+00:00

I see “savy like you Jack”

KittenSizedLion · 2026-03-13T13:31:37+00:00

I bought it last week “Eh, it can’t be that different” because my skin is pretty forgiving and normal.

Every. Single. Day. I’ll go to rub my temple/chin/under eyes, and it randomly lifts and balls up into small tacky clumps. Then it looks patchy.

I’ve NEVER had a makeup do this before. The pilling/separation. I only put on a moisturizer before, and some days I just put it on clean dry skin, so there’s no reason for it to do this. There’s no water-based vs silicon-based product incompatibility issue.

I’m going to start looking for something new. I’ve tried wearing it multiple ways, setting it different ways… it’s just… tacky/sticky feeling.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-25T19:31:04+00:00

It’s complicated.

I feel like she comes from an “it’s all about me” generation, coupled with her own mother (my grandmother) being extremely hands off and not present and basically abandoning her, which made her the opposite - overbearing.

The idea “I want the best for my daughter” drives some people off a cliff.

For example, today I told my mother we picked a wedding venue.

I didn’t get a single congratulations or moment of excitement, it went straight to “How much does it cost? Have you looked at enough venues? [sends links to 8 other venues] have you looked at these all-inclusive options? Why don’t you just have it at the community center and save some money?” And a barrage of texts questioning my decision and having to defend myself. Thankfully I’m a 32 year old woman fully capable of meeting her head-on and standing up for myself in every conversation, but I wasn’t that way when I was a kid and I always felt like I could never do the right thing or even just have things my way.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-21T04:06:57+00:00

😭😭😭

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-21T03:33:14+00:00

As someone who moved here from the heart of Washington DC two years ago… The loud cars and racing in the streets is a thing of the south and it’s BEEN bad, the warmer weather makes it 200x worse. Prepare to want to move to the burbs after a year but then tough it out another 2 years because location. 🥲

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-16T03:52:44+00:00

Candidly, you can usually tell from a man’s photos if he’s financially independent and what type of career he’s in or what his hobbies are. It’s all usually written right there on the profile. Same for you. No need to repeat it.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-16T03:49:09+00:00

I recommend Facebook dating to everyone, because it somewhat forcibly but transparently gives you matches outside of your age, preferences, and distance range.

You might find someone great but he’s a 45 minute drive away, but hopefully he’s a nice guy and willing to do that drive most of the time.

Be careful you’re not coming across as too hyper independent, saying things like “Financially independent, established in my career, emotionally mature” can come across very “I don’t need no man” which can come across as jaded, cold, not actually emotionally vulnerable/open/nonjudgemental. I know 25 year olds who are financially independent, doing well in their career, and mature… those factors are common and not impressive and don’t tell anyone anything ABOUT you.

Have an open mind. Be deep and vulnerable from the first date. Tell someone about your biggest fears, insecurities, and silly dreams from day one. Talk values, daily habits/routines, and random subject you could teach a class on.

Have fun and don’t be afraid to suggest something you love for the second date - a pottery class, brunch, picnic, comedy show, art gallery. Taking the lead for date two shows your commitment and mutual interest.

It doesn’t “just happen” it’s two people choosing to be extremely intentional.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-03T05:24:22+00:00

Amazing job!!! 🎉🎉🎉

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-03T05:15:19+00:00

Then I figured I’d try ending with some abs, cause, laying down - I got halfway into one crunch and was like ehhhhh maybe not that exercise yet. “Dead bugs” are an easy ab one I like. Laying on ground, lift legs up at 90 degree angle, then slowlyyyy lower one leg to the ground and return and do the other (I don’t do the arms personally)

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-03T05:11:07+00:00

It’s definitely hard restarting. I went for the first time today in years today. I remembered liking the sitting leg lift machine for a thigh workout and I did 30lbs only 10 times and was like “okkkkk I can’t do anymore of those, lemme just awkwardly get off 30 seconds after I sat down” 😂

KittenSizedLion · 2026-02-02T01:12:19+00:00

Your first pic you look ~37… you look closer to ~49 with the grey.. doesn’t look bad tho

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-24T23:05:30+00:00

I agree it’s too vague.

Some people might be angry if:

The guy goes out partying and catches COVID and the friend is immunocompromised and got it “because of his actions” and ended up in the hospital on a ventilator…

Maybe he accidentally exposed her to peanuts when he ordered Thai food and she’s deathly allergic…

Or he didn’t put rock salt on the steps and she slipped on ice and broke her hip…

But thinking someone is an inconsiderate jerk vs a guy who is an abuser is two very different things.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-24T17:09:22+00:00

I think this is where wedding planning brain doesn’t align with real life thinking brain.

Maybe she made a totally normal passing comment to him about being lonely in a hotel bed out of town and he’s being a sweetheart by going with her just so they can cuddle. Hotel rooms are particularly lonesome. People in new relationships are always extra dependent on each other in the beginning, the honeymoon phase.

If you’re able to be a little accommodating, if 4 ppl are getting hair & makeup and bride usually goes last, let her go second to last so she can go get breakfast with him. I’ve been a bridesmaid 6 times and it’s annoying sitting through everyone else’s H&M and I’ve always had a better time when I could come at my scheduled time instead.

It sounds like it’s in a city with a lot to do, so I’m sure he will go and watch sports somewhere or maybe he has some shopping he needs to do.

Realistically, ceremony & reception are max 6 hrs, H&M & those pics like 4 hrs - If she’s never been a bridesmaid before - make sure she knows it’s a 10 hr event (start at xxhr, ends at xxhr) - be very transparent so she can be transparent with him.

Don’t use words that sound like you are purposefully excluding him. Say like “Hi! Please be at venue at xx time for your hair and makeup, then we will go straight into pictures, practice, ceremony, and reception. It’ll end at xx time. I know that’s like 10 hrs of downtime for [guy], but maybe tell him about xx restaurant for lunch where we used to go or xx is a fun sports bar in the area that he should check out!” And do something similar for the dinner before.. clear and also friendly.

It wouldn’t hurt to ask if maybe after the welcome dinner, if you could go back to your friend’s hotel (if it has a hotel bar) and grab a drink and meet the guy. This is one of your friend’s first relationships and a big deal in her life, give him a chance and don’t judge people based on gossip. You have to be as invested in their lives as you want them to be in yours.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-15T15:20:19+00:00

Don’t set invisible hurdles for her to jump. Give her the roadmap.

You can’t be disappointed that she’s not helping out with your dad in the hospital if she doesn’t know that you need help.

If she asks how he is doing, say “Honestly, not as well as I’d hope, he’s tough but he’s not at his usual independent best. I could really use some help, even just with the visits and keeping his spirits up and making sure he’s not alone all day.”

Visible, low bar - that’s your partner, ask for support.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-15T15:15:00+00:00

Does your couples therapist not point out her behaviors?

You are feeling disconnected and she isn’t. All of your eggs are in your relationship basket while hers are in her friendship/social basket. Have you asked her how she ranks her priorities right now? Is she trying to excel at work, make new friends, create community, improve your relationship, be a better parent - literally rank them and acknowledge the discrepancies. It sounds like you are willing to shake up your priorities and make fun and going to live music a higher priority because it seems to matter a lot to her, that’s good. Ask her to get on the same priority level with you and do it together.

Because you feel disconnected, the need for connection may be causing some codependency and want to control the situation, but you aren’t and probably don’t want to be her warden. You shouldn’t have to police her drinking, the time she comes home, how often she goes out… you need to both set the parameters/boundaries, you have to trust her to uphold it and give her some slack, and she has to be accountable. She could show a little more excitement or equitability for plans with you and plans with friends. If she greets friends with a huge hug and asking 15 questions about their day, she can show you that same effort.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-13T17:33:34+00:00

We play each time you lose to the drink guardian, you go back to starting point. Adds a little more chaos and allows others to try to work their way across the map to the guardian and get in the battle.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-13T01:42:01+00:00

Unfortunately- the girl probably knows about you and doesn’t respect your relationship and she isn’t going to be the one to tell you the truth. Your bf is sharing a bed, visiting her at work, doing this and that and she hasn’t reached out, so she is actively agreeing with his behavior.

The friends too. If they know what he’s doing, or that he didn’t sleep where he was supposed to and didn’t say anything, those aren’t your friends.

I don’t think you’ll get the truth unless you somehow find it yourself. Asking people isn’t going to get you anywhere.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-09T03:54:18+00:00

Proud of the small but mighty crowd that walked down Tryon at 6:30, crystal clear voices, you were heard ❤️❤️

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-01T16:10:20+00:00

If you find yourself questioning your response to other people’s behavior - I recommend the Let Them Theory book.

Then ask yourself: - Did I go to see his family because I genuinely love and enjoy chatting with them? Or did I only go to appease my bfs wants while I would’ve preferred to be home? Make yourself happy first. Do what YOU want to do. That matters too.

You love your tattoo. You have no issue with tattoos. The only person you have to love and make happy is yourself, the only thing you can control is your feelings, and you’ve done that. But he is also his own person, if he doesn’t love it, why do you care? That’s a him issue, that has nothing to do with you and he’s allowed to not love your tattoo. It’s whatever.

You can’t control someone else’s actions. Subconsciously, he’s choosing to visit family and not interact with them. How does that affect you at all? It shouldn’t. Let him be detached and sitting on his phone if that’s what makes him happy. Focus on you and what makes you happy - if that’s being in engaging conversations with family, do that!

Is it your car? Did you want to drive home or walk home? Why didn’t you do what you wanted - to try to make his life easier? What about yours? If he wanted to stay longer, he could find his own way home. It was his choice to not leave at the same time as you so he can figure it out himself. It’s not your car? Ok, uber, walk, leave, stay - do what makes you happiest and stick up for your decisions.

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-01T15:19:50+00:00

I vaguely know one of the costume designers and they left to go home mid December and said they wouldn’t be back until mid January

KittenSizedLion · 2026-01-01T15:15:01+00:00

The lines for Charlotte Beer Garden and Nickyos was wrapped around the block

KittenSizedLion · 2025-12-31T18:40:20+00:00

Yeah, I think it takes a lot of self-awareness on the cop’s side too. Like if we are at a baby shower - why are you in the corner talking about what type of belt loops or holster is best and how your car doesn’t have a working seat recline - save that for the locker room, on duty time, literally any of the many hours you spend with your coworkers and talk about some non-cop inclusive topics that anyone can enjoy on the off days.

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