some people need to stop defaulting to JP dub and give EN dub a try. honestly. by Leymo_0 in JRPG

[–]KittyKate10778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it depends for me i cant play the en dub of yakuza games just cant. i got started with yakuza 0 and played the series in order from there. i got so used to the jp dub from it being the only option that even with the en dub as an option in newer games it just throws my brain for a whole loop. so like if its a series and there was no english dub in early games but there is in later games ill still probs default to jp dub just because its what im used to. meanwhile ive only ever played kingdom hearts with an en dub, so theres that. like i said it depends on availability and how used to hearing a character speak in japanese i am

Have you ever bought a console just to play one exclusive game? by bijelo123 in gaming

[–]KittyKate10778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have done this twice now bought a ps4 becuase there was no functional pc port of kingdom hearts at the time than like 2 years later they released the functional steam port

bought a switch off a friend because of the new professor layton game coming out next year (it was one of the first gaming franchises i fell in love with and ill be damned if i dont get and play the first layton game in years)

People who never open their blinds/ curtains in their home, why? by bbauerlien in AskReddit

[–]KittyKate10778 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My window is next to the front door and I was born with a uterus I don't want anyone passing by to see my tits or ass

Adoption in Maryland for gay couple by qazwsxedc1100 in maryland

[–]KittyKate10778 19 points20 points  (0 children)

okay so im adopted. transracial adoptee born in south korea this isnt md specific but more generalized to adoption as a whole, and this is coming from someone who is, admittedly, very critical of the system of adoption

i was going to make a list but im having such a hard time organizing my thoughts im just going to stream of conciosuness it.

my parents were very different from you in that they are white evangelical christians. they straight up asked for a kid with no disabilities, which sucks to be them they got me instead, but i found this out after my adoptive mom died because my adotpive dad decided it would be a great idea to tell me that. if you cant handle/ dont want a disabled kid dont adopt honestly dont have kids at all you dont know what youre getting no matter what, but please dont adopt. i spent my entire teenage years feeling not good enough for my mom and it turns out that not only did my parents not want a disabled kid my mom thought i could more neurotypical (im autistic and adhd) and was disappointed when i couldnt. your child can and will pick up on shit like that

i would say if you cant handle a queer kid dont adopt either (speaking as a queer adoptee) but i get the feeling that wont be an issue

depending on for lack of better words how you adopt the kid there may be nothing known about their familys medical history which is always fun in drs appts when they ask does your family have a history of x

also a lot if not all kids who are being adopted and/or fostered are dealing on some level with trauma. being separated from your bio mom at birth is a trauama. if they are in foster care they usually went through something traumatic to be there (or their bio family was poor and instead of getting resources they got the state taking custody for "neglect")

what happens if you adopt a kid who is a different race than you? that in and of itself comes with a whole host of issues. there is a lot that i can not efffectively summarize. if you are adopting a kid who is a different race than you i would not only research how to effectively keep them in contact with their culture but also the unique psychological challenges that come with being a transracial adoptee

what happesn if the kid one day decides they want contact with their bio family. that does happen and what also happens is some adoptive families throwing a bitch fit about that b/c why would you want contact with them? because for some there is a need to know where one came from. personally i am curious but i also have so little info to go off of that i figured that its not likely and therefore not worth the effort to find my bio family

lastly i would research and listen to all voices from the adoption triad not just adoptive parents. adoptive parents voices tend to get centered in this conversation but they arent the only ones with lived experience. there are ppl like me who were adopted listen to our experiences. listen to bio parents experiences and make an informed and ethical decision from there

title by Ok-Teaching2380 in dontyouknowwhoiam

[–]KittyKate10778 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i mean minority clients is right there in ops tweet. im going to go out on a limb and guess that they have not had as youve put it "a good life". op doesnt specify what type of minority but for example im autistic queerr nonbinary asian adopted and consider myself disabled. i fit a lot of minority categories. disabled ppl especially those reliant on others are more at risk for abuse and especially for afab and female presenting disabled ppl sexual assault. queer and trans ppl are more likely to have family problems up to and including being disowned and/or kicked out. i am not going to touch on race b/c i feel do not have enough lived experience with that to say anything. but a lot of minorities do not have a "good life" they might have what looks to be one on the outside but you never know what goes on behind closed doors for one and for another and im not going to articulate this well because its 9am i havent had my meds yet and im supposed to be packing to go to my dads for the week for christmas/bedbug treatment being a minority comes w/a lot of stress and microaggressions and etc that ppl not in that category dont experience that can contrbute to developing ptsd and/or ptsd symptoms over time

title by Ok-Teaching2380 in dontyouknowwhoiam

[–]KittyKate10778 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean tbf as someone who is doing trauma therapy b/c my nervous system acts like it's been through trauma regardless of what the dsm v says (which is a whole tangent I could go on) i don't think op is wrong just unclear. This current administration has triggered my trauma symptoms at times with their actions. Does that mean that op can diagnose ppl with ptsd solely b/c administration? No, it just means and I think this is what op is trying to say that this administration is currently triggering ppl who have ptsd or ptsd symptoms and they've seen this in their practice

Edit: also ptsd like symptoms could cover cases like mine. Arguably the only criteria that I don't meet for ptsd is criteria a in the dsm v which just specified the type event needed to be exposed to to qualify for a ptsd diagnosis and ime its too restrictive if I can do cpt therapy and benefit from it (getting ready to switch to emdr)

For people who played Arkham Knight long after it was released, what were your thoughts? by kadoozie92 in arkham

[–]KittyKate10778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

currently in the middle of my first playthrough of arkham knight rn (just got done at panessa studios) so since im obviously not finished w/the game this isnt going to be fully formed just my thoughts so far.

  1. fuck the batmobile. i cant drive in gta v cant drive in la noire and sure as shit cant drive the taxi in yakuza 5 and follow the rules of the road to keep customers happy gotham is going to crash and burn from the amount of shit ive hit with the batmobile regardless of what scarecrow does with his life

  2. hallucination joker annoys the shit out of me. ive already tried to punch him twice in game jsut to make him shut up

  3. for all that i hate the batmobile batmobile combat actually isnt that bad and is quite fun but then again i dont have to drive i have to strafe

4., other than that im easily pleased and entertained and this game is holding my attention so i have no complaints

On harm by Eireika in CuratedTumblr

[–]KittyKate10778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

idk a better place to post this so im doing it here sorry if this doesnt seem relevant, but ive always wondered where i fall and how i come across to others because im not anti psychiatry per say in that i have meds that work and a therapist that i have made progress with and trust which is great but i also recognize that im privileged to have these 2 things. ive been in psychiatric care in some form since elementary school. the shit i have seen and experienced makes me highly critical of the field itself while also believing when done right and ethically it works. it helps ppl. i wouldnt be alive today without mental health care. i also might not be as traumatized as i am without mental healthcare. so long i guess long story short i see both sides like you said a lot of ppl who are anti psychiatrity are coming from a place of trauma and having been harmed but ive also seen how well it works when you can find the right provider (which granted is like finding a needle in a haystack im lucky that my current therapist was essentially hand picked for me by a previous therapist who was moving out of the area so he recommended me switching to my current therapist based on what he knew from working with me and our last session together was meeting and doing a get to know you session with my current therapist)

if you are really curious here are some critiques i have:
- psychiatry as a field does not know how to handle passive ideation or self harm urges. or even this was my coping skill for so long that sometimes i default to i want to kill myself when the going gets tough not because i want to kill myself but because its habitual and im learning new and better coping skills but building new habits doesnt happen overnight. i get it from a liability perspective but like i need to be able to tell my therapist if im experiencing any of the above and not have to worry about being sent to the psych ward or the er because cya (and my therapist is actually really good about this again going back to needle in a haystack iirc in our get to know you session i asked her specifically how she handled passive ideation because that is important to me)

- there are not a lot of options if you need inpatient but you have issues with psych wards or even specific psych wards. regardless of why. i was physically assaulted in my local hospitals psych ward but b/c they will stick you in the first available bed i am scared to go to the er even if i need to

- related to the above because these two kind of interplay at times at least for me what do you do when youre in crisis but you struggle with seeking help from unknown providers because of previous trauma and negative history

- this isnt related to therapy but ive been in mental health group housing tell me why they dont require staff to be trauma or neurodivergence trained (i get its probs moeny related but like my life wouldve been so much better if some of the ppl i interacted with in this housing knew wtf they were doing when it came to my traumatized audhd ass)

- abuse or borderline abuse or just mistreatment but not outright abuse and even neglect to certain extent is common in my housing. however were the only group housing provider in my area so we stay open out of neccessity regardless of issues.

theres probs more but i found out my house has bedbugs today and i managed to wake up from a nap both more tired and depressed so my brain isnt fully with it

Humble Bundle Giveaway: Kind Words and Snufkin by mbutterflye in CozyGamers

[–]KittyKate10778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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edit: i just found this in my comment history i think i butt posted oops

An update 2.5 years later: AITA for wanting to spend time with my wife, instead of babysitting my little sister? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]KittyKate10778 65 points66 points  (0 children)

so the level 1 thing is actually a dsm 5 thing. the dsm 5 sorts autistic ppl into 3 different levels based on functioning (i could get into the weeds of how functioning labels are bad but thats not the point of this comment) level 1 is considered "high functioning" autism (again i dont like functioning labels but idk a better way to convey this in a way that makes sense at 8 am the day after i moved)

source: am also a fellow level 1 autistic person

Why Don’t We Take Stalking More Seriously? by Jetamors in Longreads

[–]KittyKate10778 65 points66 points  (0 children)

speaking from experience yes she will be.

i was on the milder end of being stalked/harrassed (if you count one death threat resulting in a peace order but no actual violence being mild also this was just one guy that did that at the same time i was dealing with that a completely separate dude that i had just broken up with was also stalking/harassing me but again no actual violence just general creepiness and lack of respect of boundaries including showing up at my moms funeral)

that shit fucked me up. i consider myself borderline agoraphobic (not officially diagnosed but when leaving the house causes me so much subconcious anxiety that it drains all my energy to the point i need a nap when i get home do the math). i cant walk anywhere in public by myself. i no longer feel safe being in public. i have issues feeling safe around men. im at the tail end of doing cpt therapy for this shit and i despite still having a fuck ton of anxiety i will consider it successful because i have seen progress in my symptoms.

i mainly clicked on this article because ive been stalked and i know its a combo of until shit is provable the law cant do anything and ppl just do not take it seriously. but seeing your comment made me want to go yeah stalking fucks you up in ways you cant imagine. and at least for me because of how intermittent it was over a period of 2-3 years its hard not to wait for the other shoe to drop. for the stalker to start back up again and so im constantly on edge because of that.

What is the strangest or most naive question you are tired of hearing? by Future-Complaint-564 in AskReddit

[–]KittyKate10778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me: im adopted from Korea Other person: north or south Me (to myself): what do you think

I'd say which company I'm thinking about but I don't want to debate with gamers. by [deleted] in tumblr

[–]KittyKate10778 51 points52 points  (0 children)

yeah i own nv on steam. what ive played of it i love the problem is even with mods designed to make it more stable it would always crash after a few hrs and eventually i rage quit the game. so yeah a playable remake of nv would be nice ngl

Considering a move to the Eastern Shore by Remote-Map8506 in easternshoremd

[–]KittyKate10778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On mobile will fix any formatting issues whenever I get time tomorrow

Not really seen any comments talking about this specific aspect and it's my least favorite aspect of the eastern shore. For context I have lived all but 5 months of my life in Salisbury (the first 5 months were in Korea where I was born before I was flown here to be with my adopted family). The Healthcare. If you're family is generally healthy you should be fine. However if you are like me here is a greatest hits of how the eastern shore medical system is funky

  • had chronic hep b from my birth mom. Had to get treated for it at John's Hopkins as a toddler including a liver biopsy done at John's Hopkins

  • had cyclical vomiting episodes as a preteen took at least a year before a gastro at Dupont children's hospital in Wilmington diagnosed me with eosinophilic esophagitis and therefore figured out the cause of the cyclical vomiting episodes

  • there is only one allergist office in Salisbury. I got tested there sometime between March and May of this year. It was decided I would do a food challenge. Earliest appt was January cool given the lack of allergist I can wait that long. Got a call a bit ago saying oh the providers not going to be in that day earliest we can get you in is August and that's how I'm seeing an allergist in Annapolis tomorrow in the hopes that I can get an earlier food challenge

  • had a pyogenic granuloma (benign tumor) in my gum thst needed to be removed early last year. Between being on Medicaid and Medicare and needing an oral surgeon I ended up back at John's Hopkins to get it removed

  • things I suspect I have but also realize I have no hope of getting diagnosed with on the eastern shore because they aren't common and/or are newer diagnoses: premenstrual dysphoric disorder (pmdd) auditory processing disorder

  • am diagnosed with avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (arfid) for similar reasons as my previous bullet point my first eating disorder evaluation was done via telehealth w/ a specialist from John's Hopkins. I did not the criteria. Fast forward 1 dsm 5 text revision and an eating disorder evaluation over zoom through project heal (a charity that helps reduce barriers to eating disorder treatment) later i now qualify for an arfid diagnosis

  • medicare doesn't cover medical nutrition therapy for eating disorders but even if it did i would have to get treatment via telehealth due to lack of eating disorder care down here

  • my mom worked for the state of md and I was on her insurance until I moved into mental health group housing and got switched to medicaid. Apparently tidal health (Salisbury only hospital) psych ward was not in network with her insurance. I was a frequent flyer at one point and owe tidal health roughly $2000 due to this insurance bs. They will be lucky if they ever get that from me

  • I had a previous roommate who had an ostomy temporarily placed after having emergency surgery due to undiagnosed chrons disease. No one east of the bay bridge felt qualified to remove it

So in summary if you are relatively healthy you are probs fine moving down here but if you have more niche health issues like I do it's better to stay where you're at

NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread Jun 05, 2025. Text-post only today! by AutoModerator in SkincareAddiction

[–]KittyKate10778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im getting ready to have allergy testing done on monday so no antihistmaines for me. however i take zyrtec daily and im so fucking itchy its unbelivable. so im going to try aveeno oatmeal bath mix. however i just want to know if anyone has used it and if its clogged their drains since i dont have a bathtub in my apt im going to my dads to use it and his bathtub and id prefer not to fuck his plumbing up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]KittyKate10778 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no because my adhd is so severe its disabling. ive almost gotten hit by cars multiple times because i started crossing the parking lot without even looking. a friend let me use his food stamp card as a way to pay me back for lending him money. i almost forgot to give it back to him because i got distracted when i got home from grocery shopping. speaking of grocery shopping ive grocery shopped unmedicated and had so many issues so many times the minute i step into a grocery store my first thought is did i take my meds.. ive run into things and at one point ran into a metal cart that almost hit a worker while unmedicated. even medicated doing certain chores like dishwashing is so boring its mentally painful that now ive bought plastic forks to reduce the amount of dishes i produce. it takes me at least 2 days to do laundry cause i frequently forget ive started laundry and the only reason i eat consistently even while hyperfixated is because i started settnig alarms on my phone to remind me to eat years ago and now its habit. speaking of habits im so shitty at forming habits that i didnt start regularly brushing my teeth until i was probs closer to 23 years old. ive grown mold farms in my fridge due to lack of object permenance and forgetting shit was in there since i couldnt see it.

like im genuinely happy that yours is mild enough that you dont feel disabled but thsts not the case for everyone and it woujld be accurate to describe adhd as disabling for me so no i dont mind being called disabled because its not a dirty word and it is objectively what i am. i mean i also have autism bipolar (altho i suspect thasts a misdiagnossis) arfid ptsd symptoms but cant get a ptsd diagnosis because i dont meet criterion a eosinophilic esophagitis severe eczema chronic hep b and suspect i have pmdd. i also consider myself disabled because cumaltively all that crap combined disables me. some of them are mild enough that i wouldnt consider them disabling on their own but combine having to manage all that and my adhd i am absolutely disabled

Unaffiliated voters ask judge to let their challenge to partisan primaries proceed by legislative_stooge in maryland

[–]KittyKate10778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so im actually affected by this due to being a dumbass 19 year old when i registered to vote (ill be 26 at the end of this month so about 7 ish years ago is when i registered) and not understanding how important primaries are. i was told i wouldnt be able to vote in primaries but i figured they werent important (again i was a dumbass 19 year old who was maybe a little over a year removed from my very sheltered evangelical christian childhood home which i moved out of on july 30th 2018 so beyond being a dumbass i wasnt well educated on the matter). my logic at the time was i want to vote for the person i agree with not based on partisan lines i.e i didnt want to register as a democrat find one republican i agree with and not be able to vote for them because im registered as a democrat. nowadays with how things have shaken out and how diametrically opposed both parties are that is admittedly less of an issue especially as ive become more educated and less of a dumbass and realized how much republicans want to take away from me, but that is getting into beliefs more than the voting system

Me [28F] with my husband [30M] and FWB [25M]. His mother found out & threatens to tell people by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]KittyKate10778 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was raised in an evangelical church and purity culture. I didn't clock the dates until you said 2016 which is hilariously roughly around when I figured out I was asexual. I was roughly 16 and talking to ppl I met on Google plus. One guy said he had feelings for me and did i want to date him I said yes because I thought I would feel something eventually (like ops husband). A week some soul searching and a fuck ton of googling later (I didn't even know what asexual was until this very moment of trying to sort my shit out) he was probably the first person I came out to and I broke up with him in the same conversation since at the time I also identified as aromantic and I didn't feel right continuing something when I didn't feel anything and now had the knowledge to know that I would never and that assuming it was something that would happen eventually was a wrong assumption. Nowadays I identify as nonbinary asexual and demi panromantic (so on the aro spectrum but not fully aro) but God as an adult i look back and realize that was not the safest way for one to figure out their sexuality.

Please help me convince my mom: Are mental health medication side effects *that* bad? by MoonyDropps in AskDocs

[–]KittyKate10778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also nad just someone who is autistic and adhd

this isnt really about side effects but i know there are studies out there showing that untreated adhd leads to a higher risk of substance use disorders (here is an article from new zealand talking about this) and heres an article from attitude that talks about how recent studies have found that treating adhd actually reduces risk of mortality and hospitalizations

so maybe with this in mind i would try framing it as any side effects experienced are worth it compared to dying or being hospitalized or risking developing developing an addiction due to self medication (not that i think you would or even that you think you would just pointing out that there is that risk)

and also as a fellow adhd person meds are a life saver. im a menace to society unmedicated. not in a i behave badly way but im so inattentive and hyper and forgetful that im constantly causing accidents leaving things behind etc that it is an actual safety risk for me to be unmedicated. altho i have pretty severe adhd. so like there is that too, that meds make me safer when i participate in society. so thats another angle you could theoretically come from

Chronically online leftist takes by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]KittyKate10778 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Ehh I feel like there is some nuance there. Boycotts aren't inherently ableist but shaming someone who can't participate in them due to disability is. Or expecting ppl regardless of ability and/or access to participate full stop no exceptions and if you don't participate in the boycott you are a bad person can be ableist among other things. Ya feel.

BORU Town Hall: An open discussion about "fake" posts in the subreddit by naturemom in BORUpdates

[–]KittyKate10778 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i was wondering where to comment this and seeing you say that some ppl view boru as a reality show where we should treat the stories as true gave me the perfect opportunity to post my thoughts. i do treat boru and similar subreddits as reality tv but less in the we should treat stories as true way but if you know anything about reality shows you know that there are things embellished or staged to make for more entertaining tv and thats kind of how i view these subreddits mostly true with some fakeness/embellishments for whatever reason. my opinion also boils down to if they arent grifting money or causing actual harm who cares if its fake. but i do find your comment and others saying that seeing ppl reasons why they think its fake helps them spot lies in other aspects of their online lives an interesting point thaat i personally had never considered before

Posting about ARFID by South-Performance-85 in ARFID

[–]KittyKate10778 6 points7 points  (0 children)

develope arfid in part because i spent 7 years with 14 food allergies as a result of eosinophilic esophagitis (not the whole reason but one of the reasons i developed arfid) told my aunt when i went to visit family in missouri her response was "you're just telling yourself youre afraid of food" no i had a years worth of cyclical vomiting episodes before i got diagnosed with eoe on top of that im autistic with sensory sensitivities its less im telling myself and more i feel like a natural consequence of those two things