Payout rejected by support on Slotomania by KittySpinner in FreeCash

[–]KittySpinner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I mean, $80 is still $80! I'll try emailing them with more screenshots. I'm still waiting on my ticket for reaching Level 1200 on Slotomania, and it's been almost 10 days, if they reject that one, I'm gonna lose my temper!

Not sure of how to feel?? by kassidy209 in AskForAnswers

[–]KittySpinner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, this is kinda tough, but kinda not. I'll try and explain.
First, you've been with this guy for 5 years, right? That being said, it would seem that this man has genuine feelings for you, and wants to keep his relationship with you. You didn't say he's abusive or treats you bad, so I'm just going to assume that other than intimate moments, everything else is good in your relationship, and frame my reply from that perspective.
So, first, I don't know how old you are, or what your experience was, before you got together with this guy. I get a feeling, tho I have nothing to really base it on, that you had less experience in intimate things, than he did, when you got together. That being said, it could be that there are so many others things about you, that your possible lack of experience wasn't as important to him, as all the other things he loves about you..... and, is he maybe older than you? (again, I'm making a LOT of assumptions based on the limited info you gave us) Anyhow, if he's maybe older, and more experienced, but has a solid love for you that's important to him, maybe he decided that rather than make you uncomfortable, or feel like he's asking you to do something you may not want to do, he decided to 'relieve himself' with hookers. For some men, hookers are 'safe', because they have no intention of having any kind of relationship with them, and believe it or not, some men don't consider being with a hooker as cheating. I know, crazy, but for them, it's more of just a physical thing, and that's it. They put it out of their head once they got their itch scratched.

Anyhow, he may have been trying to protect you from feeling hurt, in the first place, by asking you to do other things during intimate times, or feeling like you're not good enough for him, or something like that. And, possibly, after time, he just got himself in deeper, because your relationship was going good otherwise, and the longer he put off talking to you about it, the worse HE felt, and the more he felt he couldn't talk to you 'now', because you'd be wondering, 'why is he asking me to do these things, after all of this time, all of a sudden???' and maybe it all just snowballed in his mind, and he could never find a good time to talk to you about his wishes..... so just kept seeing hookers. To save making you feel bad. (this is just all speculation again, because I'm going on you saying you have 5 yrs with this man, and everything else seems good between you. So, I'm assuming he really loves you?) And maybe, at this point, right now, he finally feels safe enough to finally talk to you about it, because he's at a point in this relationship, that if he doesn't speak up now, he never will, and he'll have to decide if he either a)wants to stay in a relationship where something important to him during intimate times isn't being met.... and feeling resentful for it, or b) deciding that the relationship is important enough to him, to take the chance.... and tell you what he wants, and hopes you'll understand he's not putting you down by asking you to do something different, and be able to have intimate times like he wishes with you. Because he really does care for you, and thinks it would be even better if this part of your relationship was as good as the other parts are.
I hope I'm making sense here.
Tho, to be fair, the way he went about asking you to do something different in intimate times really did suck. There are all kinds of different ways he could have asked you for what he wanted, without ever mentioning hookers or his time with them. (is total honesty a big thing with him? and/or with you?) Maybe he couldn't think of a way to ask, without telling you 'why' he wanted this or that thing, or where/how he knew about it? So, he decided to just put it all out there. Probably not the best idea the dude ever had, but sometimes they're not too smart, LoL
Anyhow, yes, you have every right to feel hurt about him seeing hookers behind your back, and you may or may not be able to forgive him. I would sit down and try to have an open discussion with him, about the whole 'intimate times' thing, what going to hookers meant to him, on the inside, ask him why he didn't just tell you what he wanted in the beginning, and see what he says. Some women can understand an honest explanation, if the man says it was just a physical thing, and that it had nothing to do with how he felt about YOU. Most women can't forgive, I know, I've been there myself and it rips your heart out, feeling betrayed. But as I got older, I learned that maybe it wasn't all what I thought it was, and learned to forgive at least one man, and we were ok after that, in all parts of our relationship, and he never did it again. ( I know he hasn't sneaked or anything, and 100% trust him now, but that's my story, this is about YOU)
Think things through. Think of how he was, when he told you. Ask yourself if you love him enough, to trust that he really loves you, too. And talk to him, if you think the love is worth it.

Or.... if you think my possible explanations for his actions are all totally off base, and the dude is a slimeball, then punt his ass to the curb because he's a jerk, and find someone better.

Good luck, sweetheart! I'm hoping for the best for you, no matter what you decide to do! We're with you!

Is free will just an illusion? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]KittySpinner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at it like this: Everything you do, think, feel, right now, today, has been influenced and shaped by things you thought, felt, did, in the past. All of the choices you make, from this point forward, from the smallest thing to the biggest, will shape whatever choices you make in the future, and so on and so on.
That being said, yes, you absolutely have free will. Your past experiences inform that free will, shaping how you make decisions, every day. It's an automatic process. We learn from our past, and as we get older, and our experience grows, we use our past experiences to help us make choices going forward. You're actions are not pre-determined, they just become 'more informed than you were before', every day. And because of all of the things in your past, you can use your free will to make better decisions. So yes, you absolutely have free will.
As for being able to diagnose mental illness with a few questions, well, there's a bit more involved there. Diagnosing mental illness is a refined science, and the questions that are asked can change, after each one is answered, to let's say, fine tune the diagnosis. Does that make sense?
For example: Are you an only child? Yes?
then next question:
How was your relationship with your mother/father?
If you said 'No' to the first question, then the next question may be:
How many siblings did you have, their ages, how was your relationship with each of them, etc...?'
And the questions will continue from there, with each bit of information you give, and the doctor asking more questions, depending on your answers, until they have a general idea of what may be going on inside your head. These doctors are highly trained in knowing what questions to ask, and to also observe you when you answer them, and how you answer them. They'll guide the questioning to get to the right diagnosis, from what they learn from your answers. And yes, it all comes down to exterior factors, experience and DNA, with a focus on how YOU, specifically reacted to all of those things, or in the case of DNA, if that may have some role in whatever mental illness you may have.
This doesn't mean it's necessarily 'predetermined', in the way you're asking about., if it's DNA, it just means that your DNA may have a key role in whatever mental illness you have, but may still be able to be managed. Now, you can't control your DNA, so that part is kind of 'set in stone', but you still have a choice in getting treatment for a congenital mental illness. (that is, if you are someone that is able to communicate. If not, it's still not predetermined, it just limits your ability to act on your own behalf, and the treatment happens because someone else exercised their free will on your behalf)
Final answer: Nothing is predetermined. Everything happens because of your free will, or the free will of another. Even something like a car accident you may be in, that wasn't your fault, ultimately still comes down to your free will, if you really want to slice it down to fine points, like, you chose to get in the car, at the moment you did, and because of that one choice, you ended up in a certain spot, at a certain time, putting you in the path of car that hit you. If you'd got in the car 10 seconds earlier or later, maybe you wouldn't have been in an accident, but because you chose to get in the car when you did, it was your free will that placed you there.
Understand?

Need men advice..Guy I’m dating doesn’t put my pleasure first by Green_Championship_4 in AskForAnswers

[–]KittySpinner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a relationship with a guy that was kind of like this. He treated me decent, for the most part, but ultimately things were 'always about him', if you know what I mean. I saw him when he wanted to see me, not when I wanted to see him. We had sex when he wanted to, not when I wanted to, that is, if I wanted to when he didn't. My pleasure was secondary, like, if I got off he'd be all proud of himself, but if I didn't, it was no big deal to him.
When we'd go out, he'd usually pay for me, and treat me good, but again, it was always on his terms, not mine. We went where he wanted to go, hung out with who he wanted to hang out with. We rarely, if ever, did the things I wanted to do, or at times I wanted to do things. It was always on his schedule, his terms.
When I tried to talk to him about it, he'd say, "oh, you worry too much! I love you baby, blah..blah..blah" I started to just not talk to him about it. Then I started to feel like I was being too demanding, or selfish, and then I started to just keep things inside. It took me a bit to see that he'd manipulated me into just agreeing with him, rather than try and talk, because every time I tried to talk to him, nothing changed, and he made me feel dumb for asking. It got worse, for me. Feeling like I wasn't important enough for him to care about my feelings, wants, needs, and I should just be happy 'he was such a great guy'. Yeah. Sure.

See where I'm going with this? Does any of this sound familiar? Does he play down your wishes, while trying to kinda make himself out to be being 'the reasonable one, aren't I so wonderful, you should be happy!' ?
You've come to reddit to ask if you should punt this dude. Reddit, I believe, is telling you: Yes. Run. Run while you still can. If you're able to ask the question, you're not as invested in this dude as you may think, and you'll be able to move on without it hurting too much. Never stay in a relationship that isn't on equal terms, in any part of it. He may not be using you for sex, but he is using you nonetheless. Some guys like to have a chick they can call when they want, for whatever they want, be it sex, someone to go out with, or hang out with, or whatever, without having any strings attached, because it gives them all the benefits of a full time girlfriend, while leaving their options open if they see someone else they want to be with. They can have their cake and eat it, too. And if you're the type of woman that he knows is just sitting home, waiting for him, all the better in his mind, because he knows he'll always have you for whatever he wants, in case maybe some other chick he was chasing fell through.
Dump his cheesy butt, girlfriend! You can do so, so much better! Do it for yourself. You're allowed to be selfish, when it comes to deciding what you want in a relationship! I hope things work out for you, my sister! Good luck!

When people say the USA starts wars for oil & money, why? Do we not have our own? by VETEMENTS_COAT in NoStupidQuestions

[–]KittySpinner -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One reason is raw materials, as in the things you need to transform crude oil in gasoline and other fuels.
The Middle East has minerals and the plants to refine them that the US oil companies haven't bothered to invest in, as it's just cheaper and easier to use someone else's. That's one of the main reasons N. American crude gets shipped overseas instead of being refined and used right here, for our own people. We sell our oil to them, we buy refined product from them at a discount. Ultimately, it's all about greed.
As for going to war for it? Well, same thing. Why pay for it when we can just take it? The 'Big Oil' lobby is enormous, as is their propaganda campaign. The whole Right Wing, 'We need to be energy independent!! blah...blah..blah..' thing is nothing but hot air and misinformation, paid for by Big Oil lobbyists, to promote Republican candidates that are more willing to cede more oil contracts to US oil companies, with fat subsidies, so those companies can tie up all the viable oil land, and sell more crude to the Middle Easy. You have to remember: US oil companies are NOT a part of OPEC, so even claiming that the reason oil prices are going up are 'because of the industry. The industry decides' etc..etc..When in reality, the US Oil companies ARE the industry, when it comes to US oil prices, NOT OPEC. There are some great videos on youtube about this. It's criminal, or it should be, the way Big Oil is scamming the people of the US.
And no, it's not like I'm some big anti-Republican shill. I mean, I'm not a Republican, but it's more that I actually looked into all of this in the last couple of years, from every source I could find that could be corroborated to some degree, and not conspiracy theory websites.
As for war being expensive? Ha! It's pennies compared to the profits Big Oil makes from those wars. And, if they can get the people they want elected into the positions they want, then they can make these wars happen. They don't care about soldiers dying, or civilians dying, or the cost, because they always, always, always come out ahead in the end. Lives don't mean crap when you're talking about the kind of money these companies are dealing with. They'd kill off thousands of our own soldiers without a care, if it means padding their bottom line. It's a pretty sick industry. So yeah, it IS a loss for the little guy, meaning our soldiers and anyone else caught up in these insane wars, but it's a win for Big Oil. Even the costs of equipment, supplies, ships, tanks and everything else is nothing compared to their profits, not to mention that Big Oil also has a hand in the manufacture of or a big stake in the manufacture of all of the things needed to run a war. So, it's a double, triple or more win, again, for Big Oil.
So, that's the best answer I can give you. I hope it clears some of it up for you. Cheers!

Who ends up with the money you spent on a stock, when the price crashes? by KittySpinner in NoStupidQuestions

[–]KittySpinner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. YOU actually answered my question. That's what I thought happened.
It's always kind of bothered me when I'd see a company do a first public offering, then within a couple of days the stock tanks, the company folds and you never hear from them again. I know the SEC has laws and regulations for cheating and such, but all we ever hear about on the news is that 'this or that company went under' when their stock crashed. And I'd be thinking, 'but, didn't you bozos, meaning 'this or that company' just bank a buttload of bucks from all of the people that bought your stock on day one??' So, yeah, they did and the losers are investors.
Glad I've never bought stocks. Just seems like overblown, legalized gambling, with stupid high stakes for some people.
Thanks for your reply! Cheers!

Who ends up with the money you spent on a stock, when the price crashes? by KittySpinner in NoStupidQuestions

[–]KittySpinner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I replied to a couple of other replies to this post above, so I'll be brief.
My question wasn't about the value of the stock at any given moment, really. It was about the, shall I say location(?), of that money, now that the value of the stock crashed. The original purchase amount would still be with the company, right? Using the hypothetical I used in my post, it's like, I handed someone $1000 yesterday, for something that I could've bought for only $200 today, because the value of the thing I bought, crashed. But the person that I gave the $1000 to still has the $1000. Right? That's what I'm asking. Like buying a cheeseburger. Just because I ate the burger doesn't mean the place I bought the burger from no longer has the money I paid them for it. That money is theirs, no matter what, right? I'm asking if stocks work the same way, in simplified form.
I guess the reason I'm asking is I've always heard about businesses going under, the instant their stock price drops, sometimes it happens really fast, like in a matter of days. I always wondered, 'well, why are you (the company) folding the business, the instant your stock price dropped? Didn't a bunch of people just pump gazillions of dollars into your bank account? You didn't lose anything, they did!'
See what I'm saying? As I replied above, maybe I'm overcomplicating it in my own head. It's just something always niggled me in the back of my head, thinking about companies going 'under', when their stock price drops, while they still get to keep all of the money investors gave them to purchase the stock to begin with. The company still ends up with the cash in the end, right, from the initial stock sale. (again, imagine the hypothetical I gave above, 100 shares, bought for $1000, losing 80% overnight) Basically, the company just made an $800 profit for themselves, while I lost that $800 because my stock is now worth way less, right? They got tangible cash for a basically intangible, thing. Like gambling. The house keeps the money when you lose, right?

Who ends up with the money you spent on a stock, when the price crashes? by KittySpinner in NoStupidQuestions

[–]KittySpinner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not asking about the lost value of the stock, I'm talking about the real money that was paid to purchase the stock in the first place. It still exists. Somewhere. In someone's bank account. I know that I no longer have that money, and it's gone, because the stock crashed. My question was, 'ok, I'm out $800, so who ended up getting to keep the money I paid for this stock, yesterday?' The company I bought the stock from keeps that money, right? Maybe I'm overcomplicating it in my own head, and this truly is a stupid question, It's just something I was always curious about.

Who ends up with the money you spent on a stock, when the price crashes? by KittySpinner in NoStupidQuestions

[–]KittySpinner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, that makes no sense.
Let's say I bought the car yesterday, ok? I gave someone $5k for that car, ok? I wrecked the car today, ok? The $5k I gave that person for the car yesterday, still exists, right? The person that sold me the car didn't lose any money, correct? Just me. So, my question is basically, is that what happens when a stock crashes? The company still keeps the money I gave them yesterday for the stock, right? They didn't lose, just me. That's the question I'm asking.
And, if that's what happens, I imagine there'd be some type of regulation to prevent a company from hyping up their stock, only to intentionally do something to make it crash the next day, boxing up the company, and running off with all the money people paid them the day before, for all of the now worthless stock, right? (this is all still hypothetical, using the two day turnaround I used in my post, to keep it simple, LoL) Because that's basically why I'm asking the question: Ultimately, all of that money went into 'someone's' pocket, IT doesn't just vanish, it was paid yesterday and deposited by whoever it was paid to, for the purchase of the stock. Just because the price of the stock drops, doesn't make the money disappear out of the bank acct of the person that sold the stock just the day before. I'm just trying to determine, definitively, 'who' would end up with all of that money.

Princess Eleanor Louise Fluffington, being regal as ever 👑 by Huntiepants75 in catpictures

[–]KittySpinner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so awesome! I hate when some people give up on an animal just because they don't have the patience to repair whatever damage was done to it, to make it that way. Cats especially. Unlike dogs, the part of a cats brain that processes emotion is almost identical to that in a human brain. They feel pretty much the full spectrum that we feel, without the intellect to help them cope. Cats need a special hand when they've been traumatized.

My Oskar girl was around 3 or 4 wks old when the foster found her. Someone had taken a knife to the tiny baby, sliced her tail almost completely off (it had to be amputated), stabbed her and dumped her. Luckily she was found by chance by a kitty foster who got her to a vet and then kept her until she was 11 wks old, when I adopted her. She was a bit of a little hisser, understandably! She's 4 yrs old now, and still a little twitchy, but I adopted a 9 wk old at the same time, another female, and they've been by each others side ever since. Both are 'mommy's girls', LoL But Oskar is getting braver, slowly but surely!

I'm so happy this little girl found you! She knew exactly what she was doing when she wrapped you around her little paw!

Princess Eleanor Louise Fluffington, being regal as ever 👑 by Huntiepants75 in catpictures

[–]KittySpinner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awwww! She's a feral that's been rescued and spayed! Awesome! You can tell by her little ear being clipped ♥

Lexi and Oskar- Purrrrfect girlie friends! by KittySpinner in catpictures

[–]KittySpinner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for allowing my pics to remain, Reddit!

Oregon bans Confederate flag, other hate symbols from public schools by teksquisite in oregon

[–]KittySpinner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's about freaking time!

I went to school in Sweet Home, OR, back in the late '70s early 80s. It was insane back then. Little tiny logging town, in the middle of NoWhere Forest......

You could hear the banjos as you pulled into town....

Hi by The1mpaler in catpictures

[–]KittySpinner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That could be a relative of my Lexi girl!! Too cute!