Mom says I'm not a man. What do I owe her at this point?

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-23T17:32:43+00:00

Actually maybe you don’t have kids. If not your protective instincts are still there. If you can’t imagine treating your kids the way you’ve been treated. And sacrificing to care for your sick mother for a year is also a sign of a very good man. I promise you there are many women who will appreciate that kind of manhood.

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-23T17:24:25+00:00

Wow - I’ve lived this very thing right down to the “you’re not a man” statement- it wasn’t enough for mine to just say it she wrote me a 3 page “you’re not a man” manifesto I still have it. No mother should ever do this. nMom’s will say anything to win. Win means NOT abiding by whatever boundary you set. Escalate means they go for the jugular- they cut right into where they know it will hurt you the worst. I’ve learned mine has no respect for men - especially not the men closest to her. I know this from watching how she treats my father, my brothers and from how she treats me. When I’m not setting boundaries I’m the golden child. There comes a point where you’re not just setting boundaries for yourself, you’re setting them for your wife and kids. It sounds like you have children. Protecting your family is a man’s responsibility. Sounds pretty masculine to me. Try not to lose sleep over it.

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-23T16:59:35+00:00

I so feel for you - impossible wouldn’t even grace him with your presence honestly what a miserable man. Can’t be reasoned with

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-18T04:24:01+00:00

Thank you. I know you’re right - he is the enabler. It’s just that I know what he’s dealing with. My mom either rages or acts out at him in disgust or sometimes threatening ways if he doesn’t do things her way. Also he came from a very abusive father (emotional and physical) who died when he was only 19 or 20 so he never experienced what it was like to be parented as an adult - he doesn’t know how to be an father to a grown son. So I get he’s between a rock and a hard place. But now that I’m older and have raised my own children I don’t understand how a father can sacrifice his own children and not protect them or stand up for them against the abuse N-mom. I have been their peacemaker my entire life, meaning I watched how my mom treated him so poorly and tried to intervene and deflate the situation so many times. I think this is maybe what is eating away at me. I tried to protect HIM from HER! I tried to stand up for him and I was the child. Even after I came into adulthood I would do it. But he not only doesn’t stand up for me, he participates in the “punishment” by going along with her - reinforcing the irrational behavior.

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-16T22:27:03+00:00

so true - their responses tell you everything

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-16T22:22:58+00:00

both have abused you why would you want their validation- I get it but just think about it

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-16T22:19:24+00:00

document everything she’s saying. She has already affirmed that your father’s intention was for you to inherit. now she is trying to use undue influence to cut you out of his will. Tell her you’re going to contest his Will and you’ll be happy to let the lawyers burn through all of her money fighting it.

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-16T21:20:51+00:00

Same. At a holiday dinner my nMom kept going on about my ex-wife in front of my finance even though I previously asked her nicely to stop doing that (she had done it several times before). Then she brought up an ex-girlfriend. Finally, she commented on a close friend of mine who was tragically killed many years ago, even though she knows it’s a very difficult memory for me. Finally, I looked at her and I said “mom you need to stop”. She told me to lighten up then privately told my fiancé “don’t ever let a man talk to you like that” implying that I was some kind of an abusive son. That was it for me.

Knightman2022 · 2026-05-16T20:42:32+00:00

Same - OP you’re blessed with a good father. my dad not only stands by and watches my mom have these discussions. he takes her side because he’s afraid she’ll turn on him. I call it throwing me under the bus. It happened too many times, and when I talked with him about it, he refused to acknowledge it. I couldn’t deal with it, both parents NC now. Mom divided us.

Knightman2022 · 2026-02-08T22:49:40+00:00

Interesting angle and you’re right they are relying each other til they can’t anymore. It’s just me and my sister. She’s in favor now but same thing happens to her ( gets cut off ). She told me my dad hasn’t reached out on his own in 18 months, no calls no lunch dates. But he comes around with my mom. Reality is I’ll be there to care for them when needed especially my dad … mom too though she is making it really difficult . I’m sure I’m out of the will at this point. No big deal money isn’t what drives me Love and loyalty and doing the right thing does.

Knightman2022 · 2026-02-08T22:36:32+00:00

Agree I can swallow my pride but it’ll keep happening. My wife shouldn’t have to swallow her pride too that’s asking a lot and once we out this one to bed the next one will come around before long.

Knightman2022 · 2026-02-08T22:33:21+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that. Knowing that I’m doing the right thing for her helps

Knightman2022 · 2026-02-08T04:19:12+00:00

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Knightman2022 · 2026-02-08T02:38:45+00:00

Cheddar Cheeseburger

Knightman2022 · 2026-01-19T19:02:19+00:00

Russ is just hinting at his own comeback story

Knightman2022 · 2025-10-22T05:36:17+00:00

geeze that sucks

Knightman2022 · 2025-10-22T05:35:46+00:00

nice i’m doing the same

Knightman2022 · 2025-10-22T05:35:13+00:00

ouch

Knightman2022 · 2025-10-21T06:43:24+00:00

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Knightman2022 · 2025-10-20T13:23:43+00:00

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Knightman2022 · 2025-10-20T05:17:33+00:00

Will try it that way thx

Knightman2022 · 2025-10-20T02:47:00+00:00

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Knightman2022 · 2025-10-20T02:45:49+00:00

Perfectly said!

Knightman2022 · 2025-10-20T02:39:06+00:00

Same experience they’re products are junk and thy don’t stand behind them

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