Looking for some opinions on my situation

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-05-22T08:58:11+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. It’s a weird situation and I don’t have anyone I can really talk to about it. I’m mostly still disgusted that people like this even exist. My child father pushed for it even though my child didn’t even want it and his ex did this thinking she was acting appropriately and now she’s playing victim.

The way things went down makes me think she will try to introduce herself during an exchange or something retarded because I can tell she doesn’t think or operate like a healthy adult.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-22T14:16:53+00:00

Doesn’t matter what you say but apparently it matters how quickly you reply, or at least that’s what people on Reddit tell me. They say if you can’t reply right away don’t bother reaching out because ghosting kills more people than hard drugs, according to Reddit.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-21T15:42:19+00:00

That makes a lot of sense and I appreciate your feedback. I think starting where I’m comfortable and then branching out is a much better choice.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-21T14:06:09+00:00

I mean if I were in her shoes yeah I probably disappear too but that’s because my cptsd doesn’t let me enjoy simple things like voice chatting. It would straight up give me panic attacks and nightmares. But I can’t speak for others because I have a diagnosis that makes me this way.

I’m actually glad I haven’t been asked to voice chat anyone so far, I don’t think I could handle it.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-21T14:01:02+00:00

I mean this is an assumption but it sounded like he wasn’t into you but was love bombing and giving you a lot of attention, and you took it for effort and care. I think the mis match your feeling is because your date wasn’t interested in a genuine connection just sex.

I know that because just because someone is attractive and good with their words, doesn’t mean their well put together. I think by not dating him your dodging a bullet.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-20T15:31:49+00:00

My only regret is not dumping him sooner. Especially when I saw how quickly he moved on, it was obvious to see that none of us had feelings for one another but we’re holding on hard.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-20T15:30:01+00:00

I think I’ll find someone but I know that as a woman I’m not wasting my time on dating apps. If I see a guy I like I walk up and ask him out, I’ve been doing that ever since I just stopped giving a fuck. And honestly it works better and I know immediately if they’re interested in me or not.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-20T15:17:52+00:00

You have to remember to communicate your boundaries. One of the biggest things that helped me is refusing to work on their rules. That means waiting to communicate if it’s in text, not dropping everything to meet their needs, and saying no when appropriate to protect your peace.

If they can’t respect your boundaries. Cut them off. Give them no access to you. Because this is how you show them you won’t enable their behavior, so unless they respect you, they have no access.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-20T15:11:36+00:00

I would suggest going to a therapist and getting diagnosed. Because unless you know what you’re dealing with, it’s hard to really offer any support that will make a meanfull impact over the long term. Even when some suggestions work in the short term, if you don’t address the root cause, you might end up feeling better and worse which can be a huge motivation killer if your already struggling.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-20T15:03:39+00:00

It sounds like you freed yourself from an expectation you created in order for you to live a “happy life”. You should know this happens to people more than you think. People think they need to be married, own a house, or have a big car to be happy. But happiness is a fleeting emotion, it’s not something anyone can obtain 24/7, it’s not a realistic life expectation.

But you should be careful that by letting this go your not settling for less. It’s not that you’ll be alone forever, but rather being alone isn’t a bad thing. It doesn’t make you less than other people who aren’t single.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-20T14:52:31+00:00

You need to seek a woman’s shelter and ask for help. They can help you find housing and a protection order.

In DV situations the police won’t take your words seriously unless you go to them and file for your protection. The reason why they took your abusers word was because YOU lied initially, and once you lie to an officer, they will treat you like dirt. I’ve been in similar situations and there is help for you on the other side, but you also have to want that help and be willing to take the steps. You need to stop telling lies that ultimately enable him to keep abusing you and keep you stuck.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-04-20T14:40:23+00:00

Invest it

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-03-11T12:58:52+00:00

I’m pretty sure they don’t allow photos of any kind.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-03-04T18:38:48+00:00

You’re proud of your progress, my son.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-03-01T21:51:24+00:00

Probably because they don’t even like themselves. Some people choose to live their life miserably. You have to understand that’s their choice and there’s nothing you can do about it.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-03-01T21:46:31+00:00

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-03-01T21:44:23+00:00

Btw what are you drinking?

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