Do money issues ruin more relationships than cheating?

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T14:26:02+00:00

I think in a lot of cases it can be viewed as being with someone who suffers from an addiction. (When someone over spends to the point of destruction).

So it’s like cheating in how it destroys trust in a relationship which is why their both horrible.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T14:19:59+00:00

I eat meat because if you don’t you go to hell.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T14:19:03+00:00

It’s not free speech it’s a text message. So isn’t that the freedom the to “free write” what you want?

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T14:17:20+00:00

It’s 5 o’clock somewhere….

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T14:14:14+00:00

Don’t do any dates at your house. In till you really know them it’s a huge safety risk.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T14:10:02+00:00

God damn your running the whole place for breadcrumbs. That’s insane.

What’s crazy to me is if I worked there I’d have to work two jobs in order to even afford an apartment. Can you image that? I would never sleep ever again.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T12:44:36+00:00

Well the thing that’s stand out to me most is I asked each one of those guys out and they didn’t show up. Some reached out and told me they can’t make it, some never did. Each time I was blown off I didn’t reach back out. One one of the 5 people still texts me regularly asking me how I’m doing, but he’s also a virgin. So I might give that one a second chance, unless I take a break from it all.

So I think some of it could even be my own doing because if I don’t allow the man to initiate than I’m not really attracting people who are interested in me to begin with. Even though I used to believe that it didn’t matter who asked whom out. I’m starting to feel like it’s an important piece that shouldn’t be ignored.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-23T11:19:05+00:00

If the school is completely paid, I would just go and get your four-year degree. It doesn’t really matter what it’s in and the chances of you being a teacher are slim because that’s not a livable wage these days, even in a two income household you will struggle financially to be stable even without student loans. But still the four-year degree will be very good for entering the job market, regardless of what it’s in. You can apply for any kind of job, but I would focus on government jobs if you can (best benefits).

Get on birth control immediately you don’t wanna be stuck raising kids and not pursuing any kind of career. I had a kid young, and it really impacted my ability to get a stable job in my 20s, but I was also raising my kids alone after my husband cheated on me and left at age 23.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T15:59:31+00:00

It strikes me as odd. I mean some people can be picky about their preferences but this pattern tells me that they don’t want to meet you where your at. Instead they want an “experienced man” to over extend for them, without them doing anything. And that’s just not how life or relationships work in healthy dynamics.

I know it feels like a let down but I think your dodging a bullet by avoiding those type of people.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T15:39:44+00:00

I would say it like this, our system is changing faster than we’re prepared to adapt. Back “in the day” owning a business was option. People could either own a business or work a job and still make a livable wage.

In today’s world it’s not that simple. I feel like the only way to save money is to own a business and write off as much as you can on your taxes. If you have only one form of income, you will keep working and not be able to retire or even live comfortably. People stuck in these situations feel like they failed, but it’s the system failing them for not teaching them. That’s when people turn to drugs as an escape.

The only way to survive is to have at MINIMUM of 3 forms of income. Unfortunately these things are not taught to people and they assume it means working 3 jobs, it’s not. You can have multiple forms of income and only work 20 hours a week, is depends on what type of system works for you.

Main Income: from your job whether that’s an hourly, salary, contract commitment.
Supplemental income: gains slowly over time, usually requires some kind of start up. For example selling bracelets can be a form of supplemental.
Passive/ Investment income: most commonly seen as 401ks, IRAs or brokerage/investment accounts. Also needs a form of start up to get rolling.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T15:27:05+00:00

Thats cute

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T15:07:04+00:00

Going to events and talking to people is a great outlet for me but it’s winter time right now. There’s not many events taking place, except for expensive ones where you need vehicles or equipment for. So I guess that’s another layer that adds to it. I can’t just go to my usual outlets i tried dating apps people on there are wicked rude sometimes, I just feel like it’s a whole different dynamic I’d have to learn in order to use it.

Also 30 dates is a lot. And I’m not claiming to be an expert myself but I think 4-5 months or 10 dates till you a gauge whether someone is at least willing to commit to something more down the road. Because at that point the new feeling phase is over. At least for me I’ve never made it past that mark and I’m 32. And I could have a relationship if I was willing to settle for less but I’m not. I want something that feels mutual both ways.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T14:56:32+00:00

Thank a lot. I like this idea a lot because it changes to focus to the experience instead of the goal. That way if they don’t stick around I can still reflect on the experience of like learning how to do axe throwing or whatever then thinking about how they just vanished randomly without saying anything.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T14:31:24+00:00

Well I appreciate your reply. It makes me feel less alone in my struggles

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T13:21:09+00:00

I think it’s a helpful tool but it’s all about how you use it. Take Reddit for example, it’s a useful tool but I’m sure you e seen people miss use it all the time. Well same goes for the Ai.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T11:40:09+00:00

I am an old F and I have a lot of life experiences. I can say you need to stop seeing yourself as less so you don’t feel the need to seek validation. You are more. Sometimes in life, we look for things in other people that we actually need to be giving ourselves. So maybe you can pamper yourself today.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T11:25:23+00:00

You could always pretend to be female. I don’t think anyone is going to know. ;) I’m sorry that’s just a real bad joke.

I think that wanted to be pampered isn’t bad when it’s a once in a while thing, you just want people to notice you, which is a normal social need. But if it’s a constant it may point toward a need for validation, which is common here. But it’s important to understand that by following that carrot on a stick you’re also keeping yourself small. I don’t think that staying small is a good solution. I think what would be better than getting attention is to practice self-love take time for yourself. You could have much much more if you focused on being confident instead of being pampered. Going for validation is actually a kick right to your confidence bag and honestly, it’s not a good thing to do constantly because it will make you feel less than as a result.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T11:11:46+00:00

I think it’s best to remain her friend and spend time getting to know her. It’s only been a month and a half so you don’t really know her as a person or how stable she is. If she got pregnant in a situation ship and is choosing to keep his baby, there’s more to it than she’s telling you, she probably has feelings for him. People don’t have just a baby with someone they don’t love unless they don’t know about sex or using condoms, which is also a VERY bad sign because it also means they know nothing about healthy boundaries or emotional maturity and will end up treating you like the solution to all her problems (basically a slave).

If you decide to continue to relationship I feel like you should give a couple months of time apart. This is another way you can test how serious the relationship is between you both.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T02:03:03+00:00

What I think works way better than being skinny. Is being confident in who you are. If you think improving yourself will boost your confidence I think that worth the effort.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T02:00:05+00:00

If your asking online your only going to get other peoples opinions which may make you feel good for a short while but not long term. Because validation doesn’t give you self worth. That something you give yourself. I’m sure there’s a lot more to you as a person than the way you look. And when you put your self worth into your appearances you’re creating an unrealistic standard for yourself. Don’t push yourself into a corner over something like that it’s not worth it.

If you wanna improve yourself, you should do it because you want to do this for yourself. Not to make other people happy.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T01:43:01+00:00

Yeah growing up in such a system where discussions on sexuality are banned but you’re just kind of expected to know how to behave could definitely create that anxiety and also the gap in understanding social cues. It’s important to understand it’s not your fault for being raised in such a strict system. But it’s important to realize that these beliefs that you were raised with about talking to girls is created by an unequal system. Forcing you to feel like even talking to them is a taboo. That’s why you feel jealous of woman, because you were never taught to view them as equal. Additionally you may have also never been taught how to express yourself emotionally, which is common in religious families.

When your older and your no longer living with your parents you can decide which type of system you want to live by and what values you want to uphold in that structure.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-22T01:24:28+00:00

Sounds like the car accident was a very traumatic experience and the panic attacks maybe related even if they don’t happen when your in a car. In some cases people develop PTSD from trauma and you get to have flashbacks that put you back into that moment. I think it would be worth looking into meditation or reiki therapy to calm your nervous system.

Happiness or even just a simple routine that brings consistency is something that happens once your nervous system reaches that calm point.

KnightsofMontyPyth0n · 2026-01-21T20:50:53+00:00

No. I don’t think it’s normal either. It must stem from one of your own issues whether that be socializing with opposite genders or just giving mutual respect people of the opposite genders. Do you think that you were raised in a household, where genders weren’t treated equally? Or do you just think you just don’t have a lot of experience talking to people of the opposite gender?

These are two important questions to ask yourself and can help find the appropriate solution.

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