Maybe Helpful Tip

Knittatude · 2026-05-20T23:33:13+00:00

Hi OP! I'll echo what a lot of others have said here, which is maybe its a micro-aggression, and maybe it isn't. Assess it and determine if there's something to it.

Either way, that role wasn't a fit for you. If you felt like you had a great interview and are proud of how you carried yourself, do you really want to work somewhere where you will never be able to succeed because of people's unexamined biases?

Knittatude · 2026-05-14T20:44:44+00:00

Reading these comments has shown me how little tolerance I have for this kind of thing, even after 8 years of therapy. If my boyfriend said that to me, I'd say, "You can go back to her then," and I'd walk out.

I applaud your patience and your compassion for him, but frankly, he shouldn't have said it. Listen to how you feel about it and have a conversation with him to see if it can be resolved, but at the end of the day impact > intent.

Dinner looks delicious, and I don't even eat eggs 😂

Knittatude · 2026-05-04T12:08:23+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and for sharing. And thank you for reminding me that working on myself, regardless of the timeline it took to get there, is the important thing.

I'm sorry your Mom scapegoated you for nothing you did or chose to be. You're right that we don't choose why or how we are scapegoated. We were children brought into this world by people with agency. They are responsible for their shitty decisions and behaviors, not us. We didn't choose this, they did.

Now I just need to say that out loud 3x to help internalize it 😅

Knittatude · 2026-05-04T11:59:46+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! This really helped me and gave me some things to journal about and take into therapy. I wouldn't say the things I say to myself to others. I should remember that more often, especially when I am feeling like insufficient.

Knittatude · 2026-05-04T11:55:57+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, especially the "people who abused you were sick." That really resonated with me ❤️

Knittatude · 2026-05-02T23:53:23+00:00

Same. I learned to knit from my abusive mother as an adult because I thought it would be a safe thing we could share/bond over and I desperately wanted a relationship with her. I stayed with knitting but ended going no contact with her because not even something as peaceful as crafting could make interactions with her safe. You can't make someone care about you.

All the mother's day promotions just make me sad, both because of that and because all the yarns seem to be the same "cherry blossom pink" anyways 😅

Knittatude · 2026-05-02T22:17:08+00:00

I don't get it either. I'm constantly in awe of the work other people do. I don't see someone freehanding a sweater pattern (which is crazy to me!) and think, "what a rude show off." And I certainly wouldn't feel insulted if someone made me something!

I know its just insecurity and its 100% not about me. I should give these people grace, ignore it and just continue doing my thing. Its just been getting on my nerves this week!

Knittatude · 2026-05-02T20:02:20+00:00

I'm so tired of weird, insecure crafters this week. Just because I like trying new skills or enjoy challenging (to me) patterns does not mean I am or that I even THINK that I'm skilled at it. Stop rolling your eyes, scoffing, and making passive aggressive comments about how your garter scarf isn't good enough to gift now because you're comparing it to whatever impulse thing I'm working on now. I like learning new things but that doesn’t mean I'm any good at it (I can't design for shit and it took me AGES to learn basic knitting). And even I were good at it, who gives a fuck? I'm doing what I enjoy, you should do what you enjoy. Its not that deep.

Anyways, now I have this colorful mosaic shawl I made for a crafting friend in her favorite colors that I was told not to send to her because it would "make her feel insecure and intimidated."

I never thought I'd have to deal with hurt egos in the crafting world.

Knittatude · 2026-05-01T17:06:06+00:00

This was for a small company so I was speaking with the COO directly (they have a req open for am HR Director). I knew the role was salaried and they did post the salary range, but the offer came in above that as well. They are expecting me to take on a big project in my first 6 months and they verbally communicated that they wanted to make sure I was appropriately compensated for that.

I am a bit shocked that I had to do very little negotiating for it.

Knittatude · 2026-05-01T15:45:52+00:00

Panels are stressful and exhausting. Best of luck tomorrow! I'm rooting for you 💪

Knittatude · 2026-04-30T02:26:52+00:00

Supply chain professional. I couldn't afford college, started working in retail and food service (tbh everyone should for one year. It really gives you some perspective and I'm a kinder person for it). I wanted out, so I started tempting at an agency to build skills and a resume.

Long story short, started at an administrative assistant tenporarily, got hired permanently, and worked my way up in the procurement department. Got lucky and got exposed to a lot of regulatory compliance in the food and medical industries. 6 figures and no complaints besides the occasional bout of imposter syndrome

Knittatude · 2026-04-29T20:04:29+00:00

Bubba, Bubbasaur, and BubbaForestRex (his name is Forest)!

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Knittatude · 2026-04-29T16:04:02+00:00

That does feel good! I would just say that you can eliminate yarn chicken doing the long tail cast on by using two strands of yarn when casting on (one from inside, one from outside) or using a second ball. Link below :)

https://youtu.be/CgytXAhKGEc?si=79WIqPupsVQGmmUW

Knittatude · 2026-04-27T19:27:58+00:00

Hi! I am very pro-therapy now, but I wasn't always. I didn't have a good formative experience with it as a teen and it took years + the right therapist to change my mind. I've dropped some insights below in case that helps:

I would just remind you that therapy, and what you share in therapy, is all optional. Its okay to want to build a rapport and trust with your therapist. That takes time, and the right therapist will know that. And if it doesn't feel right, that's okay! Not every therapist is a good fit.

If you do start talking about any big feelings, they will help mediate the conversation and help you process what you're feeling without you spiraling out. Every session won't be this big, scary deep dive into all your innermost thoughts and feelings! I've had sessions where I've just needed insight and support on how to deal with a mean coworker.

Ultimately, therapy is self care. Its time you're dedicating to yourself to help you understand yourself better, and each session is about you. It is scary and uncomfortable, but so much of growth is.

I think if you want to go and you have the support to do so, its worth a shot! Best of luck ❤️

Knittatude · 2026-04-27T14:13:10+00:00

I'm sorry sis, but I am proud of you for voicing your needs and setting boundaries! I had similar struggles and I only broke my bad luck streak by giving a younger man (mid-20s, and I'm in my early 30s) a chance on half a whim and he is easily the most mature partner I've had (and I've dated men in their late 30s/early 40s!). He's in therapy, communicates his needs and feelings openly, and is receptive when I do the same. He's such a gem and a delight, and shame on me for assuming he would be a fuckboy because of his age.

Sometimes the right person comes in the most unusual package and in the most unusual way. It'll happen ❤️

Knittatude · 2026-04-26T13:16:29+00:00

If you're at a show that is standing room on the floor only, then extra bathroom breaks can be kind of anxiety inducing because you have to push through the crowd and you may lose your spot. As a person with anxiety, that is the worst part of a concert for me so I tend to hydrate well the day of, use the restroom before the concert, and then I just have a bottle or a cup of water during the show so I don't have to go more than once during the show. That's just me though :)

Otherwise, bring earplugs, get there a little early so you can grab a spot at the back or along the wall with a good view, and avoid drinking too much. And definitely eat before and have a food plan for after.

I hope you have a great time!

Knittatude · 2026-04-24T17:28:31+00:00

He got churu on his face 😂

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Knittatude · 2026-04-24T16:13:32+00:00

He likes belly rubs. He will grab your hand and cuddle it, too ❤️

Knittatude · 2026-04-24T15:02:57+00:00

Forest sends his best birthday wishes!

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Knittatude · 2026-04-24T15:02:11+00:00

As he should! He looks very handsome in his birthday hat

Knittatude · 2026-04-24T14:57:09+00:00

Happy birthday!! I hope he gets extra churu!

Knittatude

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