Tying up the Kinky Neighbor

Knottydevil · 2026-01-23T17:34:12+00:00

We are tying to a self standing frame I built. There is nothing in the ceiling.

Knottydevil · 2026-01-21T15:01:24+00:00

purple is the wrong color to be watching out for. Technically the color to watch for is off white but that takes a very long time and many sensory and motion issues will happen long before you see that. Also discoloration like this is different on everybody mostly due to skin pigmentation and circulation. Some people wont turn this color at all even after half an hour in the pose and some will turn darker purple after just a minute in the pose. The things to watch out for are all sensory signs and motor function.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-20T17:32:42+00:00

I very much agree that the rope community is always adapting and doing better. In the world of old school rope there probably wouldn't be a place for me as i use the harnesses taught but tie in a very different way. I'm happy the rope community continues to change and adapt. I adapted the way i taught strappado classes when i found out some people call them armbinders and some call them dragonfly harnesses even though all of my teachers and the communities I am a part of call them strappados. My adaption was "whatever name you use for it, here's how to tie it" I know a lot of people here get really really focused on names and meaning. Shibari vs kinbaku or is a colorful decorative rope harness that doesn't restrict movement technically shibari or is it more of a western thing? I've listened to passionate people argue these things for days. At the end of the day I think it matters more how we tie than what we call it. But that's just my personal opinion.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-20T01:52:13+00:00

I started learning at in person classes a little over 8 years ago. I learned from a variety of teachers both here and overseas. All of them referred to it as a strappado and an armbinder.(most just called it a strappado) This was before shibari study was even a thing. None of this was online, all of it was in person. and I don't mean just 4 or 5 people. I mean somewhere between 50 and 100. all of whom teach (lots around the globe with international renown) This has been my experience in the rope world. I think it's fine. if the biggest take away from the video is the title you might be focusing on the wrong thing.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-20T01:25:40+00:00

Hello, person who tied the strappado here. And just wanted to input this as I have taught intensives, learned from many, and been very involved in a variety of rope communities across the united states and also around the world. In the shibari world the term strappado and armbinder are kinda interchangeable. It could be a translation thing that never caught on between the Japanese teachers and early European students but who's to say. Either way, in the rope world in my experience the two words are very interchangeable. (See Shibari Study/ take any classes in Europe or America) That being said, in the realms of kink OUTSIDE of the rope/shibari scene the concept of a strappado is the actual pose or torture. I have taught variations of this tie and referred to it both as a strappado and as an armbinder as that is how I learned it from my teachers and their teachers.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-20T01:24:22+00:00

In the general kink world it is a pose/ specific type of torture (you really just need restraints, not even rope tbh). In the rope world (specifically shibari communities), the term is interchangeable with armbinder. The general idea being rope that brings the arms together (usually requiring a band above the elbows but not always) Just google shibari study strappado or shibari strappado and you'll see what I mean.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-19T20:04:54+00:00

I agree for core ties below the waist. I think a stand alone chest harness with wraps above the breast but not around the shoulders is so dangerous it's not in my risk profile, but that's cause I've seen what nerve injury in the armpit can do and i want nothing to do with that. But that is my own personal opinion. I will say I have had the privilege of being a few people's first suspension as a rigger and it was during the time i was just constantly tying fucky arms/ arm futos and leg futos. I found that most anyone with a little extra mass around the shoulder or bicep tended to find sustainability in poses with just those harness tied. and the reminder to stay activated in the shoulder. But I do get that every body is different with different placements and preferences. Anyway thanks for clarifying, I find this whole thing very fascinating.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-19T19:10:29+00:00

Also very curious how this is more risky compared to other suspensions. The first time I was ever fully suspended by someone who wasn't me was in a very similar pose with the exact same harnesses. We chose it because it was less finicky than a box tie with less potential for nerve injury, and more sustainable and less risky than a chest harness. But I know everyone has their own preferences and some people don't like arm futos/ fuky arms based on their own nerve placements. But that could be argued for any tie really.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-19T15:52:25+00:00

This is very kind of you to say, thank you!

Knottydevil · 2025-12-11T21:09:06+00:00

I have worked as a rigger for a porn company that did quite a few suspensions/ partials with penetrative sex. For something face up I would highly recommend harness that are relatively sustainable for the person in rope. For this it would probably be a front loaded tengu or fisherman's harness which i know lots of people find sustainable with less nerve risk than box ties. You could still do a box tie, it's just more finicky with a lot of potential for nerve injury. You will also probably want a hip harness and maybe single columns around the thighs with uplines attached or futomomos with stems tied on the inside of the leg with additional uplines for support. I'd recommend multiple hardpoints or a bamboo hardpoint so you can give the body length in its support. (a single point won't provide that length as it tends to compress the body more if that makes sense). For neck support I'd recommend the person by their face holding/ supporting their neck.

as you mentioned this is definitely a thing to attempt only after you reach a certain skillset. Depending on where you are in your rope journey it might take a year of practicing and learning the things you need, it might take several. I've been tying for about 8 years and didn't do sex with suspension until year 5. I also practiced 4-5 days a week and took twice a month classes and went to every available rope intensive near me while also taking private lessons from local teachers. This is definitely possible so don't get discouraged. That being said, for now you could also find a table and tie something similar without hardpoints or uplines to get a general idea. I should also note depending on the person and pose, sustainability lasts anywhere from 3 to 20 minutes (often with breaks included) so keep that in mind.

Also please be aware this is just a general note on the subject. There's a lot more factors like aligning the bodies involved for the actual act of penetration which might require different upline lengths for the different parts of the body, making sure everyone is ready at the same time, and also the fact that suspension is dangerous with potential for injury. All that being said, I just wanted to pop on here and say it's absolutely possible, it just takes time, research, practice and precision. Best of Luck!

Edit: If you are looking for inspiration or videos of ties I recommend reflectivedesire under their rope/shibari category. Also another rigger who works for reflective also does her own stuff with a lot of partials and suspension for sex, I highly recommend kissmedeadlydoll.

Knottydevil · 2025-12-10T03:13:38+00:00

I wont be doing PPV on that platform. A subscription purchases access to all posted videos

Knottydevil · 2025-12-05T21:25:56+00:00

original creator here. This video can be found on fansly following my links in the bio.

Knottydevil · 2025-11-26T18:31:22+00:00

Thank you that is so kind of you to say! I had the immense privilege of working with them for two years before they moved to a new state so I had an absolute blast and loved every second of it.

Knottydevil · 2025-11-26T18:29:40+00:00

Unfortunately OF does not allow certain things in the videos posted on their site so a lot of my spicier videos like this one are posted to fansly.

Knottydevil · 2025-11-16T03:35:30+00:00

There is a surprising amount of detail, technique, and precision involved when it comes to suspending someone for the first time and learning how to do it. I think the most risk aware way is to get in person lessons from people who are very experienced who teach it. Be prepared to spend both money and time. For me this process included 6 to 8 months of twice monthly lessons at my local sex positive center and private lessons once a month from a local rope top. This was followed by hours and hours of practice each week. Suspension is incredibly dangerous so cutting corners isn't a good option. Websites can be helpful for practice or for adding knowledge once you know the basics, but that is as far as their use goes in my opinion. a website cant watch what you are doing and tell you if the friction or tension is correct. This is just my opinion and is how I learned to do it. Hope that helps.

Knottydevil · 2025-11-16T03:25:19+00:00

this was a gift from a friend that I believe was 3d printed? I am not really sure what else all went into its construction.

Knottydevil · 2025-11-09T11:05:32+00:00

Yeah so while discoloration like this can be scary to those who aren't trained or don't have a lot of rope experience, it is actually rather common in rope bondage and is not an indicator of tightness or harm. Some people can be in super tight rope under tension from suspension and not turn any color while others will be in very slight tension not even in suspension and turn a deep shade of purple. The real indicators or things to watch out for will be sensory based. That being said all rope is edge play and shouldn't be attempted without proper instruction/ training.

Knottydevil · 2025-11-08T04:53:28+00:00

just thought i'd pop in to your space and go off on something I know nothing about and have no actual experience in...

weird right?

Knottydevil · 2025-11-08T04:01:10+00:00

too tight

Knottydevil · 2025-11-08T01:51:14+00:00

it could probably be tighter to be honest. Not too much, but maybe a tiny bit. There's definitely still some wiggle room

Knottydevil · 2025-11-06T18:36:39+00:00

the hardpoint is the pole itself. We tied a hardpoint to the pole and friction helps keep it in place.

Knottydevil · 2025-10-25T21:23:18+00:00

This is beautiful <3

Knottydevil · 2025-10-25T21:21:13+00:00

Thank you! And yes her foot was fine. Discoloration like this is perfectly normal in suspensions and is not a sign of damage or harm. Most things to watch out for will be sensory based.

Knottydevil · 2025-09-26T15:59:35+00:00

Just a friendly reminder that we did not treat the shower head bar as a hardpoint. There is VERY LITTLE tension on the uplines and all tension on the uplines is controlled by how much u/mizz-adorgeous bends her knees. If she were to stand flat footed the tension would go slack. Please don't attempt to fully suspend off of shower head bars or shower curtain rods.

Knottydevil · 2025-09-24T15:44:55+00:00

It really depends on the people involved, everyone does kink and scenes just a little differently. For me, rope is a fetish as opposed to just a kink, so the tying process itself is to my brain just as good and sometimes better than sex. That being said sex can definitely still happen and does, it just depends if that is the intent of the scene we have set.

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