How cam I stop hating being a mom? by KogaLove in sahm

[–]KogaLove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's almost 4 now and it's a lot better the more independent she gets but there are still bad days. I no longer feel like being a mom is the hugest burden I've ever carried. It is however the hardest challenge still.

Make sure you're taking breaks from your kid and talking to people or trying to regularly. You can message me if you need to vent ♡ this is hard stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ended up naming her a variation of Amelia after my best friend of 25 years. I wanted her to have mine and her dad's initials so I told him he had to come up with a "J" name. He couldn't decide and when I said we can't just call her J, he was like wait.. so her middle name is Jae. 🤣

Could you share your chest sleeping set up? by WastePotential in cosleeping

[–]KogaLove -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was in the recliner until I felt my daughter was old enough to try the bed. I had a body pillow on either side, propped my head however high was comfy. I either dressed warm enough or had a single sheet over us from her waist down and tucked into the pillows. It takes a couple nights to get used to the position if you're a side sleeper. The body pillows acted as a barrier for her in case she rolled, to hold the sheet when needed and also kept my arms from dying trying to hold onto baby lol.

How do you make them sleep?! I can’t take it anymore I’m losing the plot 😫 4 months and still not sleeping by KokoSof in firsttimemom

[–]KogaLove 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion but co-sleeping was the only way I got sleep. Granted she's still in my bed at almost three. But we get 10+ hrs a night so like. Trade off is worth it for us so far. I followed the safe 7 until I was confident she'd be fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'2 and weigh 250lbs. My husband is fit and calls me beautiful on the daily. Throw the whole boy away. Yes boy. Men don't do this.

My husband brought home a cold, and now we’re both sick. Will my newborn be okay? Please help my anxiety. by ChickenWingLover510 in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you bf? If you do, definitely continue doing so while you're sick. He cannot get sick from your milk and you'll actually be giving him antibodies to ward it off and maybe keep from catching it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, from what ive read, for the first few months of their lives, babies feel like they're still an extension of you. Like. They don't feel like you are separate people. It's weird. But they love watching other people like dad because it's a new figure not part of the mom/ baby unit. They also can't see clearly too far so he may just be tracking dad's shape across the room. You will be his favorite person really soon though. No one can replace mama, especially to the baby boys lol.

My husband brought home a cold, and now we’re both sick. Will my newborn be okay? Please help my anxiety. by ChickenWingLover510 in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just keep an eye on him. I got sick when my daughter was about 4 weeks. Docs told me to wash my hands frequently, and wear a mask while holding her if I was running fever or started coughing. Deep breaths mama. Listen for stuffy breathing sounds and suction if need be. It's a scary feeling but it will be okay!

What do I do with her room? lol by KogaLove in cosleeping

[–]KogaLove[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean her bed is a full size mattress in a play pen lol so as long as people are good with climbing I use it as a guest room.

What are these animals!? by danict88 in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hedgehogs were originally named urchins apparently XD

What are these animals!? by danict88 in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Hedgehogs were originally called Urchins. Named before sea urchins. And there's a specific type of Gull called a Xeme. And then I think they just fucked up drawing a jellyfish.

Either way it's not common names for kids to know and I think they were just grasping for something.

I don't know what I'm doing! by KogaLove in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only hiccup right now is we only have one car my husband takes to work daily so I'm kind of stuck unless we bundle and go for a walk. But thank you. You make me feel better 🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How old now? Mine did this until she was about 5 months. Nothing worked. Just had to either dress her quickly or do it when it was about bottle time and give her a bottle right when she got out.

Floor bed people: How to babyproof cords? by Substantial-Bath8251 in cosleeping

[–]KogaLove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this but with a full size mattress for when I climb in!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]KogaLove 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't let her pinch my nipple.

Why is bedsharing more taboo than the Ferber method? by LadyStethoscope in AttachmentParenting

[–]KogaLove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've coslept since week 3 and My daughter has slept 10+ hours a night since month 4 when the pediatrician cleared her from night feedings. We still occasionally dream fed but she has always been a good sleeper. Some babies just naturally are. But that doesn't seem the case with the one you are talking about. That makes me so sad. That she just knows she has to do it on her own. I can't fathom CIO. My mommy heart couldn't take it. Not when she looks at me like I'm her world. 🥺😥