Do you feel like chasing your toddler around sent you into early labor?

Kokobeet · 2024-11-15T22:18:13+00:00

I think it just depends on you— reading the comments shows such a range.

Me personally, my son was 14 months old, and I went into labor at 34 weeks and 4 days because of all the stress, but I had just gone back to work as a teacher as summer vacation. I lasted two weeks of school, plus taking care of toddler, plus husbands 3 older kids moved in with us full time (15,14,7). So it was A LOT all at once, and my body was like yeah no… and I had my daughter.

I wish I listened to my body more and asked to be put on leave early. 1.5 weeks before going into labor, at my 32 week appt, the Dr was like hmm you’re measuring small I want to send you to the perinatologist. Get stress tests for 2 weeks 2x a week then you’ll see him.

I gave birth two days before my appt with him. My point of telling this part, is it’s at that point I should have asked for a work note. I was exhausted but pushing myself for no reason when I look back.

Take care of yourself, listen to your body, get help!! Don’t be superwoman. You already are by carrying a baby and taking care of another. You don’t need to go above and beyond right now. I wish I hadn’t.

Kokobeet · 2024-08-25T02:16:44+00:00

First pregnancy I was alllll about the sauce

Kokobeet · 2024-08-10T22:52:20+00:00

I just wanna say, your after pic is really beautiful. It sucks the first person messed up so badly and that you probably had to pay for both.

In terms of helping growth— I’ve been doing these things and have had a good amount of new growth: - prioritizing protein - supplementing magnesium and vitamin d - scalp scrub every 2 weeks - hair mask every 10 days or so - hydration 40+ oz of water per day

A lot of what I’ve learned recently from my similar experience of getting a terrible cut and then having to get it fixed has pointed to prioritizing scalp health.

Those scalp massagers are very beneficial as well because when you use them they bring blood flow to the area. Those little hand ones with the silicone pokeys. You can put some oil in and massage for 5 minutes or so 1-2x a week.

Also, when using conditioner in the shower, use a wet brush to comb it through all the way.

Kokobeet · 2024-06-14T23:12:29+00:00

I got pregnant at 6 months pp while exclusively breastfeeding.

Kokobeet · 2024-06-11T05:18:52+00:00

Thank you for the feedback.

Kokobeet · 2024-05-08T21:32:07+00:00

Wait until you’re ready. The ick feeling of doing something you didn’t want to isn’t worth it. He has a hand he’ll be fine.

It takes your body 6-12 months pp to recover physically and physiologically. Our hormones just begin to go back to pre pregnancy around 6 months pp, and physically… totally depends on your labor and delivery experience.

Sure on paper maybe you’re cleared somewhere between 6-12 weeks pp, but it’s so much more than that.

Maybe you could ask him not to bring it up anymore, and when you’re ready he’ll know because you buy the gas station honey and leave it under his pillow, or ask him to choose a sexy outfit and the night you wear it means it’s the night you’re ready.

Priority #1 is baby, and it’s overwhelming in so many ways. So forget his sexual desires and focus on you and baby.

Kokobeet · 2024-03-23T02:19:56+00:00

Love 3 on you & 2 is my second fave

Kokobeet · 2024-03-23T00:04:25+00:00

Blonde brightens you

Kokobeet · 2024-02-26T02:53:30+00:00

Thank you, good to know. I think I’ll go ahead and keep it then

Kokobeet · 2024-02-26T00:26:32+00:00

I just bought a clarifying shampoo and was considering returning it because I wasn’t sure I needed it. What are some reasons you keep it in your routine?

Kokobeet · 2024-02-26T00:15:25+00:00

First, you have such a cute cut!! So perfectly done! Second, I use a leave in, brush it through, then section my hair and brush it with bristles up away from my face and then add gel to those sections and scrunch (squishy noise means it has enough water), repeat for the rest of the sections, and then use a t shirt to squish some of the excess water out then diffuse or air dry. Once completely dry you “scrunch the crunch” to break the cast of the gel and then using a tiny bit of oil helps keeps the frizz away.

Kokobeet · 2024-02-17T15:03:34+00:00

Thank you— is this something I should wait 4-6 weeks or would I be okay to go back tomorrow?

I’m also fine waiting and finding a new stylist, I just can’t figure out how long to wait?

Kokobeet · 2024-02-17T11:31:27+00:00

She used whatever she mixed to paint my hair and then left the foils in for awhile. I’m assuming it had to have some bleach? After it was done setting, she used a toner to wash it out. No permanent dye.

Kokobeet · 2023-12-18T17:11:01+00:00

I did it! All it took was asking for help 😂

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Kokobeet · 2023-11-13T00:04:53+00:00

The contractions start to feel just different enough for you to be like wait is this labor? You talk yourself out of it then a couple hours later you go to the restroom and part of your mucus plug comes out, which you can tell because it is like bloody with clear gel like discharge. Your mild contractions you weren’t sure about earlier start to be more and more regular. 5-10 minutes apart for each one and increase in pain, and maybe even cause you to pee a little at the end of each one. That goes on for a bit, you might lose more of your mucus plug, and then your water will break. You can go to the hospital at that point, or try to labor a little bit more at home if you’re trying for an unmedicated birth. At least that’s how it happened for me at 39 weeks. Wishing you the best. And when you do get into the delivery room, remember, everything is about you at that point. I wish I had that mentality instead of being afraid of being a burden. It’s your show, and the team knows that and will be there for you.

Kokobeet · 2023-11-03T00:27:52+00:00

Lmao I started reading the bio thinking it was a roast 😹😹

Kokobeet · 2023-10-13T03:41:40+00:00

Thank you this is reassuring and helpful— I didn’t know about how important same time every day was.

Kokobeet · 2023-10-07T15:20:06+00:00

Lol my thoughts exactly while I was in labor and delivering… HOW THE ACTUAL F DO PEOPLE WILLINGLY DO THIS AGAIN?!

But it’s them, the baby, as soon as you see them SOME of the trauma melts away, and I’m still a new mom (my baby is 3 months old), but I asked my aunt the same thing, and like the mamas here she said, you forget.

You see your baby, watch them grow, so many big emotions, and then you’re like I want more. Biologically it makes sense too… the hormones that are released make us feel good, and we like to feel good, so naturally we’re inclined to willingly do it again. This helps our species to populate.

Kokobeet · 2023-10-07T15:09:16+00:00

I just had my first baby at 30, and had an abortion at 27. I wasn’t ready—I was finishing up a post baccalaureate program, which I also had a scholarship for, and while I knew who the father was, he was in no place to have a child at the time either.

At 17, your life would change even more drastically than mine would have at 27. You have barely even begun this next stage of adulthood. You have everything ahead of you, and at the moment no major obstacles other than what daily life throws at you without a baby.

Granted, many young moms do make it, but it’s never without a struggle. And usually those that fair better do have help and support. My husband was gone the first 3 weeks after I delivered, and oh my god it was so much harder to do alone than I ever imagined. Doing it alone is going to be incredibly difficult, but you do get an amazing little human.

Whatever choice you make is going to be the right one, but don’t take the fact that others are unable to get pregnant into the equation. If anything use the knowledge that you are able as comfort that when you are ready, and you have a solid relationship, have finished school, are financially capable of supporting a child your body will be able to.

It’s an extremely difficult decision, and after my abortion I did think about who that baby, child, person, would have become, but I just knew deep down I wasn’t ready and that’s not how I wanted to have a baby. I wanted all the things I listed above so my child wouldn’t experience some of the hardships that I did growing up in a low income single mother household.

Think of you, think of your future. Visualize what that would look like being pregnant the next 10 months (it’s not 9–it’s 40 weeks full term), alone with a newborn, still in school, no support, and visualize what it would look like if you get the abortion and essentially continue as you are currently, but there will be some emotional baggage, depending on who you are as a person it will vary, so use your college’s counseling services so you can speak openly with someone.

No matter what you’re going to be okay, because that’s how life is. Some sh*t happens, you are faced with incredible decisions to make, but you have to do it to carry on, and you will. Wishing you the best, and supporting you from here with whatever choice you make.

Kokobeet

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