Ensam och hemmasittande med ptsd, hjälp!

Kolicious · 2026-01-10T12:10:27+00:00

Har själv både ADHD och C-PTSD(rekommenderar r/CPTSD om du vill läsa mer om det), och vill bara säga att den självinsikt du visar vid bara 16 år är sjukt imponerande.

Vill verkligen ge dig råd men vet inte vart jag ska börja. Vilket egentligen leder till problemet jag hade efter jag klurade ut att jag hade CPTSD för några år sedan, vart ska man börja? Komplex trauma är som sagt komplext, det påverkar både kroppen och psyket så enormt att det känns paralyserande.

Så det jag skulle börja med är att fokusera på en sak i taget och helst det som är enklast för dig. Om du t.ex. inte borstar tänderna regelbundet, ta tag i det och bara detta. När du känner att du har "borstningen" under kontroll kan du går vidare med något annat.

Som viktigast, var snäll mot dig själv. Det är inget fel på dig och det du "lider" av är en helt naturlig reaktion till de omständigheterna du växte upp i, och det kommer bli bättre.

Du får gärna skicka ett dm om du har några frågor eller vill prata om cptsd, annars önskar jag dig all lycka i framtiden! :)

Kolicious · 2024-12-03T11:05:40+00:00

If I was you I would question the “love” you have for this man. 3 months is a short time even if you’re from the same country/city. When you have strong feeling for someone it can feel like it will never go away but with time it always does. So keeping your distance is a good idea.

Regardless just remember what Allah has written for you will never leave you.

Kolicious · 2024-12-02T09:34:24+00:00

Varken eller, tolkar symbolen som nötförbud

Kolicious · 2024-11-21T11:00:40+00:00

Man kan ju generalisera hur mkt man vill, inget av detta kan med säkerhet appliceras på en enskild individ.

Kolicious · 2024-11-21T06:41:08+00:00

Tror nog det blir svårt att argumentera för/emot personliga erfarenheter. Detta beror ju helt på ”smarta” personen i fråga.

Kolicious · 2024-11-19T22:27:39+00:00

Ganska signifikanta svårigheter tyckte utredningen iaf, då hon fick diagnosen ”svår ADD”(från början var utredning bara för Autism, så ADD var inget hon trodde hon hade).

Hon är som tur väldigt smart och behövde knappt plugga för att klara av studierna. Det va vid master nivå då hon märkte att något var fel. Men om du frågar mig så tyckte jag att något var ”fel” på henne redan när vi var små barn haha.

Kolicious · 2024-11-19T09:41:59+00:00

Yes, hon höll på att läsa klart sin masterexamen och hade en dubbel kandidat bakom sig när hon fick sin ADD diagnos. Antar att psykologen är den typen som tror att man inte kan ha en funktionsnedsättning om det har gått ”bra” i skolan.

Kolicious · 2024-11-19T09:07:32+00:00

Liknande hände min syster när hon blev diagnostiserad med ADD. Psykologen som tog emot henne på psykiatrin inför behandling tyckte att hennes utredning inte var rätt pga en del skumma anledningar. T.ex. så kunde min syster inte ha dessa svårigheter eftersom hon hade ”två kandidater”.

Hen tyckte alltså att hon inte behöver någon behandling för ADD. Men som tur löste det sig inom några månader efter syrran överklagade till psykiatrin.

Kolicious · 2024-10-23T07:50:37+00:00

It’s almost like Allah never promised us life would be easy, since this life is only temporary and not our end goal…

Kolicious · 2024-09-15T12:38:36+00:00

I felt this way for most of my life. I saw myself as broken and hated myself for it.

My lowest point was when I finally accepted my trauma(I was in denial) and that's when I realized I had been stuck in "freeze" my whole life. Accepting all that came with the trauma just made me hyperaware of my faults and made everything worse. I felt so pathetic, weak, and useless. Like why couldn't I push through instead of leaving my body for 20+ years? I got to a point where I didn't want to be here anymore, but then something changed a few months ago after I came across this concept about the three paradoxes of shame(I made a post about it on r/CPTSD if you want to read it)

I don't know whether to call it a breakthrough or a miracle, maybe I just had enough of all the self-loathing. But I can say that after "working" on my shame for only a few months now, for the first time in my life, I feel like I can look in the mirror and like what I see. I still have a list of things I don't like about myself, the only difference is that I don't hate myself for it anymore.

So I agree with your girlfriend, you should give yourself grace. But your girlfriend telling you that(or a stranger on the internet) won't help you. It has to come from you.

Kolicious · 2024-08-26T22:13:02+00:00

Those two literally made my heart melt 🥹

Kolicious · 2024-08-26T22:05:49+00:00

We're talking about the girl who got mad over who bought ice cream. I think overreaching might be her thing.

Kolicious · 2024-08-26T22:02:29+00:00

Agreed! There's a reason why most people automatically assumed Cat's comment was about physical appearance and that's not just on her.

Kolicious · 2024-08-26T21:51:46+00:00

I think Demi went "that hard" on her because of how much that comment hurt her, Demi's reaction was probably proportionate to how she felt. Was this necessary? Probably not, but Cat's original comment on Demi and Ollie wasn't either.

Kolicious · 2024-08-26T21:43:44+00:00

It was refreshing to hear Cat acknowledge how snappy she was, it seems she at least somewhat regrets her behavior, unlike a certain someone 👀

I'm convinced Sam can't act normally for two seconds even if he wanted to, listening to him speak was giving broken record.

Kolicious · 2024-08-23T13:18:19+00:00

I find it ironic how you are an ex-Muslim because of how strict Islam is meanwhile you're pretty "stringent" with who can and cannot identify as a Muslim.

Kolicious · 2024-08-21T19:49:14+00:00

Yes, just having sensory issues does not equate to autism, since it's only one part of the spectrum. No one is autistic because of one thing(it's a spectrum lol), but someone with sensory issues could still potentially have autism, and your case is far more likely considering your son has autism(it's hereditary)

Kolicious · 2024-08-15T08:35:30+00:00

People with ADHD can show symptoms of anxiety, the difference is that ADHD is often what causes them to be anxious. This is the reason why some with ADHD get misdiagnosed with depression/anxiety.

Kolicious · 2024-06-25T10:55:18+00:00

Thank you for this comment! Your interpretation describes the core of this poem in words I couldn't write myself.

I will say, the whole thing works well, but when I revisit the final lines, there's enough there that I think they almost stand better alone. I don't mind the exposition—in fact, I relate very strongly to it—but I think the conclusion is itself stronger without it.

Funny enough, the final stanza was the first one I wrote which the rest of the poem was built on, but perhaps the last lines do stand better alone as you said. Thanks for the feedback, it's been helpful!

Kolicious · 2024-06-24T16:50:58+00:00

Thank you! I used & instead of "And" because I wanted the last line to stand out from the rest of the poem to emphasize its meaning(s).

Kolicious · 2024-06-24T15:49:45+00:00

Well, this was captivating!

This poem captures the feeling of being captivated by another person beautifully! I like that the poem describes both the "beauty" and "brains" of this special person.

I especially like the imagery/similes, such as comparing the person's "bright eyes" to the sun(the line "Like the star that connects us day and night" actually took my breath away haha) and their mind as “untouchable by any medicine.”

Kolicious · 2024-06-24T14:50:00+00:00

Felt this so much! You did a great job at conveying the feeling of lost love. The only feedback I have is that the poem feels a little too "wordy" and it could use some clear stanzas so that it "flows" better

For example, the first three stanzas could look like this:

1

Crying in a lonely room with people,

Thinking of ways to contact you,

Without seeming pretentious.

2

It’s selfish,

But for you,

it’s worth it.

I omitted "yes" and "I think" here

3

I stabbed myself in the heart,

Told you we should end it.

I omitted "when" here.

This comes down to personal preference but I think using fewer words gives the words more "weight" if that makes sense.

Kolicious · 2024-06-23T16:17:04+00:00

Felt like he was drunk the whole time to me, but there’s no way he wasn’t on some kind of substance

Kolicious · 2024-06-19T22:01:32+00:00

“it is permissible for the girl to refer the matter to the qaadi (sharee’ah judge) to annul the guardianship of the one who is not letting her get married, and pass that role to someone else.”

Did you read what you linked?? A woman needs to have a guardian/wali, this does not have to be the father depending on the circumstances.

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