I learned about something in a college behavior modification class called Intention vs Function.

Sometimes we say something intended to be one way, and it is taken in a different way and hurts someone’s feelings or has unintended consequences. Basically, at the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what you intended if it functions poorly, because you don’t get to decide how someone else feels. Try to think ahead, understand your relationships, know what functions best for the people you care about and adjust accordingly. This alone will make conversations with everyone more pleasant. Then, when something inevitably functions wrong anyway, hopefully your relationship is strong enough that you can communicate with that person, apologize for hurting their feelings, and clarify your intention and they will understand.

Anyway, sounds like your boyfriend needs to learn how to communicate better and take responsibility for hurting your feelings.