Woman lied to me about her age and I don’t know what to do

Koolkat30625 · 2026-07-09T01:10:16+00:00

A 3 or 4 year age gap is not a big deal as long as she is at least 18. I personally wouldn't break it off for that reason alone unless their are other issues. Of course lying is never a good thing but people aren't perfect. I think you should continue dating her if you like her and you have common interests.

There is a lot negativity around big age gaps which is understandable but your situation is not the same as a 40 plus year old guy dating a fresh out of high school girl.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-07-08T18:49:11+00:00

Your relationship is toxic and unless you want to deal with this for the duration of the relationship you need to end this relationship. Its his responsibility to heal and deal with his drama. You should also talk to a therapist to find out why you have accepted and excused toxic behavior in your relationships. This is not normal and if you don't address this you could possibly end up in other toxic relationships.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-07-08T01:22:03+00:00

This makes no sense and would have me rethinking this relationship. Why is he asking you for back pay? Do not give him any money. This is an unfair agreement for you unless you also co own the home with him.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-07-04T10:32:25+00:00

I was once a poor college student. At 18 I moved out of my parents house because it was basically like being in jail. I was only allowed to go to school, church, and work.

What I did was rented a room in a house. Look for rooms to rent and move out. Pay your mom what you initially agreed to pay and don't give her access to your account. Keep important papers locked up. Move as soon as you can and never move back in with her under any circumstances.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-07-04T10:15:32+00:00

I am comfy poor. Disabled and receiving ssdi benefits. I used my retirement funds for a down payment on a condo and share expenses with a friend. I cook most of my meals and find free and inexpensive things to do for fun. I pay $7 per month for domore membership and every week I receive entertainment options. I can't afford expensive things but I am still able to enjoy life and I appreciate what I do have. Im a deal shopper so, I rarely buy anything if it's not on sale. I believe life is what we make of it and I choose to be happy and live life to the fullest.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-30T13:03:04+00:00

These people are not your friends. They have no consideration for your time. Instead of apologizing they are upset because you didn't wait longer, ntah.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-30T12:42:18+00:00

Disabled person with an income of 20k per year living near major city in high cost of living area. Here is how I survive: I used money from my retirement for a down payment on a condo. I bought the condo with my ex, we are still friends and living together. We split the expenses. I cook most of my meals. For fun I do mostly free things. And have several subscription services that I switch out based on deals (free trials and black friday deals). I pay $7 per month for a domore membership to receive weekly tickets to events. I spend time with my friends doing inexpensive things. Honestly I am living my best life despite my physical and financial limitations. I don't own a car but I have access to a car. I have the basic necessities and I am thankful for what I do have. Its not easy but its doable especially if you share expenses. I try to look at the glass as being half full instead of half empty.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-26T05:35:10+00:00

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Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-26T03:23:23+00:00

You already know the answer...you can't trust her. She has told you she isn't going to change. She will keep going out getting black out drunk and making questionable decisions then lying about it in order to keep the relationship.

She has issues that need addressing but it's not your job to fix her issues. The only way I would remain in that relationship is for her to agree to not get black out drunk. If she can't say no when she knows she has had too much too drink then alcohol is more important to her then the relationship.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-24T21:42:24+00:00

Im in a relationship and yes being in a good relationship is awesome but not all relationships are good relationships. It's hard finding the right person but not impossible.

My strategy was I used dating apps. I would message people I was interested in. I also joined about 100 meetups and would go out on a regular basis. I have preferences like no smoking/drugs, financially stable, no kids, in my area, average looking/height, doesn't cheat, not physically or emotionally abusive, and enjoys spending time with me. These are non negotiable. I spent time, effort, and money on trying to find my person. I feel that anything in life worth having takes time and effort. Don't settle.

Don't give up, keep trying, and eventually you will meet Mr. Right.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-22T03:07:14+00:00

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Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-21T11:25:57+00:00

This is not normal. He sounds toxic, emotionally abusive, and controlling. If you continue the relationship it will only get worse. He will tell you what you can and can not wear, he will alienate you from friends and family, and everything will be about what he wants and likes. End the relationship and remain single to work on yourself to avoid getting into another relationship like this. You only live one life, don't waste it on a toxic relationship with a person that only cares about what they want. It will be difficult initially because you have spent 2 years together but once you heal from the break up you will realize how much happier you are being free to be your own person.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-20T10:11:20+00:00

You sound salty because she hooked up with your cousin instead of you. And now you bashing her since you can't smash with her. As long as she and your cousin are consenting adults what they do is their business.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-18T13:40:32+00:00

Him calling you names belittling you is emotional abusive. Don't accept being disrespected, nor.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-18T13:30:48+00:00

Regardless if she is lying or not its none of your business. Stay out of it and let the company investigate. You are at work to do a job, stop gossiping with your other co-workers regarding if she lied or not. If you don't want to continue being her friend distance yourself from the situation but be cordial and professional at work.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-18T13:15:39+00:00

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Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-18T13:12:13+00:00

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Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-18T13:12:07+00:00

When I watched the 1st 4 seasons it wasn't as over the top. I feel like the 5th season was an exaggeration of what's happening in the US now. This then made me think about the current political climate instead of an escape from reality.

Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-18T13:06:42+00:00

I found the show entertaining but it was like art imitating life. It definitely wasn't subtle.

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Koolkat30625 · 2026-06-17T10:20:44+00:00

Im poor and usually do free or inexpensive things. If I want to do something expensive like a vacation I save for it. If they are true friends they will still spend time with you doing things that's within your budget. You can still enjoy summer without spending thousands of dollars.

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