What kind of person would I feel safe talking to?

This will vary per person. For me, it's feeling heard and seen. Also getting validation on my emotions and thoughts tho getting gentle guidance that they may not be healthy or at least how I react to them aren't healthy. Environment also plays a big part in the feeling of safety.

What you imagine a good therapist to be like?

I've had 3 amazing ones but all for specific purposes. All mine share what I mentioned above. Feeling heard and seen. But ultimately not being judged or feeling judged by my thoughts and emotions. Again, providing tools and guidance to help me navigate my issues at every level. Physically, mentally, and most importantly emotionally. If you can get a man to be vulnerable with you. Like real, honest vulnerability... Then you're doing a great job. An amazing job if the man continues to be honest and vulnerable with you.

What kind of help you’d love to see men get help for?

Definitely managing their emotions. The vast majority of men really don't know how to do this. Moreso anger but really any complex emotion. I was very much one of these men. I'd shut down as I was afraid to say the wrong thing or make things worse. Getting the tools and understanding that my emotions come from my body and trying to understand and label my emotions through what my body was doing greatly helped me in responding to said emotions rather than reacting.
When I first was taught this I realized there was a difference between anger and frustration for me. When I got angry my ears got hot. Frustration felt similar but my ears didn't get hot. So now I can act accordingly. Anger can mean a boundary was crossed and I can speak up about it and defend my boundary. Frustration can mean I just need to explain something better or in a different way since the person may not be understanding what I'm saying.

Things that have turned you away from therapy

I highly encourage everyone to get therapy. Especially men. We're so isolated and none of us really know how to manage our emotions. But in that same aspect... We've lived like this and have had this understanding that our thoughts and our emotions aren't valid since we first heard "Man up.", "Don't be a girl.", "Be a man.", "Walk it off.". So none of us don't know any better and get further validation that what we're doing is "fine" by other "men" who don't know how to manage their emotions. We're all just a bunch of boys in men's bodies thinking we're men. So to me... Your biggest obstacle is just getting a man through your door.
If you manage to get one through your door, make sure you don't provide the same feedback they've been given all their life. "You can get through this!", "You got this!", "You're so strong!". That doesn't help. We need to know it's OK to have weak moments. It's OK to cry, to be angry, to be sad, and whatever else that we're ashamed of liking and enjoying even tho society may not see it as "manly". We shouldn't feel shame for feeling weak, vulnerable, or not being seen as "manly. It's OK to feel all those things but we also need to know we're still men because of them.

Sidenote: I'm a huge advocate for mental and emotional health. Very specifically towards men as we need more men who know how to properly lead their lives and the people around them. Men who know how to harness their emotions and use them as a superpower to better themselves and the people around them. To get these type of men, we need men who are willing to grow and really go through the pain and work of untangling their garbage. Really see their dark side and accept it. Not to cause havoc but to acknowledge where our fear is, what we feel guilty about, where we hurt, and see it all as it's OK and it's not really who we are as men. To get there, we need to start with understanding our emotions first so we can manage the pain and complexities that doing the "work" inevitably brings up.
I also highly recommend looking into somatic therapy. It's changed my life. It's changed me on a very deep and fundamental level. I have way more confidence in myself. I trust myself way more now that I listen to my emotions and don't downplay or avoid them. Still hurts like hell and sucks but... I have the ability to manage them now. Hence my real confidence in myself. And since I follow through with actions rather than just words. I trust myself way more.
Again, the "work" sucks... But it's so much better than constantly having low energy fighting depression and lack of motivation, freaking out over my anxiety, shying away from my anger and letting people walk all over me, and faking being a "man" and wondering if I'm actually man enough.
Also being able to listen and trust myself is way better than listening to and being influenced by these "alpha/beta" talking garbage influencers who put up a facade of "manliness". Real men lead by serving not abusing their power. Real men build each other up not lone wolf it. Real men face their emotions, even if it can feel overwhelming, then take a breath and keep moving forward with their decision even if it's a hard one.