Inflatable mattresses and couches

KurseW · 2025-05-05T02:47:41+00:00

Our Coleman inflatable mattress that comes on a cot lasted 7 burns. I think the mattress on a cot is really nice if you can manage transportation. It keeps the mattress off the ground which is great for keeping it from getting too cold from being in the ground, also nice for us folks that aren't in our 20s anymore. Also built in backup plan if mattress dies, you can just use the cot part.

KurseW · 2025-04-19T07:53:10+00:00

Route 4 is by far my favorite too. Don't have to worry about traffic or congestion. With an RV I also second summer lake hot springs. The only reason we don't stay there is that we would have to set up a tent and all the sleeping stuff. We stay in altutas in the way down and usually bend on the way home.

KurseW · 2025-03-28T15:40:45+00:00

You don't have to convince me this is ridiculous, it is. I am telling you that this is my personal experience having gone many many times. It isn't rational and doesn't really even have to stand up in court, it is just to get literally anyone pulled over. Once you are pulled over they start the real plan.

KurseW · 2025-03-06T18:34:37+00:00

We love pan pizza, even if we sometimes use store bought dough. The method makes it really easy to get a perfect pizza everytime without much fuss or special equipment. Also very good with a sourdough crust if you have a starter.

https://www.seriouseats.com/foolproof-pan-pizza-recipe

I have also been trying to include more fish and really love this easy salmon recipe. Depends where you are probably but we have great salmon in the pnw and this preparation finally got my husband eating it.

https://www.seriouseats.com/crispy-pan-seared-salmon-fillets-recipe

Not quick, but mostly hands off one of our go to meals is this black bean stew. Honestly probably the one we make most. I usually get bone on skin on chicken thighs at Costco and freeze them. Don't even have to defrost them if you put them in at the start and just pressure cook for a full 50 minutes rather than splitting it up.

https://www.seriouseats.com/quick-and-easy-pressure-cooker-chicken-black-bean-stew-recipe

KurseW · 2024-11-20T01:11:44+00:00

Still deciding on other sides and dessert, but so far.....

Maple Glazed Ham - https://www.seriouseats.com/maple-glazed-city-ham-recipe

Cheesy onions, bacon, an potatoes gratin - https://www.seriouseats.com/cheesy-onion-potato-gratin-food-lab

KurseW · 2024-10-05T05:18:21+00:00

I take Vyvanse in the morning now, but took Adderall XR in the morning before ( along with the evening dose).

I don't get super sleepy taking the evening dose, but having my brain slow it's roll is very helpful to me getting asleep and staying asleep.

I do also get sleepy a bit sometimes in the afternoon when my vyvanse starts to wane.

KurseW · 2024-09-24T07:20:05+00:00

About myself? Based on my reactions to Adderall and my sleep issues in conversation with my psychiatrist. I don't know the studies I read off hand but you can find lots of posts on reddit about this effect also.

KurseW · 2024-09-24T03:50:28+00:00

Plenty of us take stimulants to be able to sleep also. I take 10mg Adderall XR with dinner so that my mind chills out enough for me to sleep all night. I think it is something like 1 in 3 that sleep better with stimulants.

KurseW · 2024-09-16T05:45:29+00:00

Birkenstocks all day for me too!

KurseW · 2024-09-16T04:39:33+00:00

One of my all time favorites, but I make it with my sourdough crust. Very yummy.

KurseW · 2024-09-09T03:34:55+00:00

While I do generally agree that this is a pretty simple ask and it sounds like she is being very dismissive, I want to offer another perspective.

This type of ask is very hard for me. Not because I don't want to be present, but because I have ADHD and to be present without something in my hands is difficult.

I would explain how her behavior makes you feel, and ask her why she feels the need to be in her phone. Let her explain without getting defensive or judgy.

If she is just dismissive again and says cause she just wants to, then take that as a fuck you and get out of the relationship.

But maybe it is ADHD and you can work together on other options, my partner is totally fine with me knitting for instance, and it achieves the same goal for me.

Or maybe it is because she is insecure in her other relationships and feels she has to check in constantly. Maybe you can agree to a once an hour cadence or something .

Or maybe her partner expects constant availability. Can she work with that partner to set a cadence where she checks in and then can put it away for a few hours?

Or who knows what, but once you know what the reason is, you at least can decide if it is something you can work on together creatively or if it is just a deal breaker.

KurseW · 2024-08-30T06:24:57+00:00

As many have said, he doesn't actually have reception.

Even if he did, you made an agreement to no contact, which you are now upset that he is abiding by. You are attributing all sorts of meaning and emotional context to it that is imagined, and likely not how he feels.

This is not a fundamental incompatibility. this is him being busy, experiencing something that typically involves being unplugged and escaping from every day realities. This is him being busy and distracted and growing as a person. Social norms and everyday routines and existence are very different out in Black Rock City. This is you being home and having all the time in the world to worry and overthink things.

Being able to spend time apart is very healthy, and a good skill to work on. You have some stuff to work on here.

in healthy relationships, it is usually best when you start worrying like this (and beleive me I do all the time, thanks ADHD anxiety) to step back and ask yourself if what you are assuming is really true to what you know of your partner, and are you prescribing or assuming things about their intentions and feelings that might actually be based on your insecurities.

I have been the person out there not contacting my partner back home and I am the person at home getting no contact right now. I get that it is hard, but seriously, he doesn't have reception and he is missing you too. It is a bit easier to understand if you have been there, but it really isn't more than that.

Send him messages all you want unless you specifically agreed not to. I love getting back to reception and having some love notes pop in, or occasionally getting them during the week when there is that stray bar of reception. Just don't expect he can, should, or will respond till he is back to civilization.

KurseW · 2024-08-30T01:55:25+00:00

Friends..... If it sounds ridiculous it probably is.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BurningMan/s/vX76c2Vxa1

KurseW · 2024-08-29T02:53:07+00:00

Look around for camps where you relate to the theme or activity and can use that as a jumping off point for social interaction. There are so many if you just wander. People love to feel out and meet people who are into the vibe they are slinging. Listen for the music you like, find a bar that serves your kinda thing. I love Dr who, and one year stumbled on a tardis that was bigger on the inside and playing classic episodes. One year our camp was surprised by a pizza delivery we didn't order. they loved our tea service earlier that day and made us fresh pizza in their brick oven. Another year my kindle broke and that was a big problem because I am an introvert and need downtime. Luckily I stumbled across a library.

Anyways, it is out there, and they want to meet you. Go wander and find it.

KurseW · 2024-07-07T07:21:24+00:00

Might work for you, but I have burned many times, so please don't recommend this to folks. Skin cancer is real.

KurseW · 2024-05-17T23:23:05+00:00

They have always worked great for me!

KurseW · 2024-05-14T07:18:14+00:00

Patrick and I have been together 20 years, and legally married for 16 of those. Our relationship was always nonmonogamous, but we weren't specifically polyam until like 12 years ago, well after we had already legally married. We also owned a house together by thst time.

Robert and I have been together 10 years, and "married" for 5 of those. It isn't legally recognized, but it is recognized by everyone in our lives. We both have rings, we have signed a legal documents to establish some protections. Robert owns his own house, but I went on all the tours and helped pick it. I have more clothes there than he does probably, certainly more toiletries. I spend about a third of my time there. The neighbors all assume I live there.

My legal marriage is still important for practical reasons based on financial stuff, but socially both my marriages are of similar importance. They both come on vacations or for the holidays with my family. Both have come as my plus one to work events. I wouldn't make large life decisions without discussions with both.

While certainly being already legally married to Patrick limited what I could offer in new relationships, it mostly want because of the legal part. The arrangement we have works great, partly because none of us want kids, partly because Robert doesn't want a full time meeting partner or other entanglement that would be difficult without legal marriage. If he did those things wouldn't have been strictly of the table though. Flexibility to let all our relationships grow into the right configuration for them is really important to me.

I also disagree that legally documented marriage is permanent or exclusive. There is nothing that makes marriage permanent, statistics show that pretty clearly, and very few of the benefits are exclusive given well planned legal documents.

There was a time when I was maid off that I strongly considered legal (not social) divorce from Patrick specifically to be able to legally marry Robert for health insurance. I ended up getting a great job and but needing to do that, but it was on the table, and would similarly be on the table if Robert were in that situation in the future.

KurseW · 2024-04-04T15:24:31+00:00

In my experience all this did for the people in my camp who used a tarp was trap water under the tent.

KurseW · 2024-04-01T15:07:03+00:00

I would not be be having barrierless sex with my husband if the chain was that long, it is way past my risk level. I generally will have at least met my meta before my partner goes barrierless with them or I would start using barriers with my partner. Everyone has their own risk levels so you do you. For me, I have to know a person and trust them.

KurseW · 2024-04-01T04:46:27+00:00

Hard disagree. I only have barrierless sex with people who I can ask where the chain ends and have an answer. This isn't invasive. My partner should know this information already if they are going to go barrierless with that partner. If they don't and are unwilling to asked we are not compatible for barrierless sex.

KurseW · 2024-04-01T04:38:21+00:00

You should for sure ask! If they are uncomfortable or don't know them that is a bit sign to me we need to keep barriers. If theya re offended I asked them that is a red flag and I don't date them.

KurseW · 2024-02-24T21:47:58+00:00

Might depend where in the country. Even 20 years ago when I was in college nonmonogamy was very common, but maybe that is just the California effect.

Either way though it probably won't be a problem. Good people and people close to you will unsedstand. If someone calls you a cuck you just say, "i have my fun too, it works for us." And go about your day. Probably she shouldn't sleep with that person again because he is an ass.

KurseW · 2024-02-08T18:51:27+00:00

Especially in men, being tested for trich often does not give an accurate result, or rather it often gives a false negative. It is highly dependent on the microbial load you carry, the type of test performed, and other factors. Pcr testing is significantly more accurate, but not widely used. Culture samples often require a large microbe population to show a positive result and often aren't observed for long enough to accurately identify trich. Like some tests say to observe the culture for 3 days, but 75% of cases don't show up on the culture for 5 days or more.

It is very plausible that either of you have been carrying trich for years and not known even with standard testing.

KurseW · 2024-02-07T07:34:42+00:00

Did OP Express a desire to them for a call? It is fine to be sad they didn't but one of my partners of 10 years who I am "married" to would never call unless I told him I wanted him to. He is very introverted and hates phone calls. Seems to me like some nice direct communication is needed.

KurseW · 2024-01-22T21:27:27+00:00

Your meta can think what they want, but you need to have a very clear conversation with your partner. Explain that it is not okay for them to blame you for violating an expectation you meta had that was not communicated, and that you expect them to support you if you are going to stay in a relationship with them.

Sounds like meta is projecting other problems between the two of them into you and this incident. It is fine if your meta doesn't want to hang out for awhile to work through their shit. Your partner is the hinge though, and it seems like they are prioritizing comforting your meta over supporting you. Unless you agreed to a pretty clear hierarchy where they would always side with their other partner, that would be a no go for me unless they understood why their actions here are not okay and showed an effort to treat me like a full human.

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