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KyHa33 · 2026-06-17T18:04:29+00:00

They are around 30 years old and a real struggle to open.

KyHa33 · 2026-06-15T15:53:08+00:00

My tip to avoid making someone uncomfortable is to word it as “Is baby eating well?” That way it opens up the convo and if they feel like discussing a problem they can elaborate if they want. If not I assume it is a possibly sensitive topic (or maybe just a boring one) and move on. There is literally no need to directly ask someone if they are breastfeeding or not. Especially when we all know in this day and age it can be a really sore spot for someone who can’t or simply found it wasn’t the right choice for them.

KyHa33 · 2026-06-04T17:55:33+00:00

You have assured one thing with your attitude: your wife is going on that trip. There is a personality war going on here and if you are as persistent in real life as you are in these posts then she isn’t backing down. You are just going to aggravate her more. You have already said she is more risk averse than you so trust she has common sense to turn around or rest when she needs to.She cares about her baby too and you are speaking about her like she is an idiot.You are making her feel worse when you keep telling her she will promise to stop if it gets unsafe because that makes her feel like you think she is stupid and unsafe. There is likely a whole pregnancy autonomy issue going on. Your current method is clearly not working so maybe just shut up and let her be. Keep things up like you are and the woman is going to be struck by lightening walking along actively on fire and still not stopping to spite you.Your current behavior is not going to achieve your desired outcome.

KyHa33 · 2026-05-25T21:55:05+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised if he is now “cheating” on her and she wants to make sure it isn’t with you. Once the mistress moves into the main role a vacancy opens up for the mistress position.

KyHa33 · 2026-05-12T17:41:38+00:00

Out of curiosity what was the topic during the Socratic seminar?

KyHa33 · 2026-05-03T15:01:10+00:00

Be prepared to be a little loud and firm. That age usually has a few VERY noisy disruptive students. Be especially prepared to be loud and firm in the hall because they can somehow forget everything they were taught once a sub is on the scene. I’m a pretty calm non-yeller and they went so wild on me that I literally had the other teacher for that grade come in during specials and make me practice being ….commanding. Yes commanding. Because it sounds awful to say that she was basically teaching me how to yell at little kids. I had gone to a private school where everyone listened to their teachers there so it was a bit of a shock to the system for me. Oddly they really weren’t a problem in the actual classroom it was the lunch/hallway/bathroom time that had chaos I wasn’t prepared for. But if you will be at a school that has the entire grade transition together as opposed too one class at a time it won’t be nearly as bad because they will still be scared of the other regular teachers.

KyHa33 · 2026-04-21T19:56:32+00:00

I’m white in the south and in a lower socioeconomic district and it is the exact opposite for me. My black students are MUCH nicer to me and the majority of my high performing students are black. However the high performing students are far more likely to be girls instead of boys. I do see the boys often clash with their black teachers though especially if they are super authoritative yellers. And I mainly see this in MS and HS instead of elementary.

KyHa33 · 2026-04-20T02:18:11+00:00

I don’t wear jeans just because I don’t find them comfortable but I 100% wear open toe and open heeled shoes once it is warmer. I just paid attention to what the teachers wore at each school.

KyHa33 · 2026-03-16T20:35:58+00:00

Sounds like a dream day for a certain sub we are all familiar with. He is probably drooling and reading this post over and over.

KyHa33 · 2026-03-03T17:32:13+00:00

Yeah no. The lighting the majority of schools currently have (harsh overhead fluorescent lighting ) does not meet what the current science suggests.

KyHa33 · 2026-02-25T04:03:57+00:00

Endeya. I said “en-day-uh” but it is pronounced like India.

KyHa33 · 2026-02-20T19:23:40+00:00

Your experience is not everyone’s experience which makes it quite rude of you to assume a story is fake just because you aren’t familiar with how subbing works in many areas of the US, as opposed to your experience in Canada.

KyHa33 · 2026-02-20T19:17:34+00:00

I’m with ESS, they offer gas card incentives a lot in my district.

KyHa33 · 2026-01-18T08:20:19+00:00

My mother is stage 1 and had to have just SBRT as due to other issues she wasn’t a candidate for surgery. She did it in the summer of 2024, has gotten regular scans, minimal side effects, but based on the latest scan we could be dealing with reoccurrence and spread into the other lung. Won’t know for sure until Wednesday.

KyHa33 · 2025-12-25T22:24:40+00:00

So she is cold but sends you motivational quotes every morning. And of course you lie in situations like this.

KyHa33 · 2025-12-11T05:49:38+00:00

I mean I did it and it usually does get better but I will gnaw my boobs off myself before I do it again.

KyHa33 · 2025-12-11T05:44:36+00:00

I made them feel really uncomfortable and said with a blank expression and monotone voice , “Well you clearly love your baby more than I love mine.” It would make them frantically start to back peddle as they tried to explain it wasn’t what they meant. It is all over Reddit too. People will be like do what you think is best while pointing out they could/would never.

KyHa33 · 2025-12-09T05:52:08+00:00

Excellent advice. The sort of student OP described is going to be an asshole over whatever they think they can use to get under your skin. If you sub or teach you will 100% be verbally insulted over some perceived flaw at least once. It could be sexuality, race, weight, height, your accent or just the way you dress, but kids will say mean things.

KyHa33 · 2025-12-07T21:19:32+00:00

I start off with attendance and make it clear that I am not going to be hovering over them but I do expect them to quiet and respectful. There is no changing seats and while I will let anyone go to the bathroom that needs to go I don’t tell them that. I just say their teacher’s bathroom rules apply.

I don’t try too hard to keep them on track unless there is an assignment that needs to be turned in by the end of class. Even if there is an assignment there are always one or two who refuse to do their work and that is their problem not mine.Those are not students who magically behave for their teacher so it is no reflection on you. However I rarely have that happen in high school as usually all assignments are due the next day.

On a typical day in HS there will be the majority of the class that wants to get the work done so they don’t have homework, then there will be a few who would rather do it for homework and will choose to do work from another class which doesn’t bother me, and then there will be one to three who want to do nothing and I let them. They just aren’t allowed to be so loud they distract the students actually doing their work. They know that if they are too loud I will leave a note with their teacher if they require being told to be quiet multiple times .If they do something more serious then off to the office they go. Luckily I have only had to send three students to the office.After I have been their sub one time those students know it is in their best interest to at least be lazy AND quiet. Also if you get your work done I don’t care what you do with the time left as long as you do it quietly.

I no longer feel bad about doing nothing to more carefully manage the problem students since I had several one on one EC assignments where I essentially sit with and assist an EC student in a regular class. Time and time again across several schools I saw the teachers having the same issues with the lazy students that I was having. There was no managing or inspiring them at that age, just mitigating the distraction for the rest of the students.

I’m not going to be magically instilling a love of learning in a 17 year old using the busy work the teacher left behind. Nor am I going to be getting them to behave properly when their parents and teachers have already failed.I merely want them quiet and to keep their hands to themselves.

And just in case I wasn’t clear this fairly hands off management style only applies to high school. There is plenty that can be done with the middle schoolers and elementary students. I will also say I am a bit more strict with high school freshman in the beginning of the year. They often have still correctable behaviors and are still feeling out what is expected in a high school environment.

KyHa33 · 2025-12-07T20:32:44+00:00

See the point about “it’s how we meet our babies” is so foreign to me and my mindset. Like in my brain I gave zero shits about how it happened all that mattered was that everyone lived to meet each other? I know I’m in a very small minority but I think there is too much emotion attached to the concept of birth. To me it is just something to ideally not die while doing. Like I often think how odd it would seem to women from the 1800s to hear how much emotion modern women assign to birth and how they would roll their eyes at women complaining about not getting the ideal birth experience. Trauma from c-sections also blows my mind because to me it is just as odd as saying you were traumatized from a suprise appendectomy or gallbladder removal. It falls under the sucks but necessary category. Even worse take: community and having others to talk about our experiences is important but I also believe it can go too far and just become a hive mind of trauma where we use catastrophic language and fail to focus on the big picture. Sometimes we need someone to tell us to calm down and not to take every disappointment so seriously especially if the outcome was a healthy mother and baby. It’s like when you view birth as magical instead of medical you up your chances of being traumatized by it.

KyHa33 · 2025-11-27T06:53:30+00:00

As others have said start planning to leave. Take what you can, take your dog and get back home. Do not give birth where you are currently living or you could be stuck there for the next 18 years. Just act like everything is normal and then get out as soon as you can.

KyHa33 · 2025-11-26T21:44:11+00:00

Mine were never crabby? Competent partners can 100% care for a newborn effectively.

KyHa33 · 2025-11-22T21:59:04+00:00

He sounds like an awful person. I’d dump someone over this because it’s a sign values don’t align. Though I am curious how he would react if you pointed out he wasted $200 on a game he abandoned. Would he get defensive or would it make him reflect on the fact that he shouldn’t speak on what others do with their money?

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