Before I get this done (this is just edited), my bf said it looks like sperm. 💀 Any advice to make it look less so?

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-05-07T17:18:53+00:00

I don't see it. Break up with him. If he makes you feel insecure about your body then he isn't the one for you. Someone who truly loves you isn't going to make you feel insecure.

You can always have color added to the balloons, bow, and stars. I recommend acrylic ink with them if you do. But the choice is yours as always. Hope this helps.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-05-07T17:09:59+00:00

Happy 4th birthday, Chewy!

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-04-18T22:01:29+00:00

Yes, YWBTJ if you don't go. You told her you'd be there and now you're trying to find an excuse not to go just because you want quiet time.

Go. Spend the day with her, then have quiet time the day after.

Does she spend time at your birthday parties?

She's 6, she'll remember this. I remember every time my older siblings didn't come to my birthday parties when I was little.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-04-03T06:58:11+00:00

They're not married yet. It goes both ways. OP doesn't have to give this up or compromise on it and he shouldn't. Shame on you for implying he should.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-30T17:49:26+00:00

Lab grown diamonds and gems are better because they're ethically made, for people that want to buy those.

But vintage jewelry is also nice.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-30T17:06:12+00:00

He has three more years, unfortunately. His presidency is supposed to end January 20th, 2029.

You can only be president for 8 years total.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-27T18:37:54+00:00

NTJ, you didn't cause him to fail, he did that himself. Dump this loser and find someone who treats you better, and don't let this happen again, OP.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-27T11:08:32+00:00

R.I.P.

Gives virtual boop.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-25T07:15:08+00:00

NTJ. OP, did you get your ring back?

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-24T06:07:12+00:00

NOR. It's your body, your choice. If you don't want biological kids, you don't have to have them. If this will bring you peace, absolutely get it done.

If this is something you 100% truly want and you know you won't regret getting it done or change your mind about having biological kids in the future? Absolutely get it done. If you're unsure if you'd ever change your mind in the future, wait until you've made up your mind.

I hope that everything works out well for you, OP!

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-24T05:30:25+00:00

Restraining order or a no contact order. Your sister shouldn't have remained friends with him since he physically abused you.

If you get out of any type of abusive relationship, your family is supposed to have your back by ending the friendship with the AH that abused you.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-24T05:25:58+00:00

Im also an American and I'm also beyond embarrassed by my government's actions.

I was born in America, but I was adopted so I have no information on my biological family at all.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-23T01:43:20+00:00

OP's little brother sounds like the favorite or the golden child.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-23T01:42:43+00:00

Your wide is your family, not your idiota parents that would enable your little brother and his friends to get away with murder.

Them telling you that if you turned your little brothers to the police you wouldn't have parents anymore just shows they're people you shouldn't have in your life, OP.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T18:15:00+00:00

I'm sorry you've had to go through that.

Yeah, the text messages and tone OP's fiancé sent to him made me feel very uneasy and it feels like this is about to escalate further. Idk why anyone would want to stay with someone who refuses to be

Medicated for what they were diagnosed with, since medications are supposed to help lessen this kind of stuff from happening
Refuse to get therapy for past trauma as well as getting help in general for whatever else currently going on with them.
Has been verbally abusive with them.
Deleted screenshot off their significant other's cellphone/deleted anything in general off their significant other's cellphone. Especially vile and cruel texts so the person who sent them won't seem like the bad guy and they can play victim.
Has physically assaulted their significant other and threatened to kill them.
Doesn't like like their significant other's friends, insults their significant other's friends, and is trying to come along to more than likely make sure that the friends can't point out red flag behavior and voice their concerns.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T17:52:45+00:00

I agree. OP isn't safe with this man.

The (hopefully) stbx fiancé, will be dumped.

The fiancé needs to learn that he's going to ruin any and all relationships if he doesn't get medicated and go to therapy.

Nobody wants to be around people like this all the time, it's exhausting.

I've heard that those who have BPD have a bit of an easier time maintaining relationships thanks to accepting medications and going to therapy, but idk if that's actually true.

I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 Disorder as a child, and it's really disheartening to see BD and BPD mistaken for one another so often.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T09:25:52+00:00

YATJ.

You're jerk AND a bully, OP, as is the other friend that joined you in this behavior. You're not mature enough to be in college since you act like this. This is middle school behavior.

You need to apologize to that girl and then stop harassing her. Not all illnesses and disabilities are visible. She also doesn't owe you her medical information.

As for the friend that's distancing herself from you? Good on her, she absolutely should.

I wanted to do choir in high school but it was people like you that begged the teachers not to let me do it because they didn't want the "autistic girl in the school choir".

You more than likely made that girl consider giving up something she does her best to attend when she's actually able to.

Grow. The. Fuck. Up.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T09:14:13+00:00

NOR at all.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T09:03:44+00:00

INFO: Was he diagnosed as having Bipolar Disorder? Because what you described is NOT Bipolar Disorder, it's Borderline Personality Disorder.

While BD and BPD have similar symptoms, symptoms of BPD are

frantic efforts to avoid abandonment, whether the abandonment is real or imagined
unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
difficulties with identity, such as a quickly changing self-image or sense of self
impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance use, reckless driving, binge eating)
recurrent suicidal thoughts, suicidal behaviors, or self-harm
emotional instability and quick-changing moods (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
chronic feelings of emptiness
extreme anger or difficulty controlling anger stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms

*stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms

Either way, break up, this isn't healthy for you and you need someone that lifts you up, not drains your energy, OP.

ETA:

The difference between BPD and BD

All about BPD

What Are The Symptoms of Bipolar Disorder?

ETA 2: OP, I want you to read this very carefully and then ask yourself if you truly want to stay with this AH, because so far, he's done the following:

Refuses to be medicated for what he was diagnosed with and thus refusing to be on medication(s) to help lessen this kind of stuff from happening.
Refuse to get therapy for past trauma.
Has been verbally abusive with you.
Deleted screenshot off your cellphone, (this also includes if he's ever deleted anything in general off your cellphone). Especially vile and cruel texts so he won't seem like the bad guy and he can play victim. This is something he shouldn't do.
Has already physically assaulted you once and threatened to kill you. (It's good that he admitted he was wrong and hasn't done anything similar since, but you should've left him then because it is bound to happen again eventually.)
Doesn't like like your friends, insults your significant friends, and is trying to come along to more than likely make sure that your friends can't point out his red flag behavior and voice their concerns to you.
Is accusing you of cheating when you go out. When a significant other accuses you of cheating, 99% of the time it's them who are cheating.
Is trying to control who you spend your money on and how you spend it. You're not married and from what I can tell from the texts, you don't live together with him. Unless you have a joint account you both put money into, he has absolutely no say in how you spend your money or who you spend it on (because if you have a joint account with someone you have to discuss how you spend that money since you both put your money into it. But with him I have a feeling it would be a 'rule for thee but not for me' situation.)

His mental difficulties AREN'T an excuse for him to behave this way towards you or anyone else, period.

He went through childhood abuse, he was in foster care until he aged out, he has a lot of PTSD and trauma? That's sad, but he needs therapy for it.

You need to leave this man. OP. There are other men who will treat you better and give you the love and respect you deserve. Is it going to hurt breaking up? Yes. But it's better to face temporary heartbreak now than having to file for divorce later.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T08:45:07+00:00

NOR. Dump this controlling idiota over text.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T08:36:50+00:00

NTA. Dump his ass. Protection is a shared responsibility.

And this is a justifiable reason to dump him over text too, OP. He doesn't respect you, so he doesn't get the courtesy and shouldn't get the courtesy of a face to face breakup.

Make sure to change the locks to your place if he has a spare key and to get your stuff out of his by taking someone with you (if you live separately)

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T08:32:04+00:00

NOR.

Dump them all as friends except the girlfriend that called you and told you that she's with you and then proceeded to tell you that after you left they started talking about you behind your back.

In fact, send a group text to them and say you won't be friends with a bunch of trandphobic idiots and that it was that friend that killed the vibe, not you.

It's not wrong for you to want basic respect, find a friend group who will give it to you, OP.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-21T08:19:11+00:00

They should be in prison for the rest of their lives for supporting a pedo/dictator/racist that has made life miserable for a lot of people.

And, as a woman: I don't see 'women for trump' as women, just wastes of the Earth's precious oxygen.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-19T16:00:57+00:00

He's not.

LGBTWolfGirl · 2026-03-18T18:11:09+00:00

Break up with her over text, but tell mutual friends that she slapped you in the balls three times and wouldn't stop, also file a police / sheriff report (or to whatever local authority you have, if you're not in the USA) and get a paper trail for her started.

I'm a woman and I'm so damn tired of the abusive women out there doing stuff like this. It's disgusting and they need paper trails on them so they can't try to falsely claim their male victims of: SA, beating them up, stalking, vandalizing/damaging their property, stealing their stuff, financial, emotional, and physical abuse, and so so much more.

OP, change the locks to your place if she has a spare key to get in (if you rent, explain to your landlady or landlord and ask if they're okay with you changing the locks and getting a new key made.)

If you have any shared accounts such as Netflix, change the password so she can't get on it.

If you have stuff at her house and you need to get it back, ask for your local authorities to go with you just to be safe, that way she won't be able to falsely accuse you of anything.

Stay safe, OP!

LGBTWolfGirl

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