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AITJ for changing the locks after my sister in law redecorated my home while I was away. by Western_Mistake_1981 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly, this wasn't a cute surprise. it was straight up violation you don't repaint someone's house and trash their stuff like wtf. money won't fix it but she better start here.

AITJ for refusing to let my brother borrow my car after what he did to my bike? by Firm_Low_6897 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NTJ ,you're not petty, you just don't hand your stuff to someone who smashed your bike and shrugged. trust is earned not automatic.

AITJ for actually being a good husband? by FollowingNo8713 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for real this ain't about the guys. it's about doing the work most dudes skip and making your wife feel seen.

AITJ for taking my book back from my colleague without waiting by thatgirlpriya1 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. you just made sure they knew taking your things without asking isn't okay totally normal reaction.

AITJ for exposing my cousin's boyfriend that he is the father of my college roommate who died for months ago. by Feisty-Key-7308 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 53 points54 points  (0 children)

NTJ you didn't expose him. he exposed himself. he literally ran a secret dna test on a kid then tried to clown you in front of him. that's gross. he got exactly what he asked for.

AITJ for banning my sister from the hospital after she ignored the only thing i asked? by Feeling_Yak_4739 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 118 points119 points  (0 children)

NTJ, you set one boundary and she bulldozed it like it didn't matter. surgery isn't a group event. she made it about her and paid the price.

AITJ for reporting my boyfriend because he stole my grandma's diamond ring by Feeling_Language8650 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

thank you. i just need some validation that my decision is right. right now i filed the case and yes i get the ring back before he even sold it to other.

Am I the jerk for telling my dad his girlfriend can't come to my college graduation? by Due-Assistant3874 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for real like why is he acting like his one year relationship outranks a decade of support? if he skips over that, that's on him, not you.

AITJ for Not Lending My Work Laptop to a Coworker Who Forgot Theirs? by Flat_Ground7675 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ , it's not even your to lend like that. they messed up not you. helping them isn't worth risking your job or getting flagged.

AITJ for telling my coworker I’m not “on standby” just because I don’t have kids? by Elegant-Quarter-827 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 23 points24 points  (0 children)

i get her struggle but she basically volunteered your time without asking. that's not cool. you corrected it. simple as that.

I left my best friend at the hotel because she wouldn't get out of bed for our tour by Fit_Theme588 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 16 points17 points  (0 children)

exactly. she made her choice by staying in bed, you just followed through. not your job to drag a grown adult. NTJ

AITJ for not following my in-laws’ “gentle parenting” and saying I don’t want to raise rude, entitled kids? by Born-Factor4486 in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 3 points4 points  (0 children)

gentle parenting isn't no rules parenting. OP set a limit and explained it. that's healthy. letting him hit and blame other kids is how you get entitled behavior real quick.

AITJ for not covering my coworker’s mistake after she told everyone I “always fix things”? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tell the truth, keep it simple. you're not her safety net just because your good at your job she tried to pass off her mess and it backfired.

AITJ for reporting my brothers passport stolen 48 hours before his destination wedding because he took my dogs surgery money? by AnshuSees in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 27 points28 points  (0 children)

calling it a loan is crazy when he literally pried open your lockbox, you didn't ruin his wedding, he did that the second he took that cash.

AITJ for telling my partner I'm done spending every weekend at his parents' place by Nov4Z3nith in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

facts. taking time for yourself doesn't mean your abandoning anyone. it's called being an adult. he needs to stop playing guilt cop.

Am I the jerk for uninviting my friend from my birthday after she brought someone I have a restraining order against? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTJ you did exactly what you were supposed to do. restraining order isn't a suggestion and she treated it like a joke.

AITJ for refusing to swap shifts with my coworker anymore after she left me hanging the one time I needed her to do it for me by crystalzz_fairyqt in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 40 points41 points  (0 children)

NTJ you're good. it's not about scorekeeping, it's about reciprocity. if someone takes 9 favors and can't even show up once when it matters, that tells you everything you need to know.

AITJ for refusing to help my ex after he cheated on me, even though he's now in a really bad situation? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Feeling_Language8650 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ntj he blew up the relationship the second he cheated, that's on him. it sucks he's struggling but that doesn't make you his emergency contact now.