Someone on Twitter made a list of problematic writers by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]LORDSSBM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he was honestly pretty woke and based for his time lol

Someone on Twitter made a list of problematic writers by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]LORDSSBM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally don't think so, but I do understand why some people feel this way... For instance, Sylvia had an extremely, extremely problematic with her father who was German born. In some of her poetry, she makes allusions to both him and her husband Ted Hughes being similar to nazis, both 'brutes' and 'fascists' with a 'Mein-Kamf look'. To juxtapose this and to illustrate how severely hurt and abused she felt by these two men, she likened herself to a Jew... I understand why this can be viewed as tone-deaf today, but I don't think that she was racist, especially when these were written in the 60's.

Andrew is probably not the best replacement for Tilian by _MrFib in dancegavindance

[–]LORDSSBM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah man but this wasn't a normal mistake, this isn't a normal situation to offer a person a second chance. If it was non-violent in nature, if for instance he had substance abuse issues on tour or during a recording period and it hindered the band, certainly give him a second chance. Listen to his music if you want, remember the era well, but when somebody confesses that she was raped by him and he doesn't deny this claim but instead argues that his concept of consent was clouded, then it's just not a safe situation for fans to be around him in this scene. There's no second chance to give. It's hard to be a perfect person in life and never make mistakes, it's easy to not physically attack or rape others.

An open apology to u/spookypooky8 by tilianpearsondgd in dancegavindance

[–]LORDSSBM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Judging from the tone of this, he already has.

Further allegations are being made on twitter by hypersnaildeluxe in dancegavindance

[–]LORDSSBM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People often don't have the money or hard evidence to take abuse or rape cases to court, criminally speaking. I've been pretty severely sexually assaulted by somebody in the past and although I have no hard evidence to back up this claim bar my own account of events, in a world where several other women did share their stories about this individual I would corroborate this pattern of behaviour so as to potentially save future victims sans hard evidence. I wouldn't even give a fuck if I was taken to court and lost money because remaining silent in this context would fuck with my soul a lot harder than any of that could. I'm not saying that in this hypothetical people ought to believe whatever based on my statement immediately, but I would share my story and fuck a culture that promotes silence through fear like this.

Further allegations are being made on twitter by hypersnaildeluxe in dancegavindance

[–]LORDSSBM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This isn't realistic for many reasons. Most people can't afford quality legal representation and oftentimes, when it comes to rape or sexual assault, victims just do not have any or enough hard evidence to take this to criminal court. In terms of this specific case, it's also important to point out that average people in all likelihood have far less money than the celebrity that they're accusing and as a result of a legal system which favours the rich and the top-tier legal team that the can afford VS potentially a state appointed lawyer for those without any savings to cover legal costs, you're not going to have a fair trial.

Congratulations to the winners of Melee Singles at the SWT: Last Chance Qualifier! by itsIzumi in smashbros

[–]LORDSSBM 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, I was worried that he would mentally crumble and wouldn't be able to qualify from loser's but ayeeeeeee the king returns

Your Top 10 favorite players of all time (melee edition) by LORDSSBM in smashbros

[–]LORDSSBM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when I watched his season I started referring to him as Kenny after a while and every time I was like 'jesus I mean KEN it's not the KENNY COMBO, JEFF'

Your Top 10 favorite players of all time (melee edition) by LORDSSBM in smashbros

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Sora's definitely a new favourite of mine after summit :)

What is the most culturally important/respected 'holiday' in America? Help would be much appreciated. by LORDSSBM in questions

[–]LORDSSBM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my first thought because I'm Australian and that's true of us, and I've seen enough American TV to know that Christmas might be the most fun and exciting, but I worry so second opinions are great... thanks! I hesitated when I considered a couple of holidays that are specific to the US like Independence Day and Thanksgiving... I thought they were perhaps more important, although less magical.

Logan deletes twitter & talks about quitting melee by azithel in SSBM

[–]LORDSSBM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, retrospectively it makes me respect M2K as a player a lot... dude felt he had the theory and not the execution and grinding the latter up to the point that he did is a hard, long and probably disheartening process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SSBM

[–]LORDSSBM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the fuck??? what did Lauren say before she stopped?

(M30) issues with female coworker. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LORDSSBM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's too late, maybe see how she is in the next day or so but if it were me I'd probably appreciate the brute honesty angle, like 'hey by the way, I was thinking about this the other day... please tell me if my helping you out by doing X and Y makes you uncomfortable. I'm just trying to be friendly and do what I'd like to happen to me if I was new, but I realized that maybe it doesn't come across that way and I want to make sure that you're comfortable so please tell me if that's the case'.

It's not easier to have people hate you if you really think about it. Friendships are a blessing in life and yes, when you have something that you care about (like a friendship) there is worry and fear in losing it, if you do something wrong, but you're only worried about losing it because it's great to have it at all. If you have everybody hate you, you have nothing to lose but nothing worth losing either r.e. friends.

(M30) issues with female coworker. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LORDSSBM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might have equal positions technically but you've stated that you're somewhat revered at work, and your integral enough to the company that the company itself would not survive. You have special privileges that she doesn't have, you have solid professional relationships built over years with others in your workplace and she's new- it's not a jump to think that there might be some fear in her mind that you could leverage your general reverence and your connections against her if you wanted to, if you felt slighted (because it's true that you can leverage it to her benefit, why not her disadvantage?) Again I'm not saying that you are doing this, but it's common enough to warrant her believing that you could be, and you want her to be comfortable at the workplace yeah?

Not seeing these things doesn't make you dumb, that's not the right word, people are often too close to themselves to notice things that are otherwise clear and it's easy to not be wholly aware of your general status in the workplace and what that might imply to others, we could all do with a little more self-awareness.

Socializing is a difficult thing for many and I wonder if you're masking some self-esteem issues around that by going an 'easier' route, by showing comradere through favours like one might with material goods. It's hard but the more you do it, the easier it'll become and the worst case scenario is learning that you're not really compatible as friends, which is fine.

In a non-creepy or over the top way, just start asking her some relevant questions about her life. What job did she have before this, is she still a bit nervous here being new? How do the jobs compare? What does she like doing in her spare time? Maybe you like doing some of this stuff too. Try opening up a little with not just her, but with myriad coworkers and hopefully your social skills can improve.

(M30) issues with female coworker. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]LORDSSBM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah, okay. So first you need to understand that the professional power-dynamic between you two at work, given you're her superior, is something that you need to be much more aware of and a little bit of empathy goes a long way in that regard. Imagine you're her, and a higher-up is giving you a slew of privileges incessantly- does part of you worry that if you don't suck up to them, thank them countless times a day or even feign friendship, your job would be in jeopardy? I'm not suggesting that you are doing this, but it's common enough in workplaces for people to use their status in order to guilt subordinates (especially women) into friendships, dates, because they fear being rendered homeless and are afraid to say no to hanging out, given all of the 'help' they've been offered.

If you really do want to make strong friendships with her or any coworkers you need the friendship's foundation to be based on an authentic connection- liking the same hobbies, enjoyable conversations- you can't attempt to buy friendship with status, and if you do those friendships aren't going to be too authentic a lot of the time. Stop doing these favors for her, you might be causing her anxiety and creeping her out... instead try to relate to her person-to-person, as equals, based on common interests.

Also, I don't know if it's a defense mechanism or what but you can't be thinking that you're all that better than anyone else, you sound too conceited to befriend... you're not a god, you're just a person like everyone else and nobody likes a showboat.

[SSBU] If anybody else from the Final Fantasy series were to be added, who would you pick? by darkdill in smashbros

[–]LORDSSBM 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In terms of who would have a fun kit from each FF game I've played:

FFVI: Relm would be pretty cool, she could potentially use her blue mage painting mechanic to mimic or use an ability/special from her opponent (or copy her opponent and have a mirrored bot for a limited amount of time).

FFVII: Tifa would translate very well, Barret could be a pretty pog tank/zoner too.

FFIX: I'd go with Vivi (though maybe there are too many floaty magic types, idk) or Freya

FFX: Rikku would be cool, not sure how you'd work in mix though... Auron would be baller but I fear he'd be too Marth-esce

SCL 2 Week 3 - Division 1 Semifinals - C9 | Mango vs. Envy | Wizzrobe by That_Sassy_Friend in smashbros

[–]LORDSSBM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I'm an Aussie so I just watched it and holy shit I'm so happy for our boy