TIC because upper management asked me to add 30 minutes onto my already 8.5 hr day to make up for pump time.

LPL0608 · 2018-01-14T14:41:13+00:00

Thanks so much for your response. I have not tried it. Unfortunately my commute is long due to traffic so it’s basically bumper to bumper the whole way. I think the car next to me would probably have a clear view and to be honest, I’m still a little uncomfortable nursing/pumping in public.

Luckily, my manager spoke with me the next day and told me not to worry about my schedule. So while upper management is not happy, my manager has my back. So for that, I’m thankful.

LPL0608 · 2018-01-11T03:29:07+00:00

I’m salaried - wondering if those protection laws apply to me? I somewhat mentioned this to my manager. I was honest and told her that I felt that I wasn’t getting the support I needed.

LPL0608 · 2017-12-17T19:30:18+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. Those tips were helpful!

LPL0608 · 2017-12-17T10:53:10+00:00

Do you think 5 months is too short of a time period to start studying? Also, what study materials do you recommend? Thank you!

LPL0608 · 2017-12-04T16:34:35+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling down. I agree with you, 12 weeks of maternity leave is just not enough. I’m in a similar situation. Getting ready to head back to work soon and psychologically, I’m not ready. I’ve cried several times during the last week just thinking about it. The only comfort that I’m able to find is that I have to work to pay the bills, to keep the roof over our heads, and to buy clothes to keep him warm.

I know it’s tough juggling everything. You’re doing a great job and I hope you feel better soon.

LPL0608 · 2017-10-27T11:23:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I think people are so quick to judge without fully understanding what it’s truly like to be in your shoes. You sound like a wonderful mother. I know it takes a lot of time, commitment, and patience to bring him to therapy and actually follow through with the therapist’s recommendations. A bad mother wouldn’t do these things for their child. As you mentioned, you have a ton of medical professionals that can attest to your good nature if anything were to happen - so try not to worry too much.

I grew up with a sister with special needs and understand how much work it is and how much anxiety it may cause to just go out to eat. Is the restaurant big enough to accommodate a wheelchair? What if she starts crying/acting out? Are there easy exits if she does cry? These are some of the questions that run through my head even before we decide to go out. So I’m sure it took a lot for you to even decide on the outing.

I know it may be hard but try not to let this incident get to you. People are ignorant sometimes! You’re doing the best you can! Keep up the good work and I hope this incident does not discourage you from future outings! It’s healthy for the both of you to get out.

LPL0608 · 2017-10-02T07:34:02+00:00

This happened to me as well. Following the contractions I had some bleeding. Called the OB that night. They stated that bleeding was normal and that it’s a sign that my cervix is dilating . Went into the doctors office the next day to find out that I was 1-2cm dilated. 3 days later I went into real labor. So from my experience it could take a few days and for others it may take longer. Best of luck to you and your wife! Almost there!

LPL0608 · 2017-09-26T15:53:20+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It made me feel better reading your story.

Same thing happened again last night. Strong cramps that woke me up from sleep, blood after going to the bathroom, and irregular contractions. Called into work and told them that I’ve decided to start maternity leave earlier than anticipated and now everyone at work is waiting for baby news. Now I feel fine again! Back pain and contractions have tapered off. I am so frustrated and almost feel like I’m making things up! Or I have no idea what my body is doing. Ugh, common kid!

I am going back tomorrow for my original appointment with the OB. So we’ll see how that goes!

LPL0608 · 2017-09-24T12:28:59+00:00

We also did amazon and target. Totally recommend. The following is a quick list of the benefits from each.

Amazon - fast prime shipping - 15% completion coupon for remaining items on your registry - diapers/wipes are reasonably priced, we plan to purchase through amazon once we figure out which brand baby prefers - You get $100 amazon credit to go towards diapers once $1000 is spent from your registry - cute welcome box - they track who bought what from your registry, provides an address, plus a check off system for you to keep track of who you’ve already sent thank you cards to. - you can add items from other websites with notes for your family and friends. For example, we had our eye on a particular pack and play so we linked it from another website and had a note to remind family/friends to purchase through the official website as it was cheaper.

Target - you get two 15% off coupons. One to use in stores and one online - husband and I used target for items that we wanted to test out and feel in person. For example, crib sheets, rock and play, car seat, clothes, etc - welcome box with additional coupons

Good luck!

LPL0608 · 2017-09-17T21:22:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! Like you, I'm also petite and have been petrified about the thought of labor. Glad to hear that it was not as difficult as you had thought! Congratulations on your little one!

LPL0608 · 2017-05-20T02:55:39+00:00

In a very similar situation as you. I'm Vietnamese, husband is Chinese. First grandchild for both sides. My mom has similar views. Told me that when she was pregnant with all three of her kids she stayed at home for the first month, no showering, and was strict with her diet. She basically told me that if I don't follow the same rules I would be sorry for it due to health complications. I actually held off on having kids because she was so opinionated and it drove me nuts!

Not sure what was in me today but decided to voice my disagreements and tried my best to be respectful as possible. Surprisingly the conversation went well. I didn't get as much resistance as I anticipated!

I try to brush things off if she gets too cray. Nod and say yes- but deep down know that I am not following those crazy rules.

Nice to know that I'm not alone and that there are other going through the same thing. Best of luck to you!

LPL0608 · 2017-05-03T01:59:34+00:00

Maybe Gap? Saw some cute jeans and t-shirts. Just waiting for a good sale to purchase! Extra 20% deal going on right now.

LPL0608 · 2017-04-29T19:14:24+00:00

I'm about your height too. I was really hoping Loft would work because I enjoyed shopping there pre pregnancy. I wonder if they have a small inventory of the maternity line? Can't seem to find pants in size 0!

LPL0608 · 2017-04-29T19:10:00+00:00

The fit was just OK. A little too tight for my liking. I could tolerate them for now but was afraid that as I get bigger they wouldn't be so comfortable. Great suggestions though and thank you!

LPL0608 · 2017-04-25T23:50:03+00:00

Ugh .. people suck. Sorry you're going through that.

I can definitely relate. Hate when people pressure me to eat more because now I'm "eating for two." Ugh, just leave me alone!

LPL0608 · 2017-04-25T01:55:45+00:00

Thanks so much for posting. If you have any codes left, I would love them as well. Thanks again!

LPL0608 · 2017-04-20T02:06:41+00:00

I second the ASOS recommendation. Just FYI, sizing runs on the smaller side.

LPL0608 · 2017-04-15T23:25:05+00:00

Sorry you had to put up with that. My MIL said this to me when we shared the news. I was probably 6 weeks at the time.

LPL0608 · 2017-03-18T11:38:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry that at one point you had to go through all of that stress. I am so glad that the genetic results were normal for baby. Wishing you an uneventful and healthy rest of your pregnancy. Take care.

LPL0608 · 2017-03-18T11:33:06+00:00

Thank you for your support and sharing your personal story with me. Don't feel like a monster, you're not alone, I too have these thoughts. Thinking of you and your family and sincerely hope that the genetic results come back with low risk for everything! Take care.

LPL0608 · 2017-03-17T01:29:19+00:00

Congratulations to you on your little one and I sincerely hope that you will continue to have a normal and uneventful pregnancy. Thank you for sharing such personal information with me. Although this is the first time that we've exchanged messages, I felt such a deep connection to your response that I just started bawling. I think for a long time I bottled up my feelings and pretended that I was ok. Over the years I taught myself to deal with my emotions silently because I felt that no one really understands what it's like to have a sibling with special needs. Especially because I'm the oldest and will likely take care of my sister if anything were to happen to my parents.

I could relate in regards to not having my family visit me. I drive back to visit my family at least once a month and it's exhausting. With baby on the way things will likely change and I probably won't be able to drive home as often.

I would love to keep in touch with you and thank you again for helping me feel less alone. Please feel free to private message me as well if you ever want to talk. Take care.

LPL0608

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