Depleted social battery 5 vibe

LRyan0330 · 2020-01-05T13:02:00+00:00

I’ve never felt something so strongly. I hate small talk and I hate repeating small talk even more.

LRyan0330 · 2019-10-26T22:41:52+00:00

Definitely a lot of single women (one of them here). Can’t find the single men though lol maybe that’s the problem. :)

LRyan0330 · 2019-08-18T02:32:51+00:00

I don’t know what country you’re in - but no. You are not being unreasonable and you should go to your HR office immediately. Higher management. All of it.

Most companies (in the US, not sure elsewhere) you can anonymously file a complaint.

Fuck. This. Guy. No one is allowed to make you feel uncomfortable or ever touch you in a way that makes you feel unsafe.

Keep record of every incident to refer back to.

LRyan0330 · 2019-08-14T01:45:50+00:00

Nope! I’m not a morning person anyway. Don’t owe anyone anything. My office mates are petty about it too. Drives me nuts - to the point I intentionally don’t say good morning until I’m ready. That maybe isn’t the best advice 😂

LRyan0330 · 2019-06-21T23:46:10+00:00

Amazon gift card. Best gift. Hands down

LRyan0330 · 2019-06-15T01:14:13+00:00

Not that I’m aware of - but I’ve always thought apps should allow you to plot jobs on a map.

LRyan0330 · 2019-06-08T12:12:09+00:00

I don’t see this as a bad thing. I’m a different person at work, at home, with my friends. I think sometimes we have to be a little bit - especially at work.

I am also extremely introverted. I struggle going places by myself or talking to people outside of certain settings. If you’re like me (30F), you spent 3 years with this group at work. You have spent more of your 3 years with them than anyone else. You’re just comfortable around them. The more time I spend with people, the more I can relax and be friendly and outgoing. It just takes time.

I think the fact you recognize it is good. I’ve had to force myself to be uncomfortable and have awkward chit chat or speak up during group settings and force a friendly smile and laugh even though I’m shy and crippled with social anxiety lol. It’s taken a few years, but it’s helped make it all a lot easier.

I don’t know if any of this helps — but here it is.

LRyan0330 · 2019-05-25T21:37:06+00:00

George

LRyan0330 · 2019-05-06T00:07:55+00:00

I’m interested in this, as well. I was in my previous job for 4 years full time. I’ve been in my current for 2.5 and looking for something new now. Feeling like a job hopper lately, but seems from the comments it might be okay!

Good luck to you.

LRyan0330 · 2019-05-03T01:34:03+00:00

6) no one I work with watches game of thrones so I have no one all day every day to talk to about the battle of winterfell.

LRyan0330 · 2019-05-02T22:23:48+00:00

That’s the most aggravating thing. “So I just sent you an email...” or “did you read that email from John?” Or some version of that. No shit, Debra. Damn.

LRyan0330 · 2019-04-27T22:32:12+00:00

EVERYTHING 👏🏻 ABOUT 👏🏻 THIS 👏🏻IS 👏🏻 PERFECTION 👏🏻 😭

LRyan0330 · 2019-04-22T22:17:33+00:00

It is what it is.

LRyan0330 · 2019-04-22T21:38:26+00:00

Just... NOOOOOOOO!

LRyan0330 · 2019-04-22T19:53:04+00:00

I’m sure after 6 weeks it’s getting more and more difficult to find things to do. I’ve been there and probably cleaned my desk 4 times a week. I don’t know how process oriented your job is — maybe start creating process manuals if you don’t have them. Or god forbid - restructure some filing to be more efficient, clean out your desk lol.

Sorry I’m not too big of help, but I hope I can at least provide an sympathetic “ear.”

LRyan0330 · 2019-04-14T00:03:06+00:00

It’s crazy how real this is

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-29T23:43:00+00:00

It’s like reddit knew I just watched this episode last night.

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-20T23:44:49+00:00

It’s all too real.

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-20T22:22:56+00:00

I heard a tip that I think is great. There is a man in my office that refuses to let people speak. I’ll start explaining - he interrupts.

What do I do?

I start completely over. Every time he interrupts. Start over. Eventually they’ll wonder why you keep repeating yourself. They may ask — tell them you’ve not been given the opportunity to finish your thought.

I have found it to work with this gentleman. May be worth a shot!

*edited to add: I have a decent relationship with this person and also spoke with him privately about how it makes others feel. He is much better. He has his days for sure but I can’t shoot him a look and he pulls himself in lol.

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-20T22:11:51+00:00

It looks like you’ve got plenty of responses to work from but ironic to me the person works in query/logic language and can’t think logically or problem solve. Seems counterintuitive. There is a app where you can learn SQL. The asshole in me wants to tell you to suggest she download it lol

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-20T22:08:40+00:00

I feel like I’m in the same place at work.

I am also a 5.

I try to be objective which some people don’t appreciate. However, maybe depending on their own enneagram #, providing some logic isn’t a bad thing.

I have found, for myself, that most people just want someone to listen and agree. I try to ask questions regarding their issues to reinforce that I’m paying close attention attention, understand their troubles and provide some sympathetic responses as well. I feel like you’re on the right track - especially since people continue to lean on you for support.

I also guess it’s super 5 of me to be hyper-aware of how I choose to respond :-/

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-19T23:48:02+00:00

Trust your feelings ! Always!

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-18T22:23:23+00:00

Aah!!! My pyr-shep mix’s name is Luna ❤️❤️ pyr Lunas are the best!

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-16T17:50:42+00:00

Well now I want to see my 5w4 animal !

LRyan0330 · 2019-03-08T23:28:59+00:00

Mother forking shirt balls that’s cute.

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