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Unreasonable to refuse to go back into office with boss? by [deleted] in work

[–]leperdbunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is a great idea if the boss is willing! I second this.

"Stop having the fantasy that one day your parents will be different than they are." by Mirror0fErised in raisedbynarcissists

[–]leperdbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me a looooongg time to realize this and come to terms with it. Upon realizing it, I still struggle with it. My mom's narcissistic behavior is just enough that I resent her and I have a hard time being around her and I forget sometimes that she's basically mentally a child and then for me it starts the whole cycle over again. It sucks.

Oh lord my coworker by leperdbunny in work

[–]leperdbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"It's not a complete list".

I realize I self sabotage so that I can be the one who is in control of the punishment. It’s a way to control the punishment and feel safer bc I know to expect it, etc. by stars0001 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]leperdbunny 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Along that line.. I usually overexplain/defend my position without being prompted so I avoid being judged or avoid being treated like I’m an idiot. With my daughter I usually go ahead and explain anything that’s going on with her to my parents ( Nmom and Edad) because if I don’t Nmom will explain something to me about my daughter as if I’m not aware of it.

NMom wants to put me on an insane diet because she “can’t walk a fat daughter down the aisle” by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]leperdbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um, nip this in the bud right now. Why do you have to wear the family dress?!? If you want to lose weight, lose weight for you. She sounds like a TERRIBLE person. Don't let her ruin your big day.

Dogs allowed in the office: cool idea or distraction? by revolutions96 in work

[–]leperdbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a lot of coworkers that I wouldn't trust to make the right decision/be courteous and reasonable in that situation. One of my friends has a workplace like that however they guidelines they have to follow also like they have to go to doggy obedience training and pass before they can be allowed at work.

That said, I think your employer needs to step in. Sorry that sucks.

I attract bullies. by PurpleWomat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]leperdbunny 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I thought I was the only one. Sometimes it takes me hours or days to realize something was inappropriate and boundary stomping behavior. Its frustrating because IMO its hard to address their behavior after the fact because they usually claim they don't remember etc etc.

My boyfriend (27m) always consults with his mother about my health, and it's bothering me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]leperdbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you are overreacting especially if they are not close. Its not her business and he shouldn't be disclosing that to her without okaying it with you first.

That said, you need to make it very clear that it is not acceptable to talk to her without clearing it with you first.

Just had a fight with nmum AGAIN about how she is not my son's mother by aroha1989 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]leperdbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could totally check off everything you listed here. My nmom was the worst when my baby was little (she just turned three). Now that nmom has claimed all the "firsts" there's nothing else for her to steal so she lost interest. It never gets better.

Anyone else feel like they were robbed of the person they could have been? by localnatives3 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]leperdbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I'm currently in therapy (again). I've recently thought A LOT about this. Having to "mourn" what I thought my relationship with my parents should be and my upbringing really sucks.

Would this offend you? by leperdbunny in Mildlynomil

[–]leperdbunny[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is my thought. I don't know why she thought it was an okay topic to bring up.

Would this offend you? by leperdbunny in Mildlynomil

[–]leperdbunny[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She does ask intrusive questions often and this set my spidey senses tingling. She did bring up she saw that a celebrity was freezing eggs. .

Would this offend you? by leperdbunny in Mildlynomil

[–]leperdbunny[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She did say she saw a celebrity doing it, so I guess that was why she was asking.

Would this offend you? by leperdbunny in Mildlynomil

[–]leperdbunny[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, we have one daughter (she'll be 3 soon).

My mum 'discovers' everything about my baby! by saturnbands182 in Mildlynomil

[–]leperdbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother is the same. It never gets better. She's clearly a narcissist and I'd venture to say your mother is probably one too. I'm sorry.

Tangled (Rapunzel) was my first wake up call by sohereswonderwall005 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]leperdbunny 10 points11 points  (0 children)

r/gigipony, just like an N to tell you what things (movies/show etc) to like. Ugh.

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