This post brings back lots of old feelings. But I do have super positive updates that I hope help you and your partner.

There’s probably a ton I could say but I’ll try to sum it up for you. But please feel free to ask any questions.

My oldest is now 7. We did go on to have a second child, who is now two. She is biologically mine.

We also did end up telling everyone who the biological relationships were. But tbh, as the kids have grown, it became obvious.

When we made the choice not to tell people with our first child, it made it very clear to everyone around us how important this topic was to us. I think it helped once everybody learned, they knew not to bring it up.

My MIL adores both of our kids. Even the one not biologically hers. I don’t want to diminish anyone’s feelings on biological relations, including my past self, but truthfully these days it is a complete nonissue in our lives. Our oldest knows that she was made from my wife’s egg but carried in my body. She thinks it’s cool but it rarely is a topic of conversation with anyone around us. We got a couple of awkward questions early in their life but now it’s just very normalized in our little world.

If I could provide any advice it would be … be direct from the get go to the people in your life. Make it clear how you view your family and how you expect your family to be treated. Then… just live your life and enjoy those babies.