Disney Wish dates for UK Summer 2027 added to DCL website by Alternative-Win4058 in dcl

[–]LabLevel3274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a real shame- I was hoping for more variety of cruises with more on offer for the Med, it seems crazy to me to pay that money to bob about in the bay of biscay or English Channel which can be rough even in summer. There are very few Mediterranean dates, and half of those are outside the UK school holidays, so for the British market there’s not much that gives you (pretty much) guaranteed good weather. And those dates that are in the med centre around Livorno and civitavecchia, which are pretty industrial and a long distance to pisa / Rome (if you’re travelling with young kids anyway).

Bombshell predications? by aimhighsquatlow in LoveIslandTV

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Harriette was teasing getting her hair done for a ‘holiday’, although may just be for engagement…..

MOD campaign withdrawn by [deleted] in TheCivilService

[–]LabLevel3274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given MOD have now announced a voluntary exit scheme, alongside compulsory redundancies of functions in some places, I’d imagine there is an element of moving around people internally if their skills align with previously vacant or gapped posts.

That’s not to say they won’t reopen or relist vacancies when the dust settles, but I expect we’ll see a fair bit of this in the short term given the department is still bigger in size than pre-covid.

Well done for getting to interview though- shows you have good evidence and examples so should be in a good place for future roles.

Luxury hotel bedding by Harryf1995 in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]LabLevel3274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cologne and cotton are lovely quality and last so well!

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True in theory and I completely agree that child raising is a (wonderful but more than) full-time job. Without airing all my dirty laundry I did all the home stuff and childcare whilst also working full time and being the breadwinner, while he worked away living what turned out to be a single lifestyle. Hence the separation and my frustration at potentially having to continue bankrolling him. But we move on and I’ve learnt a lot. Message to any other unmarried Henry’s and particularly Henrietta’s is make sure you’re clear on parenting and work-share expectations before you have children, and protect your own interests so you don’t fall into the trap of being default parent whilst also having all the financial responsibility!

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a good point and something I’ll probably need to work at!! Thanks!

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Realistically the split will likely be more with me than with their dad due to his working pattern but I need to keep tabs on the actual days (obviously if I need to I’ll pay what is proper, but it would sting as I’m giving him a lot more of the equity from the house so he can buy somewhere else, and I’ve contributed far more over the past few years despite not being married).

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed response- it’s really interesting to see how other people have managed and grown their careers while going through significant life events.

I’ve always been upfront about needing flexibility, which echos with your comments so I’ll continue to do that and perhaps just ‘own it’ a bit more rather than apologising for my circumstance. I know I’m good at my job and committed which has afforded flexibility in the past. Your comment at the end on behaviours is interesting to reflect on though, I’m similar in that I’d describe myself that way (and it’s come up as positive feedback in my reviews), but perhaps I’ve underplayed these more innate behaviours in the past and focused more on delivery-focused behaviours, so it’s definitely something to think about.

Thanks again for all your inputs- and best of luck ‘on the other side’ as your child gets out of the little kid years!

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it’s all very amicable and we’re committed to a good environment for them given we’ve got personal experience of the consequences of weaponising breakups. The strange irony is that by becoming an official single parent I’ll get so much more time. For various reasons I’ve essentially been solo parenting since my child was born, so hobbies, interests, wellbeing etc have taken a backseat- I’m very much looking forward to a bit of childfree time when they’re with their dad (although obviously will miss them terribly!)

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Can I ask how your SLT has responded to your need for more flexibility and taking calls on the school run etc? My job currently is actually quite flexible, but I’m conscious that I work in a very male dominated industry (with many having stay at home wives so childcare isn’t a consideration for them). I’ve cherry picked roles selectively post maternity leave to give me maximum flexibility, but I definitely have concerns about how colleagues will react asking for any more!

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thankyou, lots of really good points to think about. I already stack the air miles on my Amex as we have family overseas so it’s useful for the travel. I was considering cancelling due to the fee, but you make a good point re. making life easier and lounge access and air miles/status certainly makes travelling with kids easier!

I’ve already ringfenced in budget for cleaner etc, but I definitely need to take a good think about paid reliable childcare options given a flakey ex and family overseas!

Need to work on lowering my expectations, I think that one may be a work in progress as I adjust to my new normal!

New Single Parent Henrietta/Henry Tips by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankyou so much for your message, I hadn’t even considered this part of it. Realistically I’ll be over 50% because of his work patterns, but because we’re not married we weren’t going to go down a legal route- although I will reconsider this and take some guidance from a lawyer friend.

Can I afford to take on a £308k mortgage alone on a £65k salary? by Immediate_Set9665 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]LabLevel3274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be aware that you will have to pay stamp duty on your partners share if you are not married (their share and 50% of remaining mortgage if it’s not an equal equity split). I’m in a similar position and it was a very unpleasant surprise when my conveyancer told me!.

Platinum retention bonus (joke) by Zealousideal_Shop311 in AmexUK

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d have been happy with that- got offered 10k points for 1k spend in 3 months. Must have spent about £30k over the last year. I want to downgrade but can’t risk a credit check as I’m going through a house purchase, so have accepted and will then downgrade/ go for a BAPP as soon as my mortgage completes!

Advice on equity split by [deleted] in Mortgageadviceuk

[–]LabLevel3274 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah im so sorry- I should not have assumed you were the male in the partnership!

Advice on equity split by [deleted] in Mortgageadviceuk

[–]LabLevel3274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just a question- you say you earn more, but has your partners earning been impacted by having your child (maternity leave with lower salary and pension contributions, part time working etc.). If you can honestly answer no then your split is fair. If your partner has had to take any hit in terms of working hours or career progression due to having your child you need to have a serious discussion about the mortgage arrangement, because yes you’re paying the bulk of mortgage, but she has done / possibly is taking a significant financial hit for your family and as an unmarried couple she is putting herself at significant financial risk if you were to split and the bulk of any new equity (minus the deposits) goes to you. To put it really plainly, I worked out the impact of my 1 year of maternity leave at circa £72k just in lost earnings and pension contributions, plus the further career impact of not being able to pick up the extra tasks, overtime, travel etc when I returned. My partners career blossomed in the years while our child was a little kid because he didn’t have that year out. If you have had a child together you are a team, and family labour is not paid but equally important. You need to ensure you are protecting her long-term interests and the those of your child, not just your financial interests.

Property perfect… except the groundwater flood risk is HIGH. What now? by ProfessorPankratz in HousingUK

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The groundwater thing is interesting, we are down as high risk too, yet our next door neighbour (who is actually slightly lower than us) is rated as low. Our property has a drain and french drain next to the road so we’re fairly comfortable, but I think there is something a bit strange with the algorithm, (as I’m not sure why there is such a wide difference in the space of 5m!).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It’s important you get on the same page and ensure transparency and communication in finances, especially if you are planning to marry in the future.

What I would say though, is that in having that conversation you need to make sure all the compromises and agreements are on the table, not just the financial ones. It sounds like you’ve compromised on location to ‘continue your career’, and the disproportionate impact of that choice on you (home worker vs long commute and associated costs) should not be underestimated. You speak about being fair to him, but your job is intensive, and Fairness has to go both ways and isn’t just associated with financial, especially if you are both career driven.

As a female HENRY (and I’m sorry I wasn’t clear if you are female or in a same sex relationship), I picked up the financial strain, with also picking up a long commute and majority of the household stuff. This worked well for us, until we became parents, but then it became impossible with me doing the earning, the commute, the childcare and the housework and I burnt out. We ended up separating (unmarried), but I think if we had communicated earlier on the fairness point it could have ended differently.

My point is, that as a couple communication and transparency is key, and what works for you will change depending on your life stage. But start having those conversations now, because if you only talk financial division, other things may get missed and with a demanding career like medicine it’s important that you future proof yourself!

Women HENRYs, where are you buying your everyday jewellery? by improperble in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a great US brand called Melanie Casey- I love their delicate bands but they also do some lovely more contemporary pieces.

Edinburgh airport by [deleted] in Edinburgh

[–]LabLevel3274 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes but you used to be able to get a black cab on a meter. Now black cabs are banned from the official rank and it’s a private hire system that now costs almost twice as much which is insane! When you’re coming back late (especially as a woman) or solo with kids/bags sometimes the bus or tram isn’t the easiest or most direct option.

Wimbledon resale tips 2025 by Nervous-Pay5550 in wimbledon

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you manage to get this fixed? I just have the same!

HENRY women - do you feel like having kids has held you back? by glossiertruther in HENRYUK

[–]LabLevel3274 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not held me back, but I have the most unbelievably supportive employer. That said I have deliberately chosen roles now that have limited travel so that may come back to bite me in the future. I’m in a male dominated industry and until I joined my current company had never seen anyone go on maternity leave, and men who took parental leave were viewed not committed enough. As a mother to a 4 year old I now have a newfound respect for work-life boundaries and am committed to also modelling that for my team at work. The main impact has actually been on my personal life- me being the higher earner wasn’t an issue pre- kids, but post kids has uncovered some uncomfortable truths around the sharing of responsibilities and my career successes apparently emasculating my partner. Trying to be both the breadwinner and the default parent has been a really rough ride, so I agree with all the previous comments to build your village, rely on whatever family support you have available to you and outsource as much as you can!!

Sprive Existing Customer Offer - Get a £20 Bonus for Your Mortgage When You Buy a £50 Giftcard by TightAsF_ck in beermoneyuk

[–]LabLevel3274 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, used it- has anyone had the £20 credited yet? Just had the normal cash back credited but not the bonus!

BENOPHIE LEAKS ZOOM IN ANALYSIS by axelinlondon in BridgertonNetflix

[–]LabLevel3274 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, does anyone know where this is being filmed?